Oh Christmas tree, Oh Christmas tree…

We would love to re-home all the Christmas Trees in our Forest of hope to people in need or distress. If anyone would like a Christmas tree please send us an email at info@harmless.org.uk to reserve the tree and you can collect Friday 15 December.

 

We want to do all we can to bring as much joy and hope to anyone in need. If you’d like a tree from our forest of hope, please let us know.

Ways to contact:

info@harmless.org.uk or 0115 880 0280

Would you like to work for Harmless as part of our clinical team?

We are currently recruiting for a Specialist Therapist to join the Harmless team. The deadline for applications is Monday 27th November 2017 at 12pm, with interviews to take place in the week commencing 4th December 2017.

To download the job description, please click here.

To download an application form, please click here.

JOB TITLE: Specialist Therapist

HOURS: Up to 37.5 hours per week

SALARY: £23,250 per annum

START DATE: 8th January 2018

This position has been funded by the Big Lottery Fund.

Harmless are pleased to offer an exciting opportunity to join our passionate team and help us save lives.  We are looking for a dynamic individual, who is willing to develop their skills; work outside the box and challenge themselves in order to do whatever is required to help people attain recovery.

This role is particularly well suited to a therapist early in their career looking for a long term opportunity to develop as a specialist therapist.

Application Deadline: 27th November 2017 at 12pm.

Interviews will be held in Nottingham w/c 4th December 2017.

Please send your completed application form by the deadline to info@harmless.org.uk.

If you have any questions regarding the role or the application process, please contact us by calling 0115 880 0280 or email info@harmless.org.uk.

Would you like to work for Harmless as part of our clinical team?

We are currently recruiting for a Specialist Therapist to join the Harmless team. The deadline for applications is Monday 27th November 2017 at 12pm, with interviews to take place in the week commencing 4th December 2017.

To download the job description, please click here.

To download an application form, please click here.

JOB TITLE: Specialist Therapist

HOURS: Up to 37.5 hours per week

SALARY: £23,250 per annum

START DATE: 8th January 2018

This position has been funded by the Big Lottery Fund.

Harmless are pleased to offer an exciting opportunity to join our passionate team and help us save lives.  We are looking for a dynamic individual, who is willing to develop their skills; work outside the box and challenge themselves in order to do whatever is required to help people attain recovery.

This role is particularly well suited to a therapist early in their career looking for a long term opportunity to develop as a specialist therapist.

Application Deadline: 27th November 2017 at 12pm.

Interviews will be held in Nottingham w/c 4th December 2017.

Please send your completed application form by the deadline to info@harmless.org.uk.

If you have any questions regarding the role or the application process, please contact us by calling 0115 880 0280 or email info@harmless.org.uk.

Save a life this Christmas!

Please support our Christmas Appeal. if you were thinking of donating instead of sending cards, or you’d like to do something good for someone instead of buying a gift – then please think of us.

Each year we receive more and more requests for help and hear increasingly tragic stories of loss, yet we still have no statutory funding for our work.

For us to even think about delivering the same level of support in 2018 we are going to need your help.

Please share our appeal far and wide. However little or much you can afford, every penny will help. Please visit the following link if you would like to make a donation:

https://localgiving.org/appeal/savealife/?preview=1267

Caroline Harroe CEO of Harmless nominated at NCVS Community Stars

NET’s Community Stars 2017 will celebrate the voluntary and unpaid contribution many people make across the city by giving the general public the opportunity to nominate individuals that they feel have made a difference and the ultimate accolade is that the NET Community Star for 2017 will have a tram named after them for a year.

Tonight’s event celebrates the fantastic achievements of individuals in Nottingham who support and help others and all of the nominees, nominators and partner organisations have been invited to the ‘Best In Nottingham’ awards ceremony taking place on tonight at the Royal Albert Hall. The event is sponsored by Big Lottery Celebrate Programme and the NET Community Star 2017 will be named at this celebration event.

Big congratulations to all of the nominees!!

Could you write a blog for us?

Harmless would like to invite you to contribute to our blog. Our blog is important to us because it helps us convey a range of issues around self harm and suicide to the public. It helps us reach people in distress and promote better understanding about these issues amongst our readers.

It helps us tell you about our work, upcoming events, dispel myths and offer advice. But we also want it to challenge stigma and to offer real stories about self harm and recovery so that people reading this can feel connected to what we do and who we help.

If you would like to write a blog for us about your experiences, then you can submit this to info@harmless.org.uk with the title ‘blog post’. In your email, please tell us what name you would like us to use for you. You can say as little about your identity as you want.

The blog should be about 200 -300 words in length and shouldn’t be graphic in any way, but should offer the reader an insight into your experiences that mighty help them relate to self harm, distress, or suicide. The blog could be about what you’ve felt or experienced, what’s helped, or not helped… What needs to change, or what he stigma around these issues has been for you.

It is vital to harmless that we represent your voice and your experiences, so if you feel you can contribute to this blog, please do.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Do you have any items you may no longer need?

As some of you may know, Harmless and The Tomorrow Project have recently moved into our new home!

Do you have items you may no longer need?

De-stashing the house ready for Christmas?

We want our spaces to be welcoming, comfortable and supportive and we are reaching out to anyone who may be able to offer us a helping hand with a few items, such as;

Cutlery

Hand towels

Tea towels

Cushions

Pictures/Canvases

Children’s toys

Art and craft materials

Please do get in touch if you are able to support us with any of these!

Phone: 0115 880 0280

Email: info@harmless.org.uk

We thank you for your continued support

How easy do you find it to switch off? Science says it may depend on your age group.

According to market research conducted in 2015 by Mintel, young adults aged between 16 to 34 are the ‘most stressed’ age group, and experts are pointing the blame directly at this group’s high levels of social media exposure. The average UK home now owns 7.4 devices which are connected to the internet. When broken down, that’s an average of 1.7 smartphones, 1.3 laptops and 1.2 tablets, one games console, 0.6 desktop computers and 0.5 connected TVs per household. These high levels of connectivity are making it harder for us to disengage.

Technology has transformed our 9 to 5, giving us better opportunities and communication tools, but it’s also made it harder to unwind. Thankfully, there are some simple steps you can take to enhance your downtime and reduce stress.

  1. Retrain your brain. When bored or stressed, it’s easy to crave a quick fix in the form of clicks and likes, but breaking this habit will mean your happiness isn’t dependent on the number of shares your latest tweet received. If you crave social interaction, spending time (in person) with family and friends will give you a long-term boost, and get you away from the screen.
  2. Take a walk – and leave your phone in your pocket. Research by the University of Essex has found that exercising in pleasant surroundings has a greater effect in reducing blood pressure than hitting the gym and plugging into another screen. Green spaces and fresh air, ideally close to water, were shown to significantly improve self-esteem and enable participants to relax more effectively in the evening.
  3. Treat your commute as ‘me-time’ not an opportunity to work remotely. Professor Mark Cropley, author of The Off-Switch, advises: “The shortest route to changing your thought pattern is to find a task that is the total opposite to your work and completely absorbs the mind. For an accountant who looks as a screen for ten hours a day, for example, cycling home – a physical activity where you have to be aware of traffic around you – is ideal.”
  4. Practise mindfulness. Limit distractions such as the TV, radio or flicking between apps and take the time to focus on your food, notice your surroundings and tune into how you are feeling. Identifying feelings of stress and when and why they occur will enable you to take control of them. If you feel stressed, meditating on an object, taking in its texture, appearance and smell can help you remain calm.
  5. Read a book in bed – not your tablet. Oxford scientists have declared that we now get up to two hours’ less sleep than we did 60 years ago, and this could be due to our use of bright screens at bedtime, which prevent our brains from releasing melatonin, the hormone that tells our bodies it’s night time. Turning off your tablet an hour before bedtime, can help keep our body clock in check. “Make sure you read with traditional lighting, so called ‘warm’ light with more energy in the red end of the spectrum,” adds psychologist Lynn D. Johnson.“That convinces the brain it is sundown and time to quiet down.”
  6. To aid sleep further, take a bath. Not only does soaking in the bath encourage you to put down your smartphone, but the hot water will raise your body temperature slightly so that when you get out the quick cooldown mimics the natural temperature drop triggered by the brain before sleep. To get the most out of your bath, practise meditation, read a good book or listen to music rather than switching on Netflix. Essential oils like lavender and eucalyptus are also renowned for their calming, therapeutic effects. Focus on your breathing, and cherish the opportunity to have time and space all to yourself.

For the full article https://uk.lush.com/article/how-pull-plug-stress

It’s OK to have a bad day

(A really wonderful blog post by Orlagh Grace at Orlaghslittlecorner.wordpress.com)

I feel there is so much pressure to make everyday a ‘good day’ a ‘productive day’ a ‘I did something amazing today day’. But reality is it’s OK not to have a good day everyday. Cause life is tough sometimes, and somedays can feel like the whole world is crashing down on you with no way out  (and crying about it can be a good thing! You gotta let it all out every now and then!).

You are allowed to have a bad day. Cause sometimes that’s the day where mistakes are made and lessons are learnt, or its sometimes when problems arise and you learn to become stronger and more equipped at dealing with them.

Whatever a good day is to one person is different to another person. So make your day whatever kind of day it needs to be. Be happy if your feeling the happy vibes, and vice versa. And if you need to talk and someone asks if you are alright -then talk (it can help so much)! Don’t feel pressured to make everyone believe you’re having a good day if you’re not.

And I totally get it; that social media is a killer, everything looks so much better on people’s insta, or snaps or fb pics. But you gotta know that most of that stuff, is just the stuff people want you to see. What you need to know is that, that person is actually living a life which has many ups and many downs- just like everyone else. And even if they don’t advertise it that way, it doesn’t mean its ‘peachy’ for them all of the time. But I know that seeing all these productive, ‘something amazing happend’ and super good posts all the time makes you wonder ‘why is my day not like that?’.

Reality is your day may not be like that and may not be a ‘good day’ kinda day. However having said what I have said, I do like to try and look for positives in every situation. I am a believer that “not everyday is a good day, but there is something good in everyday.” Truthfully you have got to look super hard sometimes, but there will (99% of the time) be some way you can pull something positive from whatever situation or day you’ve had.

So when someone asks you how your day was, a friend, parent, partner -whoever, be truthful cause it’s ok not to have a good day everyday. But also make
sure you can evaluate your day and differentiate the negative parts from the positive! Grow from every experience you have .

Now go out and have your day-whatever day it may be!
Be positive. Be kind. Spread some good vibes

Click here for the link to Oralghs website for loads more wonderful posts to brighten your day. 

Creating a safe place for those who need it

Sometimes, people want us to tell them outright why they self-harm or have thoughts of suicide. We could present them with research, evaluations, meta-analyses or literature reviews into risk factors etc., but this is often not helpful for someone experiencing a crisis. While we work with these resources in mind with research and clinical best practice baked into the foundations of the service through safety planning, risk management, safeguarding as well as providing our many excellent CPD accredited training courses, here, we provide people with a safe place to explore their self-harm and suicidality for themselves, free of fear of a negative response, fear or panic.

More often than not, the process of helping someone understand for themselves facilitates not only recognition of why they self-harm or feel suicidal, but presents a turning point that that person identifies for themselves with our continued support. After all, while we’re a service that prides itself on its ability to support people who self-harm or have thoughts of suicide, each person is the expert of their own lives and minds. It’s our hope (and privilege) that people entrust their feelings with us so that we can help them manage self-harm and suicidal thoughts in a way that fits them.

Indeed, Harmless has recently presented at Parliament, represented itself on various national news platforms with the support of some of our clients, and won several awards for our efforts in understanding and preventing self-harm and suicide. While we do not evaluate ourselves on the size of our trophy cases or how many news outlets we speak to, it emphasizes that we are a service that people can rely on for information and support around self-harm and suicide; our clients, families, and professionals alike. With Harmless having just reached its 10 year milestone, I’m proud to work in a service that has gone from strength to strength over the past decade in supporting people who self-harm or have thoughts of suicide.

Many thanks,

Bevan Dolan, Suicide Crisis Project Worker