Managing stress and doing what you love

Are you doing enough to manage your stress?

Our friend Pam Burrows has been boosting us every breakfast for the last 11 days, and we wanted to carry on the conversations she’s started through her Facebook videos right here, on our wonderful blog!

Yesterday, Pam focused on how stress impacts our body (especially through our skin), and today she asked us to do something we enjoy – to allow ourselves some joy, decompression and pleasure. So, tonight, I’m going to do just that.

For me, reading has always been an outlet. It takes me into worlds my mind can fully visualise, and feeds my thirst for knowledge. In my opinion, there’s nothing better than a good old book! I’ve set up a shelf of positivity in my work-from-home office so I have a dedicated space to relax at the end of every day, with my book.

Share with us the simple things that give you joy and nourish your mind and body.

A bit of light relief… what else we’re doing to help

During this time of lockdown our approach to wellbeing and social engagement has to change.

As a service we are looking to be as engaged as we can be at this time and have developed some really beautiful connections.

In a morning, Claire, one if our service managers will be hosting Facebook live sessions at 9.45 over at the Harmless Facebook page. Again, at the close of the day Claire will be summarising her day and helping to keep us all focused on managing our wellbeing.

On Wednesday we will be hosting the first of what we hope will be a beautiful collaboration with the At1 Space – a yoga centre in Nottingham who have agreed to support us and our work during this time. This first session will be hosted on Facebook live over on the Harmless page and will be taking a look at how we can relax during times like these.

If you are interested in finding out more about the At1 Space, please click here – you can access a whole range of remote classes. So join them and join us all on Wednesday.

And finally, to bring a little bit of light relief, why not join the Pub Quiz hosted by our CEO’s cousin Ali B over on YouTube Live on Tuesday at 7.30pm.

Thank you for the team

With all the negativity, worries and uncertainties that are circulating currently, as an organisation we are truly overwhelmed with how kind, generous and supportive people are.

It is a very challenging time for all of us and what may seem a small act of kindness helps us keep working and supporting those who need us and in turn save lives.

Inside a huge selection of goodies, our team found a note which says ‘you are doing a fantastic job of helping people who need help in this world’ and we wanted to reach out and say we are all grateful and humbled by the continued support we have been shown.

We are so blessed to have such beautiful people in the world and we can’t put into words how grateful we are to each and every one of you.

From all of us at Harmless and The Tomorrow Project

Struggling with an eating disorder in lockdown.

I’ve been reflecting a lot over the last couple of weeks, as I’m sure we all have.

I’ve never worked harder for my service and for the people we help and for my staff, to keep them safe and in work wherever that might be. It took 15 hours a day, 7 days a week to get us where we are and I am really proud of all we have achieved.

However, I reached the home-straight and crashed, physically and mentally. I had a couple of days of unmanageable pain and unwellness. Bed bound. For those who know me, they know how unusual it is for me to surrender to unwellness but my body didn’t give me much of a choice.

I’m not in the best of health. I haven’t gained any weight nor managed to conquer my battles with food but for all intents and purposes, I function ok with what I have.

Like many of us, the stress and strain that comes with the Coronavirus is causing a disturbance to my usual way of being. I’m far from being alone with that.

Whether we’re worried about those we love, or we’re facing lack of income or secure employment or you’re missing the usual contact with people with whom you share you’re life, it would be impossible to not be impacted in some way.

What I’ve realised over the last week is how much of a life-line the simple pattern of my routine means to me – how much I value human contact and the ease of working flexibly with my colleagues, how much I need a routine and purpose for my own state of wellness.

I’m in a privileged position in so many ways. I have five children, a wonderful home and a massive garden where I can get the green and air that I need.

But I am not in control, in so many ways. I can’t go to work like I would do normally, nor access support in my usual ways, or benefit just from knowing I can get shopping when I need it.

Struggles with eating often come from a sense of needing control- of exerting an external control on an internal struggle. I note that external control tightening from the lockdown and my kickback is to restrain my diet; to try and take back that which I know I can’t, by controlling my food intake exacerbated with limited access to those which constitute safe foods.

For anyone that hasn’t struggled with an eating disorder it may seem counterintuitive but it dysfunctionally enables a balance of control to be striven for. The payback is that of weakness, illhealth and exhaustion alongside susceptibility to illness. That which sets out to attain control ultimately weakens my resolve, but it still feels compulsive.

So, while we are coming to terms with this new normal without knowing what will come next, or the rate at which things will change, we must each do what we need to get through. I’ve realised in myself how much sadness there is for all of our losses and for those for whom, because of the situation, are left even more alone than normal.

And, for those of us who are key workers and who continue to support others through this very difficult time, may we each ride out the storm we face individually and get the support that we need.

I also see hope and opportunities but for now I wanted to share the impact in order to hopefully enable someone, somewhere, to also find their voice.

Introducing one of our Therapists, Rani

“After an exciting career in the fashion industry, I began to feel unfulfilled and wanted to do something more worthwhile with my life. Going back to university to study Sociology and Healing Arts, I entered a new phase of my life supporting students in higher education in Welfare (University of Nottingham) and Specialist Mentoring roles (University of Derby) which lead me naturally into re-training as an Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist (BACP). My approach has a firm person-centered foundation and I apply Attachment and CBT based interventions in a creative and client directed way with a strong compassion focused emphasis. I adore what I do.

Joining the Harmless team at beginning of November, I felt almost immediately at home within an environment where the standard of care and support for the client is paramount but also where the support of colleagues and the value placed on teamwork is profound. Harmless and The Tomorrow Project are a team who are deeply committed to quality of service provision, best practice and a positive contribution to the field of self-harm support and suicide prevention nationally. I feel immensely proud to be part of the team. I also feel inspired by the courage of our clients every day.

Being the mother of two wonderful young people, I am conscious of the immense societal pressures on the individual to behave, perform and present themselves in specific ways which can be immensely damaging to self-esteem and the individual’s sense of hope for the future. It is a privilege to accompanying our clients’ in their journey towards a more hopeful future.

In order to stay positive, I practice mindfulness and do lots of running and walking in beautiful green spaces 😊”

The team are here to help

We asked our clients ‘what is the best thing about your support session?’

“Being able to talk through how i am feeling”

“Say what i really feel, no judgement”

“Knowing i wont be ‘kicked out’ without being ready”

If you or anyone you know needs any support with suicidal thoughts, drop us an email at crisis@tomorrowproject.org.uk or leave us a voice message on 0115 880 0282 and the team will aim to get back to you within 1 working day.

We can see you face to face or remotely if you are worried about going out right now and we will be ready to support, when and if you need us.

 

 

 

Wake up well, with Pam

Our beautiful friend and colleague is providing morning positivity videos during the current climate.

Pam has worked closely with us for many years now and is a provider of workplace wellbeing and workforce wellbeing strategies, travelling the country delivering training to keep our workers well.

Please have a watch. We will post each morning.

https://youtu.be/Zck57ZcRUhM

You can learn more about Pam’s work here. In uncertain times, please support her too as she supports us.

https://pamburrows.com/

Morning positivity with Pam

Our beautiful friend and colleague is providing morning positivity videos during the current climate.

Pam has worked closely with us for many years now and is a provider of workplace wellbeing and workforce wellbeing strategies, travelling the country delivering training to keep our workers well.

Please have a watch. We will post each morning.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=DT8OyByI2n8

You can learn more about Pam’s work here. In uncertain times, please support her too as she supports us.

https://pamburrows.com/