Walking for William and making a difference

Andrea is one of the Tomorrow Project’s newest clients in the Derbyshire area and is determined to raise awareness around mental health and suicide prevention.  Off the back of losing her own son William to suicide less than 2 months ago, Andrea is now taking a proactive stance in the battle many people have with their mental health and vulnerability to suicide.  Andrea has first-hand experience of the pain and suffering felt by families when loved ones take their own lives and now wants to ensure other families do not have to experience what she and her family have experienced.

That is why Andrea, and her party of five other friends and family of William, have decided to set themselves the gruelling challenge (at least it sounds it to me) of walking 90 miles from Derby to Skegness in just 3 days! They are raising money which will be split between The Tomorrow Project and mental health charity Mind.  The group will be setting off from Alvaston in Derby on Friday 28th August and will be stopping along the way at Grantham and Boston, before arriving in Skegness where they will be releasing balloons in memory of William. They will also be walking with a new attire with T-shirts with William on the front and wearing tutus of different colours, even the lads!

Not only are the 6 walkers pushing themselves physically, but they will also be doing it without the comfort of a cosy bed at night because they will be camping in the Nottinghamshire and Lincolnshire countryside. Now that is dedication to the cause…

On behalf of the Tomorrow Project (and the wider Harmless team) we wish all the people taking part the best of luck, you’re going to smash it!

It would be great if everyone could get behind Andrea and her courageous group to ensure they raise a huge amount of money that will contribute to supporting people with their mental health and suicide prevention.  If anybody would like to donate to this cause, you can do by clicking on the link below.

Tom,

Suicide Bereavement Support Officer

Accepting that some questions may never be answered

Throughout my career suicide has been at the forefront of my professional life, and over the years I’ve heard so many stories from families and individuals bereaved by suicide.  Each story is unique, but equally heart-breaking and a devastating tragedy on all levels.

In this line of work you cannot help but ask some of the bigger questions and reflect on life, and what it is all about. Unfortunately, there are far more questions than answers, something that is particularly difficult to come to terms with, the ‘why’ and ‘what if’ questions.  It is acceptance that some questions may never be answered that is a step towards hope and recovery.

Whilst there may be signs to indicate suicidal thoughts, despair can also be invisible. Someone may become reclusive, others may appear outwardly confident, indeed the life and soul of the party.

During the pandemic we have seen more campaigns on mental health awareness and encouraging people to speak out, to not be afraid to seek help -which is great. But we should also nurture a culture that works both ways. Take the time to notice others, to offer support even when it may not be obvious it is needed.

You cannot second guess how you think someone else is feeling, but by asking and listening you can find out. You might be the only person that has actually shown an interest in how they are.

The Tomorrow Project continues to offer crucial support for those who have been bereaved, affected or exposed to suicide.

If you have been bereaved or affected by suicide, no matter your age or who you lost, send a message and we will get back to you within 72 hours. :

bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk

Stay safe everyone x

Stacey,

Suicide Bereavement Support Officer