Mother’s Day and grief
Mother’s day and the lead up can be extremely difficult for anyone whose mum or child has died. The day may bring with it many painful and difficult feelings, and we wanted to reach out to support you on this day. Take some time on this day to really look after yourself and do things that you know normally you enjoy.
Sometimes the anticipation of certain times of year can be worse than the actual days themselves. Perhaps the most important thing is to simply recognise that the upcoming days or weeks might be hard.
It’s OK if you don’t want to go out
Sometimes just having a nice bunch of flowers or a photo to look at, in the comfort of your home, and a still moment of reflection can help you through the day.
Spend time outdoors
Research shows us that spending time in nature makes us feel happier. Spending time outdoors to reflect and take comfort in nature may be helpful particularly on this day.
Be kind to yourself
You may feel emotionally drained and it’s important to really put yourself first today. Whatever it means to support you….a dinner you love, an exercise class, walk in the park, your favourite movie. Be gentle with yourself today. You’re doing your best and your best is good enough.
Reach out if you need support
If you are struggling reach out to someone you feel close to. Or if you know the day will be hard, speak to a friend or family member and pre arrange company on this day.
Involve children in decisions on the day
Involving children on decision for the day empowers them and will support them through the day. Ask them and really listen empathically to how they feel about Mother’s Day. Provide them with a safe space where they are able to explore the feelings this day is bringing up. They may even come up with a wonderfully creative and imaginative idea for the day. Don’t be afraid to ask.
Don’t feel guilty
Allow yourself to enjoy moments when they happen and don’t feel bad when they do. It’s ok to be sad and it’s ok to be happy. This is normal, healthy and human. We all manage differently and that’s okay too.
If you need support on this day…
Marie Curie are free to call on Mother’s day 10am-4pm on 0800 090 2309
Cruse Bereavement Care are going live on Facebook at 3pm, they will offer a warm and safe space to ask questions around care and support.
You can also contact Samaritans for free on 116 123.