Send a Card, Save a Life

Harmless’ Christmas Cards are now on sale!

Help support vital self harm and suicide prevention services by sending a festive card this holiday season!

Premium quality cards come in packs of 8 with 2 designs and self seal envelopes

 

 £4 per pack

All the money raised will go directly towards supporting the ongoing work of Harmless and The Tomorrow Project and saving lives.

Buy yours in our online store: www.harmless.org.uk/store/Christmas-cards 

A few words from a young service user about their experience of accessing our self harm services

As we say goodbye to 2015 and welcome 2016, we thought we’d take this opportunity to share a story we posted at Christmas last year. An inspirational story written by a young person who accessed support from Harmless.

‘Where do you start when your asked to write a blog on such a serious and sensitive topic? Especially when it’s to inform the many people effected how you were affected by a serious issue that can effect anyone! I suppose a good way to start would be the effects that self harm had on me.

I thought I was alone. I thought I was different. I thought everything was my fault. I thought self harm was the only option and nobody at all could help me change that. I thought wrong.

Of course it wasn’t easy but the things worth doing never are, but this was my first step to recovery and the beginning of a new chapter of my life.

I thought I’d give Harmless a go. After all if I didn’t like it I didn’t have to go again. The first week was scary, the tension was building up as the day got closer but that’s completely normal, just like trying anything you haven’t done before.

I met Adrienne, she seemed nice so I went again. I found the first few weeks a bit scary but as time went on I got more comfortable. One week had turned in to two weeks, two into three and eventually three into a year and a half.

I was terrified teenager, struggling to cope with everyday occurrences and self harming to get through each day. Thanks to Harmless I am me again. The past is a learning curve for me and the people I love and although I can’t predict the future I’m pretty sure it will be a bright, but that’s thanks to Harmless for helping me secure one. Without them I would still be surrounded by all the negative thoughts that are now behind me. All you have to remember is everybody deserves happiness, including you. Now when the going gets tough I know where to go.’

For more information about our services, please visit our website www.harmless.org.uk or email info@harmless.org.uk

Merry Christmas From Harmless and The Tomorrow Project

On behalf of the Harmless and Tomorrow Project team, we hope you all have a safe and happy Christmas.

As we said yesterday, Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone…

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.

Often people don’t know what to do when faced with someone who is struggling, but it’s simple, just be for there for them. Notice they’re feelings and don’t be afraid to ask how they’re doing, but most of all just make sure you make time for them.

Christmas can be especially hard for those with emotional health difficulties, people who have experienced huge loss in their life, or who self harm. These things can improve with time with the right help and support.

Never lose hope, and hoping everyone makes it through this time of year safe and well.

Harmless and The Tomorrow Project Christmas Closure

The Harmless and Tomorrow Project team are taking some well deserved time off over Christmas as we prepare for what will be a busy 2016!

Services will close on Thursday 17th December and will return to normal on Monday 4th January 2016.

The team would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has supported us over this past year – your kindest and generosity has literally helped us save lives. We are confident that next year will bring many more achievements as we continue to have significant and  positive influence in the field of self harm and suicide.

2016 will see us launch our first national self harm conference ‘From Harm to Hope’ on March 1st (Self Harm Awareness Day) and introduce some new national services.

On behalf of the team, we wish everyone a safe and happy Christmas and New Year.

If you need immediate support over the next couple of weeks, please call Hope Line on 0800 068 41 41  or the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90

Send a Card, Save a Life

Harmless’ Christmas Cards are now on sale!

Help support vital self harm and suicide prevention services by sending a festive card this holiday season!

Premium quality cards come in packs of 8 with 2 designs and self seal envelopes

 

 All the money raised will go directly towards supporting the ongoing work of Harmless and The Tomorrow Project and saving lives.

Buy yours in our online store: www.harmless.org.uk/store/Christmas-cards 

Send a Card, Save a Life

Harmless’ Christmas Cards are now on sale!

Help support vital self harm and suicide prevention services by sending a festive card this holiday season!

Premium quality cards come in packs of 8 with 2 designs and self seal envelopes

 

 All the money raised will go directly towards supporting the ongoing work of Harmless and The Tomorrow Project and saving lives.

Buy yours in our online store: www.harmless.org.uk/store/Christmas-cards 

The following may help us take the steps to protect or help the ones we love…

The following may help us take the steps to protect or help the ones we love.

If you spot the warning signs of suicide in someone you care about, you may wonder if it’s a good idea to say anything. What if you’re wrong? What if the person gets angry? In such situations, it’s natural to feel uncomfortable or afraid. But anyone who talks about suicide or shows other warning signs needs immediate help—the sooner the better.

Talking to a person about suicide
Talking to a friend or family member about his or her suicidal thoughts and feelings can be extremely difficult for anyone. But if you’re unsure whether someone is suicidal, the best way to find out is to ask. You can’t make a person suicidal by showing that you care. In fact, giving a suicidal person the opportunity to express his or her feelings can provide relief from loneliness and pent-up negative feelings, and may prevent a suicide attempt.

Ways to start a conversation about suicide:

“I have been feeling concerned about you lately.”
“Recently, I have noticed some differences in you and wondered how you are doing.”
“I wanted to check in with you because you haven’t seemed yourself lately.”
Questions you can ask:

“When did you begin feeling like this?”
“Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?”
“How can I best support you right now?”
“Have you thought about getting help?”
What you can say that helps:

“You are not alone in this. I’m here for you.”
“You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change.”
“I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.”
“When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold off for just one more day, hour, minute—whatever you can manage.”

When talking to a suicidal person
Do:

Be yourself. Let the person know that you care and he or she is not alone. The right words are often unimportant. If you are concerned, your voice and manner will show it.
Listen. Let the suicidal person unload despair and ventilate anger. No matter how negative the conversation seems, the fact that it exists is a positive sign.
Be sympathetic, non-judgmental, patient, calm, and accepting. Your friend or family member is doing the right thing by talking about his or her feelings.
Offer hope. Reassure the person that help is available and that the suicidal feelings are temporary. Let the person know that his or her life is important to you.
If the person says things like, “I’m so depressed, I can’t go on,” ask the question: “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” You are not putting ideas in in your loved one’s head, you are showing that you are concerned, that you take him or her seriously, and that it’s okay for them to share his or her pain with you.
But don’t:

Argue with the suicidal person. Avoid saying things like: “You have so much to live for,” “Your suicide will hurt your family,” or “Look on the bright side.”
Act shocked, lecture on the value of life, or say that suicide is wrong.
Promise confidentiality. Refuse to be sworn to secrecy; a life is at stake and you may need to speak to a mental health professional in order to keep the suicidal person safe. If you promise to keep your discussions secret, you may have to break your word.
Offer ways to fix his or her problems, or give advice, or make your loved one feel like he or she has to justify his or her suicidal feelings. It is not about how bad the problem is, but how badly it’s hurting your friend or loved one.

Blame yourself. You can’t “fix” someone’s depression. Your loved one’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not your responsibility.

Merry Christmas From Harmless and The Tomorrow Project

On behalf of the Harmless and Tomorrow Project team, we hope you all have a safe and happy Christmas.

As we said yesterday, Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone…

Christmas isn’t an easy time for everyone. While some of us are celebrating with our families, others are suffering, often in silence. People can feel isolated at this time of year, alone, or because this time of year is a time of reflection, can feel mournful and sad. It’s important to notice people around you and how they’re feeling. Often it’s not the grand gestures that can make a difference to how someone is feeling but the simple things- a phone call or text, a hug and a chat.

Often people don’t know what to do when faced with someone who is struggling, but it’s simple, just be for there for them. Notice they’re feelings and don’t be afraid to ask how they’re doing, but most of all just make sure you make time for them.

Christmas can be especially hard for those with emotional health difficulties, people who have experienced huge loss in their life, or who self harm. These things can improve with time with the right help and support.

Never lose hope, and hoping everyone makes it through this time of year safe and well.