New Years Eve is an interesting time of year…

New Years Eve is an interesting time of year. For some it is the opportunity to see in a new year, with hope and positivity; looking towards the future and all the plans that might unfold for the twelve months ahead. For others it is just a day to be with family and friends and to raise a glass together, enjoy good company and countdown to midnight as merely a passing of time where tomorrow we have to remember that we are in a new year.

For some, the turning of the New Year is a difficult and painful time. Where some look to the future with hope, others find the New Year a time to reflect on how unhappy they have been in the past year or beyond. Hopelessness may seep into their world and they may feel as though nothing is ever going to change. Many people that Harmless and The Tomorrow Project have worked with, describe the New Year period as a time to reflect and for those that have had a really tough time, that period of reflection may lead them down a dark path. There is nothing worse than looking to the future and feeling as though there is no point anymore.

Hopelessness can be crippling. It can make even the strongest person feel depressed and alone, but worse than that, it can truly make you question whether life is worth living. It is. It can get better. But at the times when hopelessness is rife it is important to look after ourselves and the ones that we love who might be feeling this way.

New Year is typically one of those times. We encourage each and every one of you to keep an eye on those friends who seem a little distant, who may be isolated or seem withdrawn or unhappy. Although many of us find ways of protecting others from our feelings when we are feeling low, it is so important to share the burden of struggle, if there is one.

This New Year, let’s each vow to look out for the ones that we love and try to make 2019 a safe and happy year. If you are someone that is struggling right now and you can identify with any of these words, reach out. Tell someone how you are feeling. Seek support. Next year might just be a turning point with the right help.

Try not to drink too much, stay with or close to people you know well and trust and try not to isolate yourself and let’s help you take the safe first steps into the New Year.

If you are in crisis and need some support right now please call the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90. If you would like support from ourselves, feel free to email us and we will get in touch in the New Year.

New Year’s resolutions – The Mental Health Foundation’s Guide

Things like healthy eating, regular exercise and giving up smoking can have a real positive impact on our mental and physical health and are central to many people’s New Year’s resolutions.

Every year millions of people make resolutions yet almost 80% of us fail to achieve them. Most of us strive for unrealistic goals and ultimately set ourselves up for a failure.

As well as our tips for achieving your goals this year, we have a range of free wellbeing podcasts on topics including diet and exercise to help you stick to your resolutions. Read more about these below.

How to stick to your New Year’s resolutions

Be realistic

Unattainable goals are often the enemy of achievable resolutions. Change one small thing at a time.

Planning helps

Don’t wait until the last minute – plan ahead of New Year’s Day.

Develop a support network

Friends, family and colleagues can all help you – talk to them about what you’re planning to do and tell them how they can help.

Measure your successes

Stay motivated by measuring how far you’ve come each week. This will help you realise how small changes can make a big difference.

Reward yourself

Celebrate when you succeed with a treat, which doesn’t necessarily have to be the thing you’re trying to avoid. You might reward the first month of your successful diet with a night at the cinema, for example – or even a short holiday!

Treat failure as a small setback

If you slip and break your diet, forget to exercise or have a secret cigarette, don’t despair! Learn from the setback: what situations made you slip? Can you avoid them next time? Don’t obsess over small setbacks – it won’t help you achieve your goal. Start fresh the next day. Don’t give up!

Make your resolution stick

After a couple of weeks, the changes you’ve made will become a habit and part of your routine, so don’t be discouraged if you’re still finding it hard after the first week. Stick to it and it will only get easier!

A Healthy Diet

Find out how a healthy diet can benefit your mental health.

In our podcast, New Year’s Resolutions – A Healthy Diet we look at how diet affects our mental health, and how you can learn techniques to help change your eating habits and improve your overall mental and physical wellbeing.

Our free Food and Mood Diary will helps you work out how you diet affects your mood throughout the day.

Getting More Exercise

Find out about how exercise can benefit your mental health.

In our podcast, New Year’s Resolutions – Exercise, we look at the benefits of exercise for your mental health as well as your physical health. We’ll also teach you some techniques to help you create and stick to a programme of regular exercise.

Giving Up Smoking

Find out about the link between smoking and mental health and ways to help you quit.

Learn How To Beat Stress

Find out how to manage your work-life balance.

Mindfulness is a type of meditation that can help you change the way you think about experiences and reduce stress and anxiety. Find out more about Mindfulness or take our free stress test.

Link to original blog: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/a-to-z/n/new-years-resolutions

 

Did you know we are part of the Co-op Local Community Fund?

The funding round started on Sunday 28th October 2018 and from this date Co-op members can choose Harmless to give their 1% to when they spend on selected own-brand products and services.
 
The funding period will run for 12 months until the 26 October 2019.
 
Pop into local east midlands Co-op to support our life saving service
 
https://membership.coop.co.uk/causes/19362

How to help someone who is struggling this Christmas

Christmas isn’t always an easy time and at Harmless we recognize this and want to make sure everyone feels confident in how to support someone who may be struggling, particularly over the festive period.
 
 
Let the person know you are there for them and you care about them. It could be a small text, an email, you could even pop round for a tea or send them a card. Just reach out to them. It’s the small things that make the biggest difference.
 
 
Everyone will need different support, so talk to who is struggling and ask them what they might find useful to have your help with, and identify things they can try to do themselves. Empower them.
 
 
Let friend’s know it’s okay to talk…you’re there for them to listen, without judgment.
 
 
Being open around mental health challenges stigma in a positive light and may be all a friend needs to be comfortable in asking for our help.
 
 
These are five steps that research shows can help people with mental health problems:
 
■ Assess risk of suicide or self-harm
 
■ Listen non-judgmentally
 
■ Give reassurance and information
 
■ Encourage the person to get appropriate professional help
 
■ Encourage self-help strategies.
 
 
Let’s all come together this Christmas so no one suffers in silence. Reach out to someone, it could save a life.
 
 
If you need immediate support please call Samaritans 116123, Hope Line phone 08000684141 text 07786209697, Sane line 03003047000, Wellness in Mind 08005610073

Merry Christmas from Harmless and The Tomorrow Project

On behalf of the Harmless and Tomorrow Project team, we hope you all have a safe and happy Christmas.
 
As we said yesterday, Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.
 
If you need immediate support over the next couple of weeks, please call Hope Line on 0800 068 41 41 or the Samaritans on 116 123.

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone…

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.

Often people don’t know what to do when faced with someone who is struggling, but it’s simple, just be for there for them. Notice they’re feelings and don’t be afraid to ask how they’re doing, but most of all just make sure you make time for them.

Christmas can be especially hard for those with emotional health difficulties, people who have experienced huge loss in their life, or who self harm. These things can improve with time with the right help and support.

Never lose hope, and hope everyone makes it through this time of year safe and well.

Did you know that nearly a third of people with mental health problems feel ‘unable to cope’ at Christmas?

 
Even more worryingly 1 in 5 has considered taking their own life because of it.
 
We know that sometimes the best tips and ideas for coping with distress come’s from those people who have been through it themselves. You never know who might read it, or who you might help so why not share your thoughts, feelings or our blogs among your networks and let someone know that you’re here for them if they need it.
 
Together we can help. Together we can save lives.
 
Keep talking and stay safe.

From Harm to Hope, Friday 1st March 2019

Harmless’ third national self harm conference will be held on Friday 1st March 2019, Self Harm Awareness Day. This year’s theme is: ‘our young people: intervention & early intervention for improved outcomes’.

JOIN US
£150 per delegate place*
Or
2 delegate places for £200*

Conference details:

The theme of our conference is Our young people: intervention & early intervention for improved outcomes. 

Harmless recognises that self harm affects a broad range of individuals, facing many diverse experiences; reducing the number of individuals that self harm requires contributions from across society and includes education, prevention, intervention and postvention work.

This exciting new event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and practitioners & academics in the field of self harm in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

  • Collaborative partnership,
  • Service user representation,
  • Effective practice,
  • Driving change &
  • Overcoming stigma and discrimination.

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm.

Speakers:

Dr Nav Kapur

Dr ​Alys Cole-King

Prof. Siobhan O’Neill

Dr Sarah Cassidy

http://www.harmless.org.uk/store/self-harm-conference-2019

Save a life this Christmas!
 
Please support our Christmas Appeal.
 
If you were thinking of donating instead of sending cards, or you’d like to do something good for someone instead of buying a gift – then please think of us.
 
Each year we receive more and more requests for help and hear increasingly tragic stories of loss, yet we still have no statutory funding for our work.
 
For us to even think about delivering the same level of support in 2019 we are going to need your help.
 
Please share our appeal far and wide. However little or much you can afford, every penny will help. Please visit the following link if you would like to make a donation:
 
https://localgiving.org/appeal/harmlesschristmasappeal/

How to help someone who is struggling this Christmas

Christmas isn’t always an easy time and at Harmless we recognize this and want to make sure everyone feels confident in how to support someone who may be struggling, particularly over the festive period.

 

Let the person know you are there for them and you care about them. It could be a small text, an email, you could even pop round for a tea or send them a card. Just reach out to them. It’s the small things that make the biggest difference.

 

Everyone will need different support, so talk to who is struggling and ask them what they might find useful to have your help with, and identify things they can try to do themselves. Empower them.

 

Let friend’s know it’s okay to talk…you’re there for them to listen, without judgment.

 

Being open around mental health challenges stigma in a positive light and may be all a friend needs to be comfortable in asking for our help.

 

These are five steps that research shows can help people with mental health problems:

■            Assess risk of suicide or self-harm

■            Listen non-judgmentally

■            Give reassurance and information

■            Encourage the person to get appropriate professional help

■            Encourage self-help strategies.

 

Let’s all come together this Christmas so no one suffers in silence. Reach out to someone, it could save a life.

 

If you need immediate support please call Samaritans 116123, Hope Line phone 08000684141 text 07786209697, Sane line 03003047000, Wellness in Mind 08005610073