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Harmless: Who we are?

Caroline Harroe CEO summing up what Harmless is all about. To learn more about how Harmless can help you or someone you know email: info@harmless.org.uk 

Pam Burrows on From Harm to Hope

01st March 2017 is Self harm awareness day and in line with this we are holding our National Conference, From Harm to Hope. 

Pam Burrows is just one of the many workshop speakers presenting on the day, here she is giving you a taste of what is to come. 

If you are interested in attending then please BOOK NOW or email admin@harmless.org.uk 


Self Harm Conference, From Harm to Hope – 1st March 2017 – 2 delegates for £200

Our 2nd annual national conference looking at effective services for people that self harm, current thinking and implications for practice.

£150 per place 
 2 places for £200*

To book tickets, please conatact us at admin@harmless.org.uk, or call us on 0115 934 8445. 


Conference details:

The theme of this years conference is understanding and change.

Harmless recognises that self harm effects a broad range of individuals, facing many diverse experiences; reducing the number of individuals that self harm requires contributions from across society and includes education, prevention, intervention and postvention work.

This exciting event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and practitioners & academics in the field of self harm in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

The conference will address a broad range of skills and learning needs, and provide an opportunity to examine working with a broad client base including young people and adults.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

Collaborative partnership,

Service user representation,

Effective practice,

Driving change,

Overcoming stigma and discrimination.

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm.

Confirmed Speakers:

Professor Rory O’Connor
Professor Ellen Townsend
Dr Ann John
Harriet Bickley




Caroline Harroe (Harmless)

Clinical Skills Masterclass


Sophie Allen (Harmless)

Understanding Recovery: Impact our Attitudes and Ethos have on Effective Recovery Rates


Sarah Kessling (Harmless)

Exploring possible online interventions, which help support self harm and the wider implications.


Claire Dixon (Harmless)

Propamanda: self harm and men (breaking the stigma)


Ruth Coward

Telling our stories: A gift to ourselves and future generations – Challenging stigma and affecting change.


Dr Hannah Heath

Listening to quieter voices: Understanding and meeting the needs of friends. Lindsey Barrett Distress tolerance and coping in a crisis.


Pam Burrows

Looking After Yourself too. Marie Armstrong Using a Narrative Approach to Re-Story Issues of Trust


Fiona Macaulay

Supporting a diverse range of needs within one service model – How can we adapt services to support a wide range of clients with varying needs?


Papyrus UK

Introduction to supporting young people who self harm.




The conference will be held at the specialist conference venue in the heart of Nottingham, The Nottingham Conference Centre. For directions please click here

Who we are:

Harmless is a user led service which provides support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm, their friends, families and professionals. We are committed to saving lives and giving a voice to those unheard. Harmless launched in 2007 and was set up by people who understand self harm. At the heart of our service is a real sense of hope, we know with the right support, and help life can get better. Find out more about Harmless by looking on our website www.harmless.org.uk

Where can I find more information?

If you would like more information about the forthcoming conference, or to book tickets, then please email admin@harmless.org.uk

Or speak directly to a member of our team on: 0115 934 8445.

*to qualify for this offer, both delegates must be booked at the same time and be part of the same organisation.

Harmless do the Mannequin Challenge

Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! 


Catch up Café

Harmless will be hosting a Catch up Café

Tuesday 13th December 2016

4.30 – 5.30 pm.

If you are 18 or over, and would like support for yourself, a friend or family member then feel free to come along.

Our sessions are friendly and welcoming. We create a relaxed atmosphere with approachable staff who provide important information explaining how our service can support you, your friends and family or a colleague.

Catch up Café sessions are held at Nottingham Community and Voluntary Centre on Mansfield Road (opposite House of Fraser).

If you have trouble finding us please call on 0115 8348445 (professional use only) or email us at info@harmless.org.uk

From Harm to Hope, National Harmless Conference

1st March 2017, Nottingham Conference Centre


Self harm conference 

Our 2nd Annual National Conference looking at effective services for people that self harm, current thinking and implication for practice. 

Themes for the day

- Driving change

-       Collaborative partnership

-       Service user representation

-       Effective practice

-       Overcoming stigma & discrimination

£150 per delegate, CPD certified, Workshops, Food, Speakers, 


Further enquiries or to book, please contact:
Phone: 0115 934 8445
Email: admin@harmless.org.uk

I would like to introduce James Park to you…

He is writing a book which look at the factors causing young people to self harm, the unhelpful ways in which services sometimes respond to their distress, and the routes people find back to feeling on top of things. 

He has written books before, ran for 20 years an organisation that helped schools promote young people’s mental health and emotional well-being, and is a qualified (but currently non-practising) psychotherapist.

He is happy to talk by phone, over skype, face-to-face… or in any other way that works for you. He will treat whatever you tell him as confidential and, if he does use elements of your story in the book, will ensure you cannot be identified.

You can get in touch with James by email (jamesrobertpark@icloud.com), by phone (0771 201 3172) or via Adrienne Grove at Harmless on 01158348445 or email adrienne@harmless.org.uk 

Please take a little time to read his email below and help him to get the correct messages across. If you have any questions please give me or James a call. This is our chance to be heard..

Adults not listening: will you tell me your story?

Ask a young person who sometimes self-harms, or thinks of killing themselves, what it is they most crave from the adults around them, and the chances are they’ll say it’s the opportunity to be really listened to. They may add that really listening is something their parents, teachers and others seem to find it really, really hard to do.

All too often, what adults call listening is actually telling: getting in first with a response to what they think a young person is wanting to say: trying to reassure them that they are loved, have the potential to do well in school, will get better in time. They challenge rather than absorb, try to map a shortcut to health rather than being attentive to the thoughts struggling to be expressed.

The effect on the young person is all too often to plunge them back into the despair they thought they were starting to claw their way out of. Asking to be listened to can be an act of considerable courage. It’s about starting to create a small space in which you can feel in control of your own life, evolving a language to express the strange feelings that toss you around: listening to your true self instead of the angry, reproachful voices in your head. Being talked back to just confirms what you feared all along: that you are powerless and undeserving.

In looking for an explanation of why so many young people today are experiencing such high levels of emotional distress, I suspect the answer is to be found in the fact that adults are finding it harder to listen. There are too many anxieties knocking around in their heads: particularly about whether there’s going to be work available for their child, a decent income to be earned: all of which is seen to be dependent on whether a child will get those grades they are going to need. And that’s before a child has started cutting themselves or opening top-floor windows with the thought that they might jump into oblivion.

Another way adults deal with their anxieties is handing the responsibility for listening to their child on to someone else. But while a therapist or counsellor may provide welcome respite, may foster the courage to go back and ask again… and again … for the right to be heard, they cannot replace having a parent who listens quietly … over many hours and days … to what it is their child is trying to make sense of.

And when an adult thinks they have been listening, and has done the caring thing by finding a professional to help, the next time they hear the child telling them they have not been heard, they may inadvertently, in a few unfortunate seconds, express exasperation or frustration, sparking a further downward spiral as the young person turns away, towards some other strategy for managing their despair.

I am writing a book about how we, as a society, can break these cycles of failed communication. To do that I want to hear your stories: whether of asking to be listened to from people who could not respond, or of finding a listener who helped you to health; of trying to listen but failing, or of finding a way to do so. Please get in touch via email (jamesrobertpark@icloud.com) or phone (0771 201 3172). I look forward to hearing from you.

All the best,


Harmless Drop in

Harmless will be hosting a

Young Person Drop in Session

Thursday 8th December.

4 – 5 pm

If you are aged between 11 – 21 years, and would like support for yourself, a friend or family member then feel free to come along.

Our sessions are friendly and welcoming. We create a relaxed atmosphere with approachable staff who provide important information explaining how our service can support you, your friends and family or a colleague.

Drop in sessions are held at Nottingham Community and Voluntary Centre on Mansfield Road (opposite House of Fraser).

If you have trouble finding us please call on 0115 8348445 (Professional use only)
or email us at info@harmless.org.uk

International Volunteer’s Day

International Volunteer Day on 5 December was designated by the United Nations in 1985 as an international observance day to celebrate the power and potential of volunteering.

Here at Harmless, we are a Community and Voluntary service, so we truly understand the power that volunteering holds, bringing communities together and strengthens the bonds between people, working towards a common goal.

When Harmless launched The Tomorrow Project in 2012, it was brought about due to a need in the community. A small, rural village was in the grips of terrible grief following the loss of a number of people from the community to suicide, with nothing resembling adequate support in place the residents were left reeling from their losses without knowing where to turn.

Seeing and feeling the pain all around her, our CEO Caroline Harroe launched The Tomorrow Project, holding a meeting in a church hall to ask the community what it was that they needed, so the project could ensure that the bereaved were receiving the support they truly needed. This process, along with crowdsourcing the name of the project from the same community, means that The Tomorrow Project is fortunate to benefit from a close relationship with the people for whom it was established.

From this, we’ve have voluntary contributions from different people and groups in many different forms, from a bereaved family holding fundraising events that raised around £4,000, to sponsored runs and bike rides to telling the story of their experiences with Harmless/The Tomorrow Project and how they’ve moved from despair to hope, and all of these are equally important.

So we’d like to take the opportunity on this, the week of International Volunteers Day, to once again thank everyone who has given their time, energy and effort to help us to be able to reach further, build higher and support better those who in need. Those who have turned their own experiences into a source of strength and used that to help support others. 

On behalf of all of us here at Harmless and the Tomorrow Project, thank you all.