Nottingham Pride 2017

The celebration of life, love and liberty isn’t just about parades and partying. It’s about the LGBTQ+ community being visible and belonging to a community, a town, a city, a nation and the world.

Celebrate Nottingham Pride 2017 with a fun annual parade and celebrations taking place in various venues in the Hockley area of Nottingham.

This year Nottingham Pride promises to be a street party to remember in the heart of the city’s Hockley area (Broad Street and Heathcoat Street) with our Main Stage on Carlton Street.

We will be marking the 50th Anniversary since homosexuality was decriminalised and we will be celebrating families – in whatever way that means for you.

Where
Our fabulous Pride March starts at 11.30am meeting on Castle Gate  – expect drums, marching bands and (fingers crossed) maybe the first ever Nottingham Pride float.

When
Saturday 29 July 2017 from 11.30am – 6pm

Youth Mental Health First Aid (MHFAYouth) Training

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Email: training@harmless.org.uk or

Telephone:  0115 9348446

Dates:  Thursday 31st August & Friday 1st September

Times: 9 am until 5 pm (both days)

Location: Nottingham

Certified course & MHFAYouth Manual and workbook provided 

Youth Mental Health First Aid (Youth MHFA) is an internationally recognised educational training course. Youth MHFA is the help given to a young person experiencing a mental health problem before professional help is obtained. MHFA is designed to teach people how to identify, understand and help a young person who may be developing a mental health issue. In the same way we learn physical first aid, Youth MHFA teaches how to recognise those crucial warning signs and respond appropriately to signs of emotional and mental ill health. By completing this course it will develop yours skills, abilities and confidence in being able to support individuals with a range of mental health conditions.

Youth MHFA is a course aimed at people who come into contact with young people aged 8 to 18. The 2 day workshop will be delivered by a fully trained certified MHFA Trainer.

Course Aims:

  • Preserve life
  • Prevent deterioration of any injury or illness
  • Promote healing and recovery
  • Provide comfort to the ill or injured.

This course is split into 4 manageable chunks, these are:

  • Youth Mental Health First Aid
  • Depression and Anxiety
  • Suicide and Psychosis
  • Self Harm and Eating Disorders.

In each section you will learn how to:

  • Preserve life where a young person may be a danger to themselves or others.
  • Provide help to prevent the emotional or mental health problem developing into a more serious state
  • Promote the recovery of good mental health
  • Provide comfort to a young person experiencing a mental health problem
  • Raise awareness of mental health issues in the community
  • Reduce stigma and discrimination.

Where can I find more information or book on the course?

For more information about our Youth MHFA training or to book a place on the course please contact Harmless and ask for Sarah Kessling our Training Team Leader, or Val Stevens our Youth MHFA Trainer).

Email: training@harmless.org.uk or

Telephone:  0115 9348446

Dates:  Thursday 31st August & Friday 1 st September

Times: 9 am until 5 pm (both days)

Training: Location Nottingham

 

Certificate and resources for each delegate upon completion

Please note: Attendance on both days of the workshop is mandatory.

What do we mean by self care?

The actions that individuals take for themselves, on behalf of and with others in order to develop, protect, maintain and improve their health, wellbeing or wellness.’

July 24th was International Self Care day and here are our suggestions on how you can get started on your own #selfcare

Connect

Good friendships play a significant role in promoting our overall health. Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Connecting with the people around you can play an important role in this as well. Here’s some tips to make new connections this Mental Health Awareness Week:

Talk to someone instead of sending an email. Or go the extra mile and write a letter, they are a lot more personal.

Speak to someone new, smile at everyone

Ask how someone’s weekend was and really listen when they tell you

Give a colleague a lift to work or share the journey home with them (better for them, for you and the environment, triple win!)

Get physical

We often talk about the mind and body as though they are completely separate – but they aren’t. The mind can’t function unless your body is working properly – but it also works the other way. The state of your mind affects your body. Our physical health and mental health really do need equal importance.

Exercise effects chemicals in the brain, like dopamine and serotonin. Brain cells use these chemicals to communicate with each other, so by exercising you release these and they will positively affect your mood and thinking.

Tips on getting physical:

-  Swap the lift for the stairs! < simple…but effective.

-  During your lunch break take a walk, fresh air & exercise is perfect

-  Get off the bus one stop earlier

-  Meet up with friends to go to the park

-  Yoga before bed

-  Join a sports team

Be aware

Being mindful of your surroundings can strengthen the mind and broaden awareness. Starting to practice mindfulness, 10 minutes per day, is known to have significantly positive health benefits.  Heightened awareness also enhances your self-understanding and allows you to make positive choices based on your own values and motivations.

Our suggestions:

-  Clear away clutter

-  Be conscious of the people around you, their emotions and the impact on yourself

-  Visit a new coffee shop

- Ask a friend to meet for a coffee and catch up

-  Leave 5 minutes earlier to walk and talk a longer walk, notice your surroundings

-  Notice sounds, smells, overall feelings. Don’t think too much about them, just be aware and note them in your mind

Keep learning!

The more we learn, the more we grow, and that in turn benefits not only ourselves but others around us.  Continuing to learn throughout our lives boosts our self-esteem and encourages social interaction which overall promotes positive wellbeing.

Few ideas to get you started:

-  Sign up for a class: a new language perhaps

-  Teach yourself a new skill: pompom making, knitting or baking? (our favourite!)

-  Join a life drawing class

- Enjoy a hot bubble bath with a bath bomb and watch the colours develop

Volunteer

Volunteering to help others in the community will boost confidence, make a difference, you’ll connect with others and make new friends. You’ll become part of a new community, whilst learning a new skill and having fun.

Please contact us is you would like to fundraise for Harmless and The Tomorrow Project by emailing chloe@harmless.org.uk or call 0115 934 8445.

Would you like to join the Harmless team as a Specialist Therapist?

We are currently recruiting for a Specialist Therapist to join the Harmless team. The deadline for applications is Monday 14th August 2017 at 12pm, with interviews to take place in the week commencing 21st August 2017.

For an application form and job description, or for more information please email admin@harmless.org.uk or call 0115 934 8445 (admin line only). Please include the job title you are applying for in your email.

 

JOB TITLE: Specialist Therapist

HOURS: Up to 37.5 hours per week

SALARY: £23,250 per annum

START DATE: 1st September 2017

This position has been funded by the Big Lottery Fund.

 

MAIN PURPOSE AND SCOPE OF THE JOB

  • To provide therapy for 12 to 24 weeks across Nottinghamshire and Leicestershire to clients who experience mental health problems, depression and anxiety, and/or that self harm or are at risk of self harm and suicide.
  • To be responsible for fully assessing individual needs, implementing/agreeing care plan or equivalent and developing a safety plan.
  • Engage in activities that promote Psychological wellbeing (including maintain/promote physical and mental health); Social Functioning (including social activity, employment and education); Resilience (looking at helping an individual cope and resolve some of their difficulties); Help-Seeking (Ensuring individuals are able to access support from a variety of sources and ultimately reduces risk to that individual including self-harm and suicide).
  • To work collaboratively and assertively with the communities and environments where a person is already in contact to provide information, containment and enhance a collaborative recovery approach for the person experiencing distress and self harm.
  • To support the clinical and support services manager to uphold the short term, medium term and long term organisational and clinical and support services objectives.

Stop saying yes when you want to say no

We’ve all been there…that moment when you’re asked to do something you don’t want to do or even have the time to do….you want to say no….but before you know it, the word ‘yes’ has already come out your mouth.

Don’t worry, you really aren’t alone in that. We’ve been thinking about why we find it so important to please everyone, to the point where we feel overwhelmed and stressed out. Pleasing others can be self-serving. But I wonder if the benefits to saying yes are outweighed by the negative impact on our mental health.

By agreeing to do things that you don’t want to could mean that you are a people pleaser, which is not a bad trait, but can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. People pleasers think about other people’s needs, worry about what other people want or think before they think about their own needs, or what they want. 

Learning to say “no” is is about setting boundaries. Every time you say “yes” to someone, you say “no” to yourself and your priorities and needs. It is far worse to say “yes” then to feel your anxiety building up. Forget about pleasing people. It is more important to please yourself so that you can stay calm and relaxed.

Practice saying “no”. Say it aloud so you can hear the words in your own voice. Say phrases with “no” in them, such as, “No, I can’t do that.”

Never say yes on the spot. Instead say “I’ll get back to you” after you’ve checked if you actually can do it. Or how about “Let me think about it and ill speak to you tomorrow”.

You do not need to say “yes” just because you are capable of doing something. You should say “yes” only if you considered your time availability, other commitments and what you may need to give up to complete the job.

Put your self-care above anything else by spending your time on things that make you happy and on decisions that you want, rather than on what others want. If you don’t set boundaries to what or whom you will say no to, your health is at stake. If you neglect yourself, you will not be able to help your family or those that care about you.

You don’t even need to apologies for saying no.

Remember that your self-worth does not depend on how much you do for other people.

Working hard and working smart

“Workaholics aren’t heroes. They don’t save the day, they use it up. The real hero is already home…because they figured out a faster way to get things done.”- Jason Friend & David Heinemeier Hansson

Working hard and working smart are two different things.

Working hard involves commitment, involvement and sincerity it also means working honestly. Working smart refers to being creative and looking for other ways to get the work done faster and easier.

 

For example:

Working hard = Doing the job

Working smart = Getting the job done

 

Working hard = Thinking/planning after doing the job

Working smart = Thinking/planning ahead of the job

 

Working hard = Dedication or doing work without intention about result

Working smart = Always having the end result in view

Smart work is not a substitute of hard work they go hand in hand. You have to work hard to achieve things but if you do the wrong things, you can put all that effort in the wrong direction and end up in the wrong place.

For example, studying for six hours over the weekend might help you prepare for your exam the following week however, you could chose to study for an hour everyday over six days. The length of time spent is the same just the former is hard work and the latter is smart work.

The latter option helps in better retention of what is studied.

Also reading everyday for an hour is an easier goal to achieve than six hours in one day. Hence you are more likely to accomplish your goals simply because the psychological barrier is smaller. Finally, achieving smaller goals has a compound effect. Your overall personality will improve with small and steady progress everyday.

So in other words it is about…

…working harder, smarter.

Stranger on the Bridge study: Request for help

This is an opportunity to work with the University of Exeter in their research into how members of the public can help prevent suicide in public places. This work is inspired by Jonny Benjamin’s The Stranger on the Bridge and the University would like to hear from you if you are aged 18 or over, and fall into one of the following groups: 

1.    You have personal experience of attempting or seriously considering taking your own life in a public location and you were prevented from doing so by a stranger.

2.    You have personal experience of trying to prevent someone you didn’t know (a stranger) from taking their own life in a public location.

If you are in doubt about whether your experience fits, please get in touch to talk it through with one of the research team.

For more details see the here on the University of Exeter website, see the Information for Participants (pdf) or email PUBLIS@exeter.ac.uk

Please also share this as widely as you see fit in order to reach others who might be able to take part.

In the News: How to support a depressed partner while maintaining your own mental health

here is no lightning-bolt moment when you realise you are losing your sense of self; just an absence. When you are caring for someone you love, your wants and needs are supplanted by theirs, because what you want, more than anything, is for them to be well. Looking after a partner with mental health problems – in my case, my husband Rob, who had chronic depression – is complicated.

Like many people, Rob and I were not raised in a society that acknowledged, let alone spoke about, depression. The silence and stigma shaped how he dealt with his illness: indeed, he struggled with the very idea of being ill. He told me fairly early on in our relationship that he had depression, but I had no idea what this entailed – the scale, the scope, the fact that a chronic illness like this can recur every year and linger for months.

I didn’t know what questions to ask. And Rob struggled to articulate how bad it was. He wanted to be “normal” so he expended a lot of energy trying to pretend he was OK when he wasn’t. In 2015, Rob took his life. The reasons are complex, but I believe it was a mix of depression and an addiction to the opiates he used to self-medicate.

Although I am painfully aware of how Rob’s battle ended, I am often asked about how I dealt with it when he was alive. Hindsight is always bittersweet, but I did learn a lot – especially about taking care of my own mental health.

Look after yourself

Feeling that you have to handle everything is natural, but you have to look after yourself or you won’t be any use to your partner. “That pressure to keep it all going can feel too much,” says Dr Monica Cain, counselling psychologist at Nightingale hospital in London. She advises “taking that pressure seriously. It’s something that is very difficult to manage even at the best of times.”

Remember that depression isn’t just a mental illness

It used to drive me mad that Rob wouldn’t get out of bed. It took a while to realise that he “couldn’t” rather than “wouldn’t”. I was so sure he would feel better if he came out for a walk or met his friends, but depression is a physical illness, too. As Dr Cain says: “Physically, depression impacts energy levels. People sometimes feel very tired and want to stay in bed all the time.”

Don’t stop doing the things you love

When your partner can’t get out of bed or come to social engagements with you, there can be anger and frustration. Jayne Hardy, founder of the Blurt Foundation, which helps those affected by depression, says the “feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and unworthiness” depressed people may have mean they often “place loved ones on a pedestal”. She says their skewed perspective means they can “struggle to see what they have to offer you”.

On more than one occasion, Rob said to me: “I feel like I’m ruining your life.” I stopped doing the things I loved and, because I stayed at home with him, it made him feel guilty that I was missing out.

Take charge of admin and finance

People with depression find even mundane tasks, such as opening the post or going to the shops, impossible. Often, they keep their finances hidden, says Dr Cain. “It can feel quite shameful for them to say: ‘I’m finding it difficult to stay on top of it.’” This can be stressful for their partners. As Dr Antonis Kousoulis, a clinician and an assistant director at the Mental Health Foundation, says: “Being the main source of support for a partner with depression can add a lot of pressure.” But it is still better than not knowing what’s happening with your partner’s finances or admin. So, to maintain your own mental health and avoid unnecessary stress, it may be easier to have an agreement with your partner that, when they are ill, you will be in the admin driving seat. And when they feel able, they will sort it out.

Talk to your friends and family

You may fear that friends and family won’t understand. But trying to maintain appearances while supporting your partner is exhausting. “Opening up conversations to friends and families, and getting them involved usually makes a big difference in tackling the stigma and building a circle of support,” says Dr Kousoulis. Hardy adds: “All the advice we would give to someone who is unwell with depression also applies to loved ones who support us: make sure you are supported, reach out for help in understanding more about the illness, keep the channels of communication open; don’t be afraid to ask questions, and prioritise self-care.”

Don’t take it personally

There is the person you fell in love with, who makes you laugh until it hurts – and then there are the bad days, when you are dealing with a stranger who won’t let you in. “Depression can magnify or alter emotions,” says Dr Kousoulis. “A person can have emotional highs and lows in equal degrees, so it is important not to take changes personally.”

This can be easier said than done. I found my own coping mechanisms – therapy, exercise and lowering my expectations of what I needed and wanted from Rob when he was feeling bad. I knew that somewhere inside this person was my husband, so from time to time, I’d leave him postcards telling him how much I loved him. He didn’t react in an effusive way but I know it got through because he kept every one in a memory box.

Above all, hold on to your love. “You won’t always feel as though you are making any progress,” says Hardy. “You, too, may feel helpless at times. But your patience, kindness and understanding make such a difference.”

You can read the full article at this link: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jul/10/how-to-support-a-depressed-partner-while-maintaining-your-own-mental-health?CMP=fb_gu