This Christmas we are holding a special raffle to raise vital funds to keep our life saving services running.

All the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm and/or have suicidal thoughts, their friends and families and professionals.

Every pound that is donated through the purchase of a raffle ticket will directly be used to provide life saving support.

Ticket sales will close at the end of the day on Sunday 8th December 2019 with the draw to take place on Monday 9th December 2019.  Please make sure you include a phone number and email address so that we can contact you if you win.

Each £1 raffle ticket purchased equals to one entry.

For tickets click here

  1. VIP paintball experience tickets (10 tickets including equipment hire, 100 balls pp, snacks and access to leading venue)
  2. 30 minute studio session voucher including framed8x10 print from Captcha Photography
  3. A bottle of Burleighs gin
  4. A bottle of Southern comfort
  5. £10 M&S voucher
  6. JoJo Mamon Bebe gift card
  7. You are brave – Illustration print
  8. 3 handmade cards from Faye Stevens designs
  9. Lego Star Wars – Han Solo
  10. Silicon flexible roll up piano
  11. PS3 Game – Little Big Planet
  12. Jellyfish Aquarian mood light
  13. Heatable lavender soft toy penguin
  14. Heatable lavender soft toy cat
  15. Glitter Babes make your own pom-pom charms
  16. Insulated football themed lunch box with sports bottle
  17. 2 in 1 ballpoint pen and iTouch pen stylus

We wish you the best of luck in the draw!

From Harm to Hope

From Harm to Hope

Theme – Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women.

Friday 28th February 2020

£100 per delegate place

(£90 Early bird rate end on 30th November, tickets will be £100 thereafter. Tickets must be booked and paid for to qualify for the Early Bird rate)

As a third sector organisation, we appreciate the barriers that many professionals face when accessing CPD opportunities. We are proud to offer  reduced ticket prices to ensure those who support people bereaved by suicide can improve their skills and knowledge in a more affordable way. Some things are more important than just making money.  

Conference details:

The theme of our conference is Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. 

The theme of this conference in response to the shocking rise in female suicides. Rates for females’ ages 10-24 has seen the most significant increase with deaths at 3.3 per 100,000 females in the UK.

Research is telling us that whilst men are the most at risk group to die by suicide, the rate of deaths by women are increasing at shocking rate, and Harmless in response have themed our conference around this.

Join us to explore:  Apathy, The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. With presentations and workshops around trauma, personality disorder, self harm, domestic abuse and eating disorders we hope the day will respond time the needs of women, firmly and positively.

This exciting new event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and suicide prevention and practitioners & academics within the field in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

  • Collaborative partnership
  • Service user representation
  • Effective practice
  • Driving change
  • Overcoming stigma and discrimination

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm and suicide prevention.

 

Confirmed Sessions:

Perinatal Mental Health

Trauma

Personality Disorder

Menopause

Domestic Abuse

Easting Disorders

Autism

Venue:

The conference will be held at the specialist conference venue in the heart of Nottingham, The Nottingham Conference Centre at Nottingham Trent University. For directions please click here

Where can I find more information?

If you would like more information about the forthcoming conference, then please email admin@harmless.org.uk

Or speak directly to a member of our team on0115 880 0280

Office closure

Harmless and The Tomorrow Project Christmas Closure

The Harmless and Tomorrow Project team are taking some well-deserved time off over Christmas as we prepare for what will be a busy 2020!

Services will close on Wednesday 18th December and reopen Thursday 2nd January 2020.

The team would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has supported us over this past year – your kindest and generosity has literally helped us save lives. We are confident that next year will bring many more achievements as we continue to have significant and positive influence in the field of self harm, suicide and mental health.

2020 will see us hold our fifth national self harm conference ‘From Harm to Hope’ on February 28th and many more exciting things to come.

On behalf of the team, we wish everyone a safe and happy Christmas and New Year.

If you need immediate support over the next couple of weeks, please call Hope Line on 0800 068 41 41 or the Samaritans on 116 123.

Last chance

This Christmas we are holding a special raffle to raise vital funds to keep our life saving services running.

All the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm and/or have suicidal thoughts, their friends and families and professionals.

Every pound that is donated through the purchase of a raffle ticket will directly be used to provide life saving support.

Ticket sales will close at the end of the day on Sunday 8th December 2019 with the draw to take place on Monday 9th December 2019.  Please make sure you include a phone number and email address so that we can contact you if you win.

Each £1 raffle ticket purchased equals to one entry.

For tickets click here

  1. VIP paintball experience tickets (10 tickets including equipment hire, 100 balls pp, snacks and access to leading venue)
  2. 30 minute studio session voucher including framed8x10 print from Captcha Photography
  3. A bottle of Burleighs gin
  4. A bottle of Southern comfort
  5. £10 M&S voucher
  6. JoJo Mamon Bebe gift card
  7. You are brave – Illustration print
  8. 3 handmade cards from Faye Stevens designs
  9. Lego Star Wars – Han Solo
  10. Silicon flexible roll up piano
  11. PS3 Game – Little Big Planet
  12. Jellyfish Aquarian mood light
  13. Heatable lavender soft toy penguin
  14. Heatable lavender soft toy cat
  15. Glitter Babes make your own pom-pom charms
  16. Insulated football themed lunch box with sports bottle
  17. 2 in 1 ballpoint pen and iTouch pen stylus

We wish you the best of luck in the draw!

Coping With Grief During the festive season

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year,” the song tells us. But if you’re dealing with grief — namely the death of a loved one — the holiday season can become a barrage of painful reminders that your life isn’t what you had hoped.

Surrounded by holiday joy and cheer, you may feel overwhelmed by a calendar full of traditions that remind you of your loss, or pressured by how you think you “should” feel, or perhaps tempted to numb the pain. No matter what Hallmark says, the holidays are a stressful time, even for people who aren’t dealing with grief.

“Our cultural expectation is that holidays are the time when family comes together,” says Kristin Neff, PhD, author of The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas, Austin. If someone you love has died, though, “it’s going to be harder because you have this expectation of what you want it to be. The discrepancy between how things are and how we want them to be is more salient in the holiday season.”

Rather than resisting the reality of grief during the holidays, work toward a version of your experience that addresses what you need to honor your feelings — whatever they are. Here are six steps to help you handle grief at this time of year.

1. Feel your feelings. 

The first step is to acknowledge what you’re experiencing as a normal emotion. “What we resist persists,” Neff says. “If you try to force it or fix it, it makes it worse and will make the grief last longer.”

Give yourself and those you love compassion and kindness. There’s no right way to experience grief, no “appropriate” amount of time in which you have to “get over it.” “It’s really about giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are, and not to feel that you have to be someplace else in your grieving process,” Neff says.

2. Plan ahead. 

It’s easy to get swept up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays, especially if you’re emotionally stressed. But having a bit of control over your circumstances makes the grieving process easier, and knowing what’s coming can lessen the overwhelm. Schedule free time on your calendar so you can exercise or take a walk or care for yourself in whatever way you need.

If you’re going to an office party or family gathering that you suspect will be difficult, take along a grief buddy. That’s a friend who can be your wing person, monitor alcohol intake, and maneuver a quick exit if you start flagging, explains Heather Stang, MA, C-IAYT, yoga therapist and author of Mindfulness and Grief. Or perhaps make a plan for immediately after the event, like debriefing over tea with a friend or snuggling with your dog. Seek out confidantes who can listen without judgment or advice, who can be “a heart with ears,” says Ed Owens, director of advanced Grief Recovery Method programs for the Grief Recovery Institute in Bend, Ore.

3. Learn to say no. 

The holiday traditions you used to adore can feel like a burden when you’re already struggling. It’s OK to take a break from making the cranberry sauce or attending annual parties, especially obligations that bring up too many painful memories or make you feel spread thin. Let go of traditions that aren’t serving you now, and know that you can always resume them another year. Steer clear of relatives who may be especially triggering for you.

You might want to replace the usual Black Friday shopping with a service trip or volunteering for a cause that resonates with the person you’re mourning, Stang suggests. Ignore objections from family or friends who don’t understand, and remind yourself that everyone grieves differently. “We can’t make everybody happy, and that’s hard,” Stang concedes. “But the most important thing is to reduce your suffering.” 

4. Put your physical body first. 

People face higher risk of injury or death in the year after losing a loved one, Stang explains. That’s partly because of reduced immune functioning due to the stress, and partly because you’re more prone to accidents when exhausted and distracted. Guard against this by giving your body good nutrition, adequate sleep, and movement — any kind of movement, even if you’re not up for your usual exercise routine. Moving your body releases neurochemicals that give you hope and facilitate bonding with others, says Kelly McGonigal, PhD, psychologist, group fitness instructor, and author of The Joy of Movement.

“One of the things that surprises people who are grieving is that you don’t always get that immediate boost you’re used to from exercising,” McGonigal says. “You can feel as though this feeling that you’ve known your whole life is abandoning you when you need it most. Moving your body still helps; it just might feel different.”

In fact, group fitness classes are one of the few places you can connect with other people without feeling pressure to put on a happy face or play a certain role. “You get all the connection that comes from moving together and breathing together and sweating together,” McGonigal adds. It also wards off the tendency mourners might have to isolate themselves at a time when human connection can be so healing.

5. Get support. 

Even if a group fitness class doesn’t speak to you during this time, find a way to resist the common impulse to become isolated in grief. You need the help and support of your family and friends, and you’re not a burden. “Every human experiences grief,” Owens says. “It’s one of our most shared, fundamental emotional experiences.”

Many organizations offer professional support, whether through grief counselors, support groups, or services provided by local hospitals. Check bulletin boards and websites for announcements, or try your local mental-health associations. One good resource is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, which can offer referrals to grief resources, counselors, and groups. The Grief Recovery Institute’s handbook is also available in libraries and bookstores nationwide, or you can find free e-books on the organization’s website.

6. Take action. 

Owens teaches people to communicate the unsaid emotions or messages to a lost loved one. “We carry these things with us that we didn’t have a chance to tell the other person — things we didn’t have a chance to do that we desperately wanted to do,” he says. “We identify what we wish had been better or different and then we can take some actions around those emotions,” he says. You can find closure by acknowledging and sharing your conflicted feelings, perhaps by writing a letter to your loved one or talking with a trusted friend about what you’ve been thinking.

You can also find ways to honor your loved ones, such as putting pictures on a table by the door, where you can pause in a moment of mindfulness. Or perhaps create a new holiday tradition in remembrance of them, or simply let yourself feel their presence during the season, Stang says. “They’re no longer physically here; how do we continue our love even though they’re physically absent?”

Karen Paul, 56, an essayist and fundraising consultant in Takoma Park, Md., lost her husband Jonathan to glioblastoma. She plans to immerse herself in a mikvah, a Jewish ritual bath, every month this year, to “wash myself of grief.” Mark Cobb, 59, of Silver Spring, Md., sent a floral bouquet every December 21st to his best friend Matthew’s mother to honor the anniversary of Matthew’s funeral after he died of AIDS in 1991. “The last bouquet I sent was to her funeral. If anything closed out that chapter, it was that last bouquet,” recalls Cobb, who now feels only the sweetness of memories. “How lucky am I that those people were in my life.”

Coping With Grief During the Holidays

From Harm to Hope

From Harm to Hope

Theme – Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women.

Friday 28th February 2020

£100 per delegate place

(£90 Early bird rate end on 30th November, tickets will be £100 thereafter. Tickets must be booked and paid for to qualify for the Early Bird rate)

As a third sector organisation, we appreciate the barriers that many professionals face when accessing CPD opportunities. We are proud to offer  reduced ticket prices to ensure those who support people bereaved by suicide can improve their skills and knowledge in a more affordable way. Some things are more important than just making money.  

Conference details:

The theme of our conference is Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. 

The theme of this conference in response to the shocking rise in female suicides. Rates for females’ ages 10-24 has seen the most significant increase with deaths at 3.3 per 100,000 females in the UK.

Research is telling us that whilst men are the most at risk group to die by suicide, the rate of deaths by women are increasing at shocking rate, and Harmless in response have themed our conference around this.

Join us to explore:  Apathy, The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. With presentations and workshops around trauma, personality disorder, self harm, domestic abuse and eating disorders we hope the day will respond time the needs of women, firmly and positively.

This exciting new event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and suicide prevention and practitioners & academics within the field in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

  • Collaborative partnership
  • Service user representation
  • Effective practice
  • Driving change
  • Overcoming stigma and discrimination

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm and suicide prevention.

 

Confirmed Sessions:

Perinatal Mental Health

Trauma

Personality Disorder

Menopause

Domestic Abuse

Easting Disorders

Autism

Venue:

The conference will be held at the specialist conference venue in the heart of Nottingham, The Nottingham Conference Centre at Nottingham Trent University. For directions please click here

Where can I find more information?

If you would like more information about the forthcoming conference, then please email admin@harmless.org.uk

Or speak directly to a member of our team on0115 880 0280

Last few days

This Christmas we are holding a special raffle to raise vital funds to keep our life saving services running.

All the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm and/or have suicidal thoughts, their friends and families and professionals.

Every pound that is donated through the purchase of a raffle ticket will directly be used to provide life saving support.

Ticket sales will close at the end of the day on Sunday 8th December 2019 with the draw to take place on Monday 9th December 2019.  Please make sure you include a phone number and email address so that we can contact you if you win.

Each £1 raffle ticket purchased equals to one entry.

For tickets click here

  1. VIP paintball experience tickets (10 tickets including equipment hire, 100 balls pp, snacks and access to leading venue)
  2. 30 minute studio session voucher including framed8x10 print from Captcha Photography
  3. A bottle of Burleighs gin
  4. A bottle of Southern comfort
  5. £10 M&S voucher
  6. JoJo Mamon Bebe gift card
  7. You are brave – Illustration print
  8. 3 handmade cards from Faye Stevens designs
  9. Lego Star Wars – Han Solo
  10. Silicon flexible roll up piano
  11. PS3 Game – Little Big Planet
  12. Jellyfish Aquarian mood light
  13. Heatable lavender soft toy penguin
  14. Heatable lavender soft toy cat
  15. Glitter Babes make your own pom-pom charms
  16. Insulated football themed lunch box with sports bottle
  17. 2 in 1 ballpoint pen and iTouch pen stylus

We wish you the best of luck in the draw!

New training dates

 
Derbyshire county council have commissioned Harmless to deliver half day Mental health awareness sessions for staff and volunteers from a broad range of statutory, community and voluntary sector organisations, working within Derbyshire county (excluding city).
 
Please note that you must work with people in Derbyshire county in order to meet the eligibility criteria for this free training session.
 
Upcoming December dates
Tuesday 03/12/19 – Mental Health Awareness Training 13:00-17:00 (Amber Valley, Ripley)
Thursday 05/12/19- Mental Health Awareness Training 09:00-13:00 (South Derbyshire, Melbourne)
Monday 09/12/19 – Mental Health Awareness Training 13:00-17:00 (North East Derbyshire, Stretton)
 
Learning Outcomes
 
• The continuum of mental health and dual axis model
• Signs and symptoms of mental health problems
• Prevalence of mental health problems
• Populations at higher risk
• Protective and risk factors
• Impact of mental health problems
• Stigma and discrimination
• Approaches to incorporate into own practice in order to support interaction
• Resources and services available both nationally and locally (Derbyshire)
 
To register your interest please visit our Eventbrite page – https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/harmless-lets-talk-training-14795237737

Last chance for tickets

This Christmas we are holding a special raffle to raise vital funds to keep our life saving services running.

All the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm and/or have suicidal thoughts, their friends and families and professionals.

Every pound that is donated through the purchase of a raffle ticket will directly be used to provide life saving support.

Ticket sales will close at the end of the day on Sunday 8th December 2019 with the draw to take place on Monday 9th December 2019.  Please make sure you include a phone number and email address so that we can contact you if you win.

Each £1 raffle ticket purchased equals to one entry.

For tickets click here

  1. VIP paintball experience tickets (10 tickets including equipment hire, 100 balls pp, snacks and access to leading venue)
  2. 30 minute studio session voucher including framed8x10 print from Captcha Photography
  3. A bottle of Burleighs gin
  4. A bottle of Southern comfort
  5. £10 M&S voucher
  6. JoJo Mamon Bebe gift card
  7. You are brave – Illustration print
  8. 3 handmade cards from Faye Stevens designs
  9. Lego Star Wars – Han Solo
  10. Silicon flexible roll up piano
  11. PS3 Game – Little Big Planet
  12. Jellyfish Aquarian mood light
  13. Heatable lavender soft toy penguin
  14. Heatable lavender soft toy cat
  15. Glitter Babes make your own pom-pom charms
  16. Insulated football themed lunch box with sports bottle
  17. 2 in 1 ballpoint pen and iTouch pen stylus

We wish you the best of luck in the draw!

From Harm to Hope

From Harm to Hope

Theme – Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women.

Friday 28th February 2020

£100 per delegate place

(£90 Early bird rate end on 30th November, tickets will be £100 thereafter. Tickets must be booked and paid for to qualify for the Early Bird rate)

As a third sector organisation, we appreciate the barriers that many professionals face when accessing CPD opportunities. We are proud to offer  reduced ticket prices to ensure those who support people bereaved by suicide can improve their skills and knowledge in a more affordable way. Some things are more important than just making money.  

Conference details:

The theme of our conference is Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. 

The theme of this conference in response to the shocking rise in female suicides. Rates for females’ ages 10-24 has seen the most significant increase with deaths at 3.3 per 100,000 females in the UK.

Research is telling us that whilst men are the most at risk group to die by suicide, the rate of deaths by women are increasing at shocking rate, and Harmless in response have themed our conference around this.

Join us to explore:  Apathy, The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women. With presentations and workshops around trauma, personality disorder, self harm, domestic abuse and eating disorders we hope the day will respond time the needs of women, firmly and positively.

This exciting new event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and suicide prevention and practitioners & academics within the field in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

  • Collaborative partnership
  • Service user representation
  • Effective practice
  • Driving change
  • Overcoming stigma and discrimination

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm and suicide prevention.

 

Confirmed Sessions:

Perinatal Mental Health

Trauma

Personality Disorder

Menopause

Domestic Abuse

Easting Disorders

Autism

Venue:

The conference will be held at the specialist conference venue in the heart of Nottingham, The Nottingham Conference Centre at Nottingham Trent University. For directions please click here

Where can I find more information?

If you would like more information about the forthcoming conference, then please email admin@harmless.org.uk

Or speak directly to a member of our team on0115 880 0280