Could you support us to keep our services afloat?

The support services that we offer to people in crisis is a vital aspect of our work and yet we don’t have ongoing funding for much of this work.

Much of our crisis and therapeutic work is in need of supporters and fundraisers to enable us to keep helping people who can’t get this help from anywhere else.

Currently, regular donations enable us to provide 2 crisis sessions a month to people who would otherwise not get the help that they need. This isn’t a lot, but it really is important work. We have many people who aren’t able to receive our help and we hate having to turn people away.

There are many ways that you could help us to increase the number of people that we are able to help. Could you undertake your own fund raising activity – people have undertaken personal challenges, ran half marathons and held cake sales, all in the name of raising money for our work?

You can set up a fundraiser page here: https://localgiving.org/fundraisers

If you are not able to undertake a fundraiser; could you sign up to a regular donation via direct debit? Signing up to an amount that you are able to commit to on a monthly basis means that an amount as small or large as you are able to help with, will go directly to helping people.  By giving in this way you are helping us to save lives – what could be more rewarding?

You can sign up here: https://localgiving.org/charity/harmless/

‘when I needed help, I couldn’t find it anywhere. I called a helpline but they just listened. I had totally given up on my life and wanted to die. When I found the help I needed through these guys I can honestly say that they saved my life when I saw no other way out’

One last push to get Leanne into the air (and hitting her target)!

Our intern, Leanne, is raising money for Harmless by taking part in a sponsored sky dive.

 “I’m Leanne Moulton I have recently started my internship at Harmless . After working closely with the harmless team I’ve gained a true understanding of the importance of the work they do and how critical the services they provide, because of this I would love to help in any way I can so have decided to conquer my fear of flying and do a sponsored sky dive!

The sky dive will be on Sunday the 2nd April 2017, all money raised will go straight to Harmless to help them reach their 30K in 90 day target to continue their lifesaving support! All donations no matter how small are incredibly appreciated.”

Support her now by sponsoring her through her gofundme  page, Leanne’s Sky Dive for Harmless, or click here.

We look forward to sharing the amount raised and a video clip of how well she coped.

Safeguarding young people from sexting

There has been a rise in the number of sexting cases among young people. Many more young people now have access to phones and social media accounts and are engaging in or are affected by sexting. It is much easier for them to send and receive explicit messages and images.

Young people need to understand what sexting is, sending sexually explicit messages and or suggestive images, such as nudes.

Sexting is illegal among children. If a child is under the age of 18, it is illegal for them to take a nude photo of themselves or a friend, as well as distributing them even though the age of consent is 16 years, the Protection of Children Act means it is against the law for a child to share a sexual image.

Images covered under the law include naked pictures, topless photos of girls, any acts and sexual images in underwear. If a young person is found in possession of any of these, has been sending them or taking these types of photos, the Police can record it as a crime.

One of the most effective ways young people can be safeguarded against sexting is to talk to them about it.

Ensure they know what it is, how dangerous it can be and what the results of engaging in sexting are. This could help them make the right choice. If you do find that your child has been sexting, it is possible to get the images removed by contacting the Internet Watch Foundation, which will search for any explicit photos or videos of your child in order to protect them from possible ramifications.

To see how the Internet Watch Foundation can help, visit their website here: www.iwf.org.uk

“I have lost someone to suicide, how do I get help?”

At The Tomorrow Project, our Suicide Bereavement Pathway is open to anyone who has experienced traumatic bereavement by suicide. We understand that this type of bereavement is particularly difficult, with a lot of complex feelings and questions.

What we can provide is practical and emotional support, to help guide you through this confusing and difficult time. We can help with issues surrounding finance, debt, employment, housing and many other things, we can also provide information and support throughout the inquest process which is often new to many bereaved people. We’re also here for emotional support too, for when you need to speak to someone about how you’re feeling, and what your needs might be so that we can support you towards finding that help.

Reaching out is not always the easiest thing to do, but we are here, and we want to help. You can refer in to us through a variety of different ways, you can call us on 0115 934 8445, e-mail us at bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk ask your doctor to get in touch with us, ask a friend, message us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or even if there’s someone you know who is struggling and you’d like to find out what support is available then please let us know.

Bereavement by suicide is uniquely devastating and we know how much impact this can have on family, friends, colleagues and the community. This isn’t something that anyone should have to face alone, and that’s why we’re here so please, let us be there for you.

In the News: My chickens saved my life

I thought, if they can cope with the trauma they have experienced, then I’ve got to find the strength myself

I took my first overdose at 11, my second at 18 and my third just after my 21st birthday. It was a cry for help. I had lovely parents, but I was desperately unhappy.

I was sexually abused at the age of eight, in the 1960s. I was afraid I’d get the cane if I told a teacher, so I didn’t tell anyone. When my parents found out, all hell broke loose. The abuser went to jail, but I never spoke about it. I couldn’t face it.

I left school at 15 and worked for Royal Mail, first as a telegram boy and then as a postman. We’d finish at 12.30pm and go straight down the boozer. I’d have three or four pints, five, sometimes. Alcohol masked my depression, and by my early 30s I had become dependent. If I got bladdered, I could kick the demons out. One Christmas, I drank 48 cans of Carling in two days. I ended up in hospital. The doctor said, “You either pack in the drinking or you’ll die.”

That’s when, aged 34, I went to rehab and there followed six years without a drink. I lost six stone in weight and started cycling 15 miles to work and back. I’d never felt so fit.

Then, in 1997, I fell in love. It was a beautiful sunny day, we’d been to the Cotswolds and I had a beer. One became two, two became three… It was the ladder to oblivion.

To read the full article, please click here.

BAKE SALE RESULTS! And good luck to Comic Relief with their fundraiser.

We are very very… very pleased to say we have raised a total of £100.00 for Comic Relief.

Every member of staff contributed to the bake sale and we are happy to support the cause.

At Harmless we are fortunate to be supported by Comic Relief and are half way through a project named ‘Breaking the Cycle: Young People, self harm and suicide.’

Comic relief support us in helping young people aged between 18 and 25, who self harm and/or at risk of suicide. In the first 18 months of Comic Relief funding, we are proud to announce that we have directly supported 120 young people.

Our overarching aim here at Harmless is to save lives and through the support we received from funders like Comic Relief, this is possible.

We wish everyone at Comic Relief all the best for tonight’s fundraiser.

You can learn more about Red Nose Day and Comic Relief by clicking here!

If you would like to donate to comic relief, you can do so by clicking here!

Why we need to be careful when posting things about self harm and suicide…

Most people mean well when posting about self harm and suicide, but it’s so important that:

1. Never mention any methods of harm as anyone innocently reading can be ‘triggered’ by such things. Someone contemplating suicide may be more likely to act upon their thoughts if exposed to talk of methods.

2. Always ensure if you’re posting about where someone can get help that YOU know where you’re sending them. You post a support number- for who? Are they limited by age? Gender? Country? What help will they offer? Hopeline is awesome but only for young people, Samaritans is great for listening, but they won’t actually intervene. Be informed. The only thing worse than not seeking help is being sent to somewhere that can’t help you when you’re already feeling hopeless.

3. Don’t post stories that glamorise suicide or self harm. Even celebratory posts about someone who has died by suicide are KNOWN to have a detrimental effect and can increase the likelihood of people dying by suicide. Often people who are suicidal are comforted by the thought that they will be missed fondly, or feel so awful about themselves that no matter how bad the impact they leave – they still believe that people are better off without them.

Instead:

  • Do post things that promote talking and help-seeking.
  • Do tell people that suicide is something that can be stepped back from with the right help.
  • Do listen.
  • Be ready to have a conversation .

Something like:

“Suicidal thoughts are normal for many people. With the right help and support you can get through this and if you need to talk, I am here.”

 

Thought about fundraising for us? And want to save lives whilst doing so?….Then you’re in the right place!

We are looking for wonderful people to join us in fundraising to reach our 30K in 90 days target.

All money raised will go directly into providing help services for people in distress. We want to ensure that any one, of any age, facing any problem can get the help that they need. Suicide and mental health struggles are far too common and it is so important that we keep providing a high level of help when people need it the most.

For an idea of what impact donating has, every week on average, we receive 6 new requests for face to support and each lifesaving therapy session costs £25.

All ideas welcome, let us know what you have in mind…the more imaginative and creative the better! Here are a few of our favourite below:

- Bake sales (always go down a treat)

- Sky dive

- Fun runs

- Three peaks challenge

- Mount Kilimanjaro

- London Marathon (if you fancy a challenge!)

- Book sales

- Bring and buy sale

- Auctions/raffles

- Car war!

- Come Dine with Me. (for all the foodies out there!)

- Super market packing

- Coffee morning

- Bingo

- Fancy dress days

- Busking (Ideal for all the music lovers)

- Art exhibition

- Craft off

- Non uniform days

- Pub quiz!

Every penny raised truly goes a long way, please help us to continue to help the community.

If you think you can help us, and want to get involved, please email info@harmless.org.uk and you could be helping us to save lives.

Get your Earlybird tickets to our Event before the end of March!

Join us on Saturday 7th October to celebrate 10 years of Harmless!

PURCHASE YOUR TICKETS BEFORE THE END OF MARCH TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OUR £35 EARLYBIRD OFFER!

To mark the 10th anniversary of Harmless and a successful 5th year of the Tomorrow Project, we’ll be holding our annual celebration event on Saturday 7th October 2017 at Ruddington Grange Golf Club.

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR TICKETS 

The Venue:

Ruddington Grange Golf Club, Wilford Road, Ruddington, NG11 6NB

 

The Date:

Saturday 7th October 2017

 

The Time(s):

6:30pm arrival for a 7:00pm start

 

The Cost:

£40.00 per head

Current Earlybird offer of £35 per head if booked and paid before the end of March!

 

The Event:

Three course meal with raffle, silent auction, games and live music from the Monroe Acoustic Duo and the Monroe Band featuring Polly Yates.

 

Click here to watch a video of the Monroe Band

 

Dress Code:

Smart

 

The purpose:

To raise enough money to save more lives.

 

If you would like more information on the event, please do not hesitate to contact us on 0115 934 8445 or you can send an email to admin@harmless.org.uk

 

Harmless is an award winning self harm and suicide prevention project that has been successfully delivering services for the past 10 years, since 2007. Over the past year Harmless has gone from strength to strength. We’ve increased our partnerships and been involved in more research based projects, attended and presented at conferences all over the UK in addition to holding a National conference of our own. We have also extended our training programme to raise awareness of self harm, mental health & suicide amongst the community and professionals. We have received awards for our work and recruited more staff in order to help more people.

Our wonderful Tomorrow Project continues to deliver suicide prevention and postvention work in the community. We have now been commissioned by the EMAHSN to provided two new suicide prevention pathways for both Suicide Crisis and Suicide Bereavement within Nottingham City, this will soon be rolled out to Nottinghamshire County also. We work with those directly and indirectly affected by suicide, provide facilitative support to individuals and organisations with questions and concerns about suicide, deliver workshop style information sessions to improve understanding and awareness of suicide and self harm, and promote help seeking in the community as a whole.

The celebration evening will mark a major milestone in our work, as we celebrate our 10th anniversary, and give us the opportunity to raise revenue to keep our vital services afloat. Each year we spend time with friends and colleagues, celebrating the work that we have done and the lives that we have saved and the money we raise on the night goes directly back into our life saving services.

Please come along and join is in what will be a wonderful night, learn more about our work, celebrate our triumphs and help us to raise money to keep us driving services in the field of self harm and suicide prevention forwards.

If you would like more information on the event, please do not hesitate to contact us on 0115 934 8445 or you can send an email to admin@harmless.org.uk

The Secret to Happiness

Monday was International Happiness Day, what is this, I hear you say, it’s a day to be happy of course.

The United Nations has been celebrating this day since 2013, as a way to recognise the importance of happiness in the lives of people around the world.

I found some really interesting information about the secret to happiness that I wanted to share with you.

We are encouraged to lead a happy life and want the people we love to be happy too. To do this we need to rethink our priorities, our actions and choices can affect our happiness. What makes us happy has less to do with our money or possessions and more to do with our attitudes and relationships with other people.

 

The secret to happiness and wellbeing is

‘If you want to feel good do good’.

 

There are ten keys to happier living.

  • Do things for others -connect with people –  When we’re together everything’s better
  • Take care of your body – Be active, relax, rest, repeat daily
  • Live life mindfully – There more to life when you stop and notice.
  • Keep learning new things – Find time to lose yourself in what you love
  • Have goals to look forward to – It helps to know what you’re looking forward to
  • Find ways to bounce back – If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it
  • Looks for what’s good -See life for what it is but focus on the good bits
  • Be comfortable with who you are – Don’t compare your insides with other people’s outside
  • Be part of something bigger – The meaning of life is a life with meaning.

 

For more information please see http://www.dayofhappiness.net/#join