Shaking off the negativity…

At Harmless we are all about promoting hope, recovery and positivity. However, during my time here I have noticed that negativity starts even when I tell a stranger my job role.

I have found many people don’t know how to respond to my job role and it normally creates one of two reactions. Mainly people become uncomfortable and feel the need to change the subject but also sometimes it can start a conversation similar to 101 questions. It’s not uncommon for me to hear responses such as…

“Well…good for you.”

Or…

“Gosh that must be depressing!”

and…

“I don’t know how you do that!”

 

The thing is my job isn’t depressing, it isn’t all doom and gloom. The problem is when you mention topics like Self harm, Suicide and Mental health the stigma attached to them holds such a negative picture.

There is a really wise saying…

“Some people grumble that roses have thorns; I am grateful that thorns have roses.”
– Alphonse Karr

It is all about the point of view, some people see the positive in a situation and others see the negative. For the majority of us negativity is often the first ‘go to’ in any situation. However, the problem is if we are always seeing the glass as half empty how will ever help others to see it as half full?

I don’t see my job as a chore, I don’t see it as a burden. My job brings hope, hope for something more, hope for something better. When someone is diagnosed with cancer we feel bad about it, sure, but we also embed hope. Why can’t this be the same for someone who self harms or for someone with a mental health condition?  Negativity only reinforces stigma positivity promotes hope, it provides options.

So next time you hear about Self harm, Suicide or Mental Health shake off your negativity and remember it isn’t all doom and gloom recovery is possible, hope is possible, there are options!

In the News: Acne and exam stress among factors leading young people to suicide, study finds.

Exam stress, acne and asthma are among the anxieties affecting children and young people who kill themselves, according to the first ever detailed national investigation of these cases.

Between January 2014 and April 2015, there were 145 suicides in England by children and young people aged 10 to 19. An inquiry looking at 130 of the cases has found some common factors, or “antecedents”, which the researchers hope may help families, friends, teachers or others to become aware that a child is struggling.

More than half (54%) of the 130 had self-harmed and 27% had expressed suicidal ideas in the week before they died, while in 16 cases (12%), they had searched online for information on it. But 43% had not been in contact with the health service or any other agency.

More than a third (36%) had sought help for some sort of medical condition, the most common being acne and asthma, while 27% were dealing with academic pressures, says the report.

Of the 20 young people facing current or pending exams or awaiting results, 11 were known to be stressed by their exams and four died on the day of an exam or the day after.

More than a quarter of the young people (28%) had recently experienced the death of somebody close to them, and six had lost more than one. Nine had lost a parent, while 17 (13%) had experienced the suicide of either somebody in their family or a friend.

More than a fifth (22%) had been bullied in previous months, mostly face to face (93%). Eight had been targeted by online bullying – as well as face to face or instead of it. Mostly the bullying had occurred more than three months before the person died, but in eight cases it was more recent.

To read the full article, please click the following link:

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/may/25/acne-and-exam-stress-among-factors-leading-young-people-to-suicide-study-finds

The Tomorrow Project shortlisted for a BBC Radio 4 All in the Mind Award

The Tomorrow Project has been shortlisted for a BBC Radio 4 All in the Mind Award. We have been nominated for our work in suicide prevention within the community. From a total of 300 nominations in our category we have been shortlisted as one of the top 3. The winner of the awards will be announced on 27th June 2016 at an event in London.

As part of our nomination, we will be broadcast on BBC’s Radio 4 tonight (24th May 2016) from 9pm, where we will be discussing the vital role we provide in the community in helping to save lives.

Make sure you tune in to the All in the Mind Programme from 9pm.

To listen to the broadcast, click the following link: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07bzdjy

Or tune into BBC Radio 4 on 92-95fm.

Harmless’ Range of Resources Around Self Harm are Available to Purchase on Our Online Store

Harmless offer a range of helpful and supportive resources for people who self harm, their families, friends, carers and professionals. These resources can be used to raise awareness, provide insight, promote recovery and help people move forward with their lives. All of the money we raise through the sales of our resources goes directly towards helping us continue delivering our vital services.

Out of Harm’s Way: Harmless DVD

Out of Harm’s Way is a DVD is a resource that can be used by people that self harm, to promote recovery and self belief. It can also be used by professionals or carers to enhance understanding, empathy and strategies that are helpful when supporting people that self harm.

Through the eyes of those with first hand experience, we will examine the nature of self harm, distress, and recovery.

“This DVD has helped me so much. I have struggled to understand my son’s self harm but even this short trailer has given me more empathy and willingness to understand. For the first time – something hopeful about self harm!”

In the DVD, we speak to Jenny, Mark, Fiona and Satveer who have personal experience of self harm and whose courage in speaking out has enabled them to discuss their experiences on film.

In Our Own Word’s Book

In Our Own Words’ aims to promote insight and understanding of self harm. The book contains words and images that have been generated by people whose lives have been touched by self harm; through personal experiences, or by knowing and working with those who have struggled.

In spring 2009 Harmless recruited a team who formed the editorial group for this project. These people had their own stories relating to self harm and were brought together to shape the journey of this book. This was an exercise to create a book that would be useful and inspiring, challenging stigmas and stereotypes. It also provided an opportunity for those who have had their own personal battles to be involved in a project that could change perceptions and reach out to others.

Harmless Workbook

Harmless have developed this workbook in collaboration with service users, therapists and the Institute of Mental Health to provide a tool that can be used to promote recovery and self reflection amongst people that self harm. The workbook provides a series of activities to work through to help the individual to start to reflect upon their ways of coping, and to begin to manage these differently.

The workbook is not a substitute for counselling or therapy, but it is designed to help naturally promote some of the insight that can be helpful to help people move forwards in their life. The belief behind the book is that by promoting awareness, insight and resilience amongst people that self harm, they can start to cope differently, or feel better.

Self Harm Policy Guidance

The purpose of a policy on self harm should be to uphold best practice in relation to self harm, and define clearly the interventions and steps that should be taken to support a young person that is self harm. The policy should inform the staff of what is expected of them, and be a document that helps staff to contain and respond to a situation fairly and responsibly with the best interests of the young person, in mind.

If you would like more information, or to buy any of our products, you can do so by visiting our online shop:http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/

Alternatively you can contact a member of the team by calling us on 0115 934 8445 or emailing info@harmless.org.uk.

Harmless training…

As a Specialist Trainer for Harmless and a passionate supporter of personal growth I am consistently promoting and endorsing the importance of training. Learning and development is a vital part to any organisation however, training takes both time and money resulting in excuses like, “We are too busy to learn something new right now.” Or, “We just don’t have the money to pay for training.” Another reason why organisations often neglect training employees is because of past training experiences. Perhaps training was delivered poorly, or the topics just didn’t help. As a result organisations often don’t want to take future risks.

However, not training your employees also comes at a cost. Here are six reasons untrained employees can end up costing you more than trained ones.

1)   Untrained employees mean unhappy employees

2)   Untrained workers have a low production value

3)   Untrained workers are inefficient

4)   Lost time or money due to mistakes

5)   An increase in miscellaneous expenses (due to mistakes)

6)   Lost customers/clientele

Having a trained workforce means your workers are learning new skills that can enhance working practice, cut time spent in creation of your product (or service), reduce production costs, reduce mistakes, build confidence in your workforce, and create a better working environment. An investment in your employees’ skill sets is an investment in your company. When everyone gets better, everyone gets better.

Let’s Talk Training is the training operating arm of Harmless and out ethos is to work in partnership with your organisation to deliver bespoke packages to a high standard. We want to equip everyone with the skill and confidence to respond to someone in distress. Speak to a member of our training team for more details at training@harmless.org.uk

Or why not book onto our next in house training…

22nd June Full day course: Adult focused Introductory session to Self harm

Get you tickets to our annual celebration event, Friday 7th October 2016!

We invite you to join us in an evening of celebration

Friday 7th October 2016

Harmless' Annual Celebration Event -  Friday 7th October 2016

To book your place, please follow this link:

http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/Harmless-Celebration-2016

 The Venue:

Park Plaza Hotel, 41 Maid Marian Way, Nottingham, NG1 6GD

The Date:

Friday 7th October 2015

The Time(s):

7:00pm

The Cost:

£37.00 per head

The Event:

Three course meal with raffle, silent auction, games and live entertainment

Dress Code:

Smart

The purpose:

To raise enough money to save more lives.

Menu

Starters:

Roast Vegetable Soup with Garlic Croutons. (v)

Parma Ham and Mozzarella Fig Wrap with a Raspberry Vinigarette.

Goats Cheese, Walnut & Apricot Fritter with Tomato and Rocket Salad and a Sherry Balsamic Dressing. (v)

Mains:

Roast Chicken Breast with Fondant Potato, Wild Mushroom Spinach Sauce.

Poached Scottish Salmon, Grilled Asparagus, New Potatoes, Lemon Hollandaise.

Brocolli Wellington, Seasonal Vegetables and Fondant Potato. (v)

Deserts: 

Double Chocolate Cheesecake with Cream.

Raspberry and Vanilla Creme Brulee with Lemon Sorbet. (v)

Exotic Fruit Platter served with Raspberry Sorbet. (v)

Harmless is an award winning self harm and suicide prevention project that has been successfully delivering services since 2007. Over the past year Harmless has gone from strength to strength. We’ve increased our partnerships and been involved in more research based projects, attended and presented at conferences all over the UK in addition to holding a National conference of our own. We have also rebranded and extended our training programme to raise awareness of self harm, mental health & suicide amongst the community and professionals. We have received awards for our work and recruited more staff in order to help more people.

Our wonderful Tomorrow Project continues to deliver suicide prevention and postvention work in the community. We work with those directly and indirectly affected by suicide, provide facilitative support to individuals and organisations with questions and concerns about suicide, deliver workshop style information sessions to improve understanding and awareness of suicide and self harm, and promote help seeking in the community as a whole.

The celebration evening will mark a milestone in our work and give us the opportunity to raise revenue to keep our vital services afloat. Each year we spend time with friends and colleagues, celebrating the work that we have done and the lives that we have saved and the money we raise on the night goes directly back into our life saving services.

Please come along and join is in what will be a wonderful night, learn more about our work, celebrate our triumphs and help us to raise money to keep us driving services in the field of self harm and suicide prevention forwards.

To book tickets please click this link: http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/Harmless-Celebration-2016

 For more information about our event, please email info@harmless.org.uk.

In the News: ONS includes deaths of children under 15 for first time in its suicide figures, which also show rise in female suicides in England

Nearly 100 children aged 10 to 14 killed themselves in the UK in the past decade, according to figures from the Office for National Statistics (ONS).

Charities said the numbers were a “national scandal”. The records show 98 children under 15 killed themselves in the UK from 2005 to 2014, 59 boys and 39 girls.

For the first time the ONS included in its research on UK suicides the deaths from intentional self-harm of 10- to 14-year-old children as well as those of people aged 15 and over. Children under 10 are not recognised in suicide figures and therefore not included.

Ged Flynn, the chief executive of the charity Papyrus, which is dedicated to the prevention of suicide among young people, told the Press Association: “We have ‘hidden’ the fact that children and young people die this way because it is so flipping painful for us.

“It is painful and toxic to think about it, so we hide it and hope it goes away. Today we can see it is not going away. It is a national scandal and we have to talk about it.”

He said experts had known for some time that depression started for some at an early age, and there were a “plethora of reasons” why children took their own lives. He said children felt “trapped or ashamed” by whatever was driving their suicidal thoughts.

The NSPCC confirmed there had been a rise in children seeking its help. “Our ChildLine service has seen a huge increase in calls from desperately unhappy children,” a spokesperson said. “Last year more than half of the young people we referred to other agencies were suicidal.”

For the full story follow the link;

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/feb/04/female-suicide-rate-in-england-highest-for-a-decade-in-2014-figures-reveal

 

Upcoming Harmless Self Harm Drop-in Sessions

Our sessions are friendly and welcoming. We create a relaxed atmosphere with approachable staff who provide important information explaining how our service can support you, your friends and family or a colleague. We can offer information or advice about any concerns you may have around self harm.

You will have the opportunity to meet Val, our experienced and qualified therapist, and Colin, our experienced and friendly Project Worker.

Drop-ins will take place at the following times:

17/05/16 Young Person drop-in (11-21yrs) 4:30pm to 5:30pm.

26/05/16 Adult drop-in (18+yrs) 1:00pm to 2:00pm.

02/06/16 Young Person drop-in (11-21yrs) 4:30pm to 5:30pm.

16/06/16 Adult drop-in (18+yrs) 2:00pm to 3:00pm.

22/06/16 Young Person drop-in (11-21yrs) 4:30pm to 5:30pm.

All drop-in sessions will take place at:

Nottingham Community and Voluntary Service Building,
7 Mansfield Road,
Nottingham,
NG1 3FB
(Opposite House of Fraser)

To speak to our friendly team:

Phone: 0115 934 8445
Email: info@harmless.org.uk

Upcoming FREE mental health workshops

As part of the Wellness in Mind Programme, Harmless are running a number of free workshops for individuals that live or work in Nottingham City. These workshops have been commissioned by Nottingham City Council and CCG.

The workshops include;

MHFA Lite

Wednesday 11th May 2016

9:30pm -12:30pm

MHFA Lite is an introductory mental health awareness course. You’ll receive a MHFA Lite manual that you can take away with you at the end of the session and also an attendance certificate from MHFA England

Mental Health Community Workshop – Carers and Citizens

Friday 13th May 2016

 1:30pm – 3:30pm

These workshops will focus on how to promote resilience and wellbeing in the community through building of awareness and resilience amongst citizens and carers

A drop in session will be held after the Community Workshop

Mental Health Awareness Training for Frontline Workers

Wednesday 15th June 2016

 1:30pm – 5:00pm

This workshop will focus on improving skills and confidence to recognise people with mental health problems and offer appropriate support

Mental Health in the Workplace – Managers training

Friday 17th June 2016

 9:30pm – 1:00pm

This course will examine how practical support can be provided to create an environment that is healthy for staff and promote interventions to raise awareness.

These free workshops are the last in the current programme so booking early is advised to avoid disappointment

To be eligible individuals must live or work in Nottingham City. To book places call 0115 934 8445 or email training@harmless.org.uk

Tickets to our annual celebration event on 7th October 2016 are now on sale

We invite you to join us in an evening of celebration

Friday 7th October 2016

Harmless' Annual Celebration Event -  Friday 7th October 2016

To book your place, please follow this link:

http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/Harmless-Celebration-2016

 

Harmless is an award winning self harm and suicide prevention project that has been successfully delivering services since 2007. Over the past year Harmless has gone from strength to strength. We’ve increased our partnerships and been involved in more research based projects, attended and presented at conferences all over the UK in addition to holding a National conference of our own. We have also rebranded and extended our training programme to raise awareness of self harm, mental health & suicide amongst the community and professionals. We have received awards for our work and recruited more staff in order to help more people.

Our wonderful Tomorrow Project continues to deliver suicide prevention and postvention work in the community. We work with those directly and indirectly affected by suicide, provide facilitative support to individuals and organisations with questions and concerns about suicide, deliver workshop style information sessions to improve understanding and awareness of suicide and self harm, and promote help seeking in the community as a whole.

The celebration evening will mark a milestone in our work and give us the opportunity to raise revenue to keep our vital services afloat. Each year we spend time with friends and colleagues, celebrating the work that we have done and the lives that we have saved and the money we raise on the night goes directly back into our life saving services.

Please come along and join is in what will be a wonderful night, learn more about our work, celebrate our triumphs and help us to raise money to keep us driving services in the field of self harm and suicide prevention forwards.

The Venue:

Park Plaza Hotel, 41 Maid Marian Way, Nottingham, NG1 6GD

The Date:

Friday 7th October 2015

The Time(s):

7:00pm

The Cost:

£37.00 per head

The Event:

Three course meal with raffle, silent auction, games and live entertainment

Dress Code:

Smart

The purpose:

To raise enough money to save more lives.

Menu

Starters:

Roast Vegetable Soup with Garlic Croutons. (v)

Parma Ham and Mozzarella Fig Wrap with a Raspberry Vinigarette.

Goats Cheese, Walnut & Apricot Fritter with Tomato and Rocket Salad and a Sherry Balsamic Dressing. (v)

Mains:

Roast Chicken Breast with Fondant Potato, Wild Mushroom Spinach Sauce.

Poached Scottish Salmon, Grilled Asparagus, New Potatoes, Lemon Hollandaise.

Brocolli Wellington, Seasonal Vegetables and Fondant Potato. (v)

Deserts: 

Double Chocolate Cheesecake with Cream.

Raspberry and Vanilla Creme Brulee with Lemon Sorbet. (v)

Exotic Fruit Platter served with Raspberry Sorbet. (v)

To book tickets please click this link: http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/Harmless-Celebration-2016

 For more information about our event, please email info@harmless.org.uk.