7 C’s of Resilience

Resilience is… A complex and multifaceted construct, referring to a person’s capacity to handle environmental difficulties, demands and high pressure without experiencing negative effects. (Kinman and Grant 2011)

When we consider childhood we can often see it as a carefree time, however youth alone does not offer a shield against emotional hurts and traumas that many children and young people face.

Children and young people can be asked to deal with problems ranging from adapting to a new classroom to bullying by classmates or even abuse at home. When you add to this the uncertainties that are part of growing up, and children can be anything but carefree.

The ability to thrive despite these challenges arises from the skills of resilience. The good news is that resilience skills can be learned. Building resilience – the ability to adapt well to adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or even significant sources of stress can help our children manage stress and feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. However, being resilient does not mean that children won’t experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common when we have suffered major trauma or personal loss, or even when we hear that someone else’s loss or trauma.

Recognising that ‘resilience isn’t a simple, one part entity. We can use these skills as adults to help children and young people to  recognise their abilities and inner resources

Competence. – Competence can be the ability to know-how to handle situations effectively. Competence is acquired through actual experiences. Children and young people need to be recognised when they’re doing something right and to be given opportunities to develop specific skills.

Confidence – Confidence comes from building real skills and feeling competent, adults can teach and nurture children and young people’s confidence. When children are supported to build their own competence they can gain the confidence to try new adventures and trust their abilities to make sound choices. Confidence can be easily undermined, but also bolstered by tasks that push children and young people without making the goad feel unachievable.

Connection – Close ties to family, friends, school and community give children and young people a sense of security and values which helps them to know they are not alone if they struggle and that they can develop creative solutions to problems.

Character– A Fundamental sense of right and wrong that helps children make wise choices and contribute to the world. Children with character enjoy a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, this helps be more comfortable sticking to their own values and demonstrating a caring attitude towards others.

Contribution – When children realise that the world is a better place because they are in it, they will take actions and make choices that improve the world. They will also develop a sense of purpose to carry them through future challenges. Once children and young people understand how good it can feel to give to others, it becomes easier to ask for the same support when it’s needed. Being willing to ask for help is a big part of being resilient.

Coping – children who learn to cope effectively with stress are better prepared to overcome life’s challenges.

Control – In order to truly be resilient a child needs to believe that she has control over her the outcomes of their decisions and actions. They are more likely to know that they have the ability to do what it takes to bounce back. Feeling secure helps create control, which is why children tests limits.

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We will be introducing the team, sharing tips and stories, raising awareness, challenging stigma and discrimination and providing another pathway for users to contact and refer into service. Hope to see you there. We’ll follow you back!

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A big thank you to all those at The Henry Chowdhury Fund for their fantastic fundraising

All of us here at Harmless would like to say a huge thank you to those at The Henry Chowdhury Fund and those who attended the Barbecue & Blues Band Extravaganza fundraising event in aid of Harmless on 28th May at The Cross Keys in Burton Joyce.

The event was fantastic and helped us raise vital funds to enable us to save lives. The total raised at the event was an amazing £1,160!

This contribution will go directly towards the delivery of our life saving work and help us to create a brighter future for many people.

We would like to thank everyone involved for your compassionate support and highlight the importance of this type of contribution; it really does make a difference.

Here are some pictures from the event…

Therapeutic Support Services


Harmless provide free therapeutic support to both adults and young people. Our age range covers from 11 years up to 70 years. We provide both long term and short term therapy:

  • Short term therapy may last up to 12 sessions with reviews.
  • Long term therapy can last up to 2 years with reviews.

We provide short term community outreach therapeutic clinics in for both adults and children for up to 12 sessions.

We offer monthly drop in support sessions creating a relaxed atmosphere, offering information and advice.

  • Young Person (11-21Yrs) Wednesday 21st June 2017 4 – 5 pm
  • Adult (18+ Yrs) Wednesday 28th June 2017 4 – 5 pm.

Drop in sessions are held at Nottingham Community and Voluntary Centre on Mansfield Road (opposite House of Fraser).

We provide a monthly Crisis Café, where people can come along for some informal support.

  • Our next Crisis Café is Wednesday 14th June 3.30 – 4.30 pm

We offer skype provision, so that people from out of the area wishing to receive remote support can have skype sessions.

If you would like any more information, please email us at info@harmless.org.uk.

Help us save lives, we need your support

Would you help us to keep our life saving support services afloat? We are appealing for regular monthly donors. It could be £5, £10, £15…..every penny truly counts.

£25 provides one therapy sessions

£45 proves one information drop in

£80 will pay for one talk to a school

£300 provides short term intervention for someone

We need your help

If you or anyone you know have been effected by our work, or believe in what we’re doing then please consider getting behind us and making a one off or monthly donation.

We fund our work 77% ourselves by fundraising and sales and we don’t want to turn anyone away. We need your help and people need ours.

Click this link for more information and to make a monthly donation: https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless/monthly

If you would like to talk to a member of the team about how you can donate or fundraise for us, please contact us at info@harmless.org.uk or call Chloe on 0115 934 8445.