Thank you Happy Daze!

All of us here at Harmless & The Tomorrow Project would like to extend a big thank you to Alex and Craig Earley who run the Happy Daze shop in Beeston.

They have been doing some amazing fundraising in the form of a raffle over the past couple of months  to raise money for The Tomorrow Project.

They had a target of £500 but have totally smashed it to raise a fantastic £618 for our suicide prevention services!

Thank you to both Alex and Craig and to all those who purchased tickets for the raffle. Your amazing support really does help us to support more people in need and help us in our mission to save lives.

Want to meet our next amazing woman?

The next in our series of images celebrating the needs, vulnerabilities and most importantly, the strengths of women introduces @thesarahmanton

Sarah runs Curious in Snienton Market creating designs from paper for her clients, twice for the royal family. She’s now also working on The People’s Forest, a project that is aiming to plant new trees throughout Nottingham in order to reconnect the city with Sherwood Forest.

 

Want to know why you should get training with Harmless?

Harmless is a social enterprise. That means that we generate income to spend on social cause. Our social cause is saving the lives of people in distress.

Every day we see people who are at risk of suicide or who are contemplating ending their own life. We rarely get funding for this work.

Many years ago we had to decide whether or not we continue to try to save the lives of these people. The answer is obviously yes! However, in order to do so we have to make the money ourselves. This is why you should buy your training with our organisation. Not only does the training come with a high level of quality assurance and the content is responsive and useful; it actually saves lives. The money that we make through the sale of our training courses means that each day lives are saved.

So drop us a line and see how we can help you with your training needs whilst you see how you can help us to save the lives of those people who need us the most.

We look forward to working with you!

 

Email: training@harmless.org.uk

Phone: 0115 880 0281

A massive THANK YOU to Joey Collins and everyone involved

From everyone here at Harmless & The Tomorrow Project, we would like to extend our thanks to Joey Collins and all those involved in the mental health fundraiser which took place at Rough Trade in Nottingham last week.

The event brought together 5 music acts who put on a gig to support mental health and raise money for our services.

It is with support like this that we are able to continue supporting those in the community who need us most, helping us to create a brighter future for many.

The acts that performed on the night included:

The event helped to raise awareness of mental health while also raising money meaning we can help to support more people who self harm, are in suicide crisis or who have been bereaved by suicide. Your support really does save lives!

Introducing one of our new Therapists – Justina

Hi everyone!

My name is Justina and I joined Harmless team in October 2019 as a full-time therapist. I work in a Person-Centred way to provide psychotherapy to clients who are affected by self-harm and suicidal thoughts.

I thought I knew about the service before I joined Harmless, but it was just a tip of the iceberg. Although Harmless have limited resources, I have first-hand witnessed how our staff go far and beyond to support a wide range of clients. Providing therapy and project work for people who self-harm is just a small part of our job. I feel privileged to be a part of the small Harmless team and also belong to a much bigger team of suicide prevention officers, suicide bereavement support workers, mental health trainers, researchers, fundraisers, admins, and managers.

I particularly value the fact that Harmless is a user-led organisation that also provides bespoke training. This way, our clients are not only listened to and heard in therapy sessions, but they are also approached in person-centred way on a wider, organisational level. This is why I also believe in practice that is informed by research, and vice versa – practice that informs science by generating data from genuine lived experiences of our clients.

Here at Harmless, I am looking forward to supporting clients in therapy sessions and hoping to improve their experiences within the organisation by engaging in research, getting to know and cooperating with other services available in the area, collaborating with local and national organisations to drive change in the mental health sector.

I have learned a lot in just a few months of being here, and I am eagerly waiting to expand and deepen my knowledge much more in my future with Harmless!

Justina

‘You’re stronger than you think you are’ – One of our clients shares their journey towards recovery

I will never forget the date and exact time that my life imploded, 23 June 2018 at 2:55pm. My partner of 16 years came upstairs and looked perturbed, I followed him downstairs and asked if he was OK. “I can’t do this anymore” were the words that came out of his mouth “It’s over.”

Those words haunted me for a very long time, and still do to some extent. I would cry myself to sleep and wake up in tears with the words ringing in my ears. Whilst I didn’t initially move out of the home we had recently bought together, we lived separate lives and seeing him every day inevitably brought about much grief and anxiety.

I started to up my drinking and without warning, I spiralled very quickly and the inevitable happened, I took an overdose.

I woke up in an emergency room, hooked up to machines and cried when I realised what I had done, but more so that I had survived. Full of remorse and regret I went home and was visited by my local mental health team, who advised me that I needed help, but a psychiatrist appointment was two years away, and that I should consider going private. I wondered at the time how many people survive that two years.

The months that followed were tough, and as anniversaries came and went, my anxiety levels became worse and I made three more attempts. Thankfully I survived and am here to tell my story.

I was introduced to Harmless through a friend of a friend, who was seriously concerned about me. I went to my first meeting and met Katie. I don’t remember much about it, as I cried throughout and poured my heart out into the room. She sat patiently, never once interrupting and listened intently. I left Harmless that day, got in the car to drive to London for work, and cried again, but it was an outpouring of relief more than sorrow. I remember calling a friend and telling them that I’d made the first step to recovery.

Whilst the journey hasn’t been easy, the glimmer of a flickering light at the end of a very long and dark tunnel kept me going. I would visit Katie weekly, sometimes I would laugh and others I would cry, but she was there, listening and helping.

Since the New Year, I believe I have turned a corner. I have a new job; my confidence is higher, and I am enjoying life once again. Don’t get me wrong, there are bad days too, but I know what I must do now to escape that temporary dark place. I refer to the safety plan that Katie and I put together, I use distraction techniques she taught me, and I make plans to stay safe.

If it wasn’t for Harmless and the wonderful Katie, I wouldn’t be typing this today, and in simple terms I wouldn’t be here. I owe my life to this amazing organisation, and I will never ever forget that they saved my life.

Stay safe out there, and remember, it’s always OK, to say I’m not OK.

You’re stronger than you think you are.

Come along to our Self Harm and Suicide Prevention Conference – 28th Feb 2020 in Nottingham

Our annual conference will this year be looking at ‘Apathy: The growing need for us to listen to our ‘hysterical’ women.’

For more information, or to book tickets, please click the following link: www.harmless.org.uk/store/From-Harm-to-hope-conference-2020

Or contact us on admin@harmless.org.uk, or 0115 880 0280 for more info.

Introducing Professor Tammi Walker – Speaker at our From Harm to Hope conference on 28th February 2020

Tammi is a Professor of Psychology at Teesside University. She is a Chartered Psychologist and Fellow of the British Psychological Society, Registered Senior Fellow with Advance HE and a mental health nurse by clinical background.

Tammi is the world’s leading authority on self-harm and suicide by women in prison and has published extensively on the topic. Her 2016 book Preventing Self-Injury and Suicide in Women’s Prisons (with Professor Graham Towl) is widely regarded as the most influential in forensic psychology.

At our conference on 28th February 2020, she will be presenting a session looking at ‘Women in Prison: Suicide, self-harm and the struggle for survival’.

If you are interesting in booking tickets to the conference, or would like further information, please visit www.harmless.org.uk/store/From-Harm-to-hope-conference-2020.

Or you can contact us by emailing admin@harmless.org.uk, or by calling 0115 880 0280.

Introducing one of our new Suicide Bereavement Support Officers, Thomas.

I joined the Tomorrow Project after volunteering in bereavement support for 3 years and I have heard some harrowing, traumatic and deeply tragic experiences of loss and Bereavement.  However, through those stories I have found that there is still hope and light for people and I have been committed to helping bereaved people through their dark times.

I hope to be able to continue supporting more people through their Bereavement with the Tomorrow Project and I am excited by the prospect of launching the Tomorrow Project in Derbyshire, with my new colleague Lisa. It is going to be a bit of a blank page and I’m sure their will be challenges along the way. Despite these probable challenges, it is such a worthwhile and important project that I will be fully committed to making the Derbyshire Tomorrow Project a success.  There are still a lot of barriers to break down in society when it comes to suicide and it is especially important to reverse the misconceptions that still surround it. Hopefully, this will allow us all to support people who are bereaved by suicide in the future.

Despite my eagerness to join the Tomorrow project, whenever there is change in my life it is greeted with a certain amount of uncertainty, which causes some anxiety and nerves. Although it is exciting to start a new challenge, I will have to adapt to a different working environment and build relationships with new colleagues. I think I can safely say I was in a comfort zone in my previous job. Working in the same job for 7 years gives you an experience and ultimately confidence as you know the job inside out. My new role will incorporate areas where I am confident, but I will also need to learn new skills, taking me away from my comfort zone.