Fundraising for World Suicide Prevention Day

Tomorrow is World Suicide Prevention Day. Every day we work with people who are feeling desperate and contemplating suicide. We also support those left behind, bereaved by suicide.
We have no funding for this support work so have to raise the vital funds to save lives and ease suffering.

If you believe in what we do, please support our annual fundraising efforts. Raffle tickets are on sale now here

‘Losing someone to suicide’ – my story.

‘Losing someone to suicide’ – my story.

Recently I have been writing a plethora of blog posts- posts about the work that we do at harmless and the tomorrow project or about my perspectives on stigma and mental health.

I encourage people to tell their stories in order to reach others. This is a piece of my story.

When I was in my twenties, I had a range of difficult experiences that brought me into contact with mental health services; something I often talk about.

Rarely do I talk of the people who I met along that journey, or ever, of one particular friend who, in 2011 ended her life. Suicide was her last chapter.

The friend, who I will call Jenny, played a huge part in my life, especially when I was at my lowest. She understood the dark place that I found myself, and self harm. When I couldn’t sleep, she was on the end of the phone and vice versa. We spent countless hours together, passing the time together, each in our own depressions.

Jenny was bright and kind, but also deeply troubled. She had seen ugliness in the world and felt changed by it. For a couple of years, Jenny and I travelled side by side, our perspectives similar.

Our lives began to diverge when I started to lift myself from that difficult place. I made a range of different choices and took different steps towards regaining control over my life; I somehow managed to find a foothold on my life where Jenny didn’t. I managed to find the right help and above all, a little hope. I wasn’t able to give that to her- she couldn’t see it or feel it at that time, nor did she find it in the years that followed.

I kept going, and we saw less and less of each other. Self harm had become her life, depression her way of being and mental health services were now her ‘family’; these are difficult places to travel from in a world that envelopes you. If we’re not careful, it becomes you. It simultaneously tells you that it will take responsibility for you when you are unable and that you should learn to cope alone. It comforts you, whilst blaming you and when you’re isolated and alone, with all it’s faults and inconsistencies, it is still there.

The last time I heard from Jenny was in November, 2011, shortly before her suicide. She had contacted me to wish me congratulations on the birth of my son. Our lives, now completely incomparable- (me, a therapist, recovered and with a family of my own and Jenny still struggling with her own existence) still shared that common history and care for each other.

On Boxing Day, that year, I took the call that i had always dreaded- she had taken her life. I sat amongst family, celebrating Christmas and felt utter devastation.

I had to walk a different path from Jenny in order to live the life that I have now. I wish she had walked with me.

She didn’t.

I will always be full of sorrow and regret over that.

At harmless and the tomorrow project I provide a range of services that aim to reach people at risk of suicide. I only wish Jenny had been able to get some of that help- it came too late for her.

Losing someone, whoever that is, to suicide, is devastating. My head still plays tricks on me; I think I’ve seen her in the supermarket, or forget that she’s gone. I still have her last text on my phone. I think about how she died and it haunts me.

At least I get to try and change the outcome for others- our service reaches people that self harm, we find people that are thinking about suicide, and we help them to turn things around.

And that’s some comfort.

I don’t ever want to take another call like that but every day someone else has to.

Win a Holiday in Spain – Enter our raffle

We’ve had some exciting new prizes added to our raffle!

How would you like to win a week’s holiday in a luxury apartment in Benalmadena, Spain? The apartment sleeps 4, in a leisure complex with a pool, just a short drive from Malaga Airport. (Exclusions may apply)

Buy a ticket for our raffle, to be drawn at our Celebration Event on Friday 10th October 2014.

Tickets are £1 each and all the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services about self harm including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm, their friends and families and professionals.

To buy one ticket (£1) – please click here

To buy five tickets (£5) – please click here

To buy ten tickets (£10) – please click here

To buy twenty tickets (£20) – please click here

Alternatively, you can buy tickets by emailing info@harmless.org.uk.

Other prizes include:

Nintendo Wii and Wii Sports Resort Bundle

Vouchers for The Pudding Pantry

Theatre Tickets for Nottingham Playhouse

Centre Parcs Vouchers

Broadway Cinema Tickets

Wall Clock

Cake Maker

Panto Tickets – Snow White

Walky talkies

Picnic Basket

Thorntons Gifts

And many more to follow….

Terms and conditions of raffle available on request – You must be 16 or over to buy a raffle ticket.

Free Suicide Prevention Workshops – 10th September 2014

To mark Suicide Prevention Day on 10th September 2014, Harmless and the Tomorrow Project will be holding 2 free suicide prevention workshops. This will be a chance for you to find out about the work Harmless and the Tomorrow Project do and will provide the opportunity to start discussions around suicide prevention.

The workshop will include:

  • Raising the awareness of suicide
  • Understanding suicide and the impacts
  • Myths and Misconseptions
  • What can be done to help and support someone
  • Group discussion and activities throughout

Venue

The training shall be held at NCVS, Mansfield Road, Nottingham. NG1 3FB.

Morning Workshop: 10:00am – 11:30am

Midday Workshop 12:00pm – 13:30pm

Booking

As this is a free workshop, we are only accepting bookings via our online shop.

Places are very limited and as a result, if you do not book you will be unable to attend our workshop.

Booking should be made in the name of the person attending the course.

No more than 2 places per organisation.

If you unable to attend the workshop after a booking has been placed, please contact us at the earliest opportunity by emailing training@harmless.org.uk

Click here to book your place

Fancy winning some fantastic prizes and at the same time help support our self harm services?

 

Fancy winning a voucher for The Pudding Pantry? Snow White Panto Tickets? Or theatre tickets for Nottingham Playhouse? And help save lives at the same time? Then why not buy a raffle ticket….

Tickets are £1 each and all the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services about self harm including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm, their friends and families and professionals.

To buy one ticket (£1) – please click here

To buy five tickets (£5) – please click here

To buy ten tickets (£10) – please click here

To buy twenty tickets (£20) – please click here

Alternatively, you can buy tickets by emailing info@harmless.org.uk. The draw will take place on October 10th 2014 and all winners will be notified within two weeks. Please make sure you include a phone number and email address so that we can contact you if you win.

Thank you for your support and good luck!  

Prizes include:

Vouchers for The Pudding Pantry

Theatre Tickets for Nottingham Playhouse

Centre Parcs Vouchers

Broadway Cinema Tickets

Wall Clock

Cake Maker

Panto Tickets – Snow White

Walky talkies

Picnic Basket

Thorntons Gifts

And many more to follow….

Terms and conditions of raffle available on request – You must be 16 or over to buy a raffle ticket.