Would you like to join the Harmless & Let’s Talk Training team?

We are currently recruiting for the following position to join our Let’s Talk Training team on a sessional basis:

MHFA Trainer (Bank Staff)

The deadline for applications is 30th June 2017, with interviews to take place  w/c 24th July 2017

For an application form and job description, or for more information please email admin@harmless.org.uk or call 0115 934 8445 (admin line only). Please include the job title you are applying for in your email.



Hours: Bank Staff


  • £150 per day (£300 per 2-day delivery)
  • 25p per mile travel
  • Hotel accommodation for night of Day one (Booked By Harmless)



This role will be ideal for those who have recently qualified to become MHFA instructors.


  • Deliver MHFA training on behalf of Harmless and its associated projects to external parties including (but not limited to) external organisations, school, professionals and carers.
  • A willingness to offer personal experience during training delivery by sharing own experiences of distress (and/or self harm) and recovery (in line with Harmless’ service user led ethos)
  • A willingness to travel (nationwide) with occasional overnight stay as required.
  • Represent Harmless in a professional manner at all times
  • Deliver training against agreed learning outcomes
  • Develop and maintain training content in line with changes in the field and to the highest standard upon negotiation with the Harmless Management Team
  • Maintain excellent professional relationships with delegates and/or organisations with a view to secure future training opportunities
  • Be an integral part of the booking process with support from the administration team
  • To ensure all data collection tools are used to monitor and improve upon training delivery
  • Ensure training materials are appropriate for delegates requirements
  • Report to Harmless management regularly about the progress of training and address any issues that may arise, recording relevant statistics where required.
  • Promote the work of Harmless in a positive manner and recommend resources and alternative training opportunities where possible.
  • Maintain excellent relationships with delegates and/or organisations before, during and after training delivery
  • To work with Harmless management in continuously improving Harmless’ training packages including (but not limited to) current content, delivery methods, course materials and handouts, booking process.
  • To work with Harmless management in designing and delivering new training packages in order to meet current demands in training, compete with other organisations and increase revenue.
  • To be aware of safeguarding issues that may arise and follow Harmless protocol in managing this.

For an application form and job description, or for more information please email admin@harmless.org.uk or call 0115 934 8445 (admin line only). Please include the job title you are applying for in your email.

Our Catch Up Café is heading to East Leake!

Our sessions are friendly and welcoming. We create a relaxed atmosphere with approachable staff who provide important information explaining how our service can support you, your friends and family or a colleague.

The cafes are aimed at those 18+. Our staff will be on hand to provide information on how our service can support you and those you know. They will take place once a month at our East Leake Office.

See you at the catch up café!

Dates :

July 28th – 10am-11am

August 25th – 10am-11am

September 22nd – 10am-11am

All catch up café sessions will take place at:

The Tomorrow Project

Unit 1
Lighting House
3-5 Station Road
East Leake
LE12 6LQ

To speak to our friendly team:

Phone: 0115 9348445

Email: info@harmless.org.uk


Power issues at Harmless HQ… Please bear with us.

This week our offices for both Harmless and The Tomorrow Project have been without most of its power. These issues are still ongoing but we are hopeful that they will be fixed by the end of this week.

This has meant that we have been without computers, air conditioning and lighting.

While we have been doing everything we can to stay running as usual, we have had limited access to emails, social media and the phone systems. We apologise for any inconvenience but appreciate your patience if you have been trying to contact us. We will still endeavour to answer any contact as soon as possible. 

If you are trying to contact us you can still do so using your usual methods or by emailing info@harmless.org.uk or calling 0115 934 8445. Please leave a message and we will respond as soon as possible.

Once again we apologise for any inconvenience caused and thank you for your patience.


Come on down to the Café Connect on 29th or 30th June to be part of an Eating issues focus group

The self harm research group are holding a Café Connect focus group at the Nottingham Contemporary from 12pm-2pm on 29th or 30th June, around the topic of Eating Issues. Harmless will be in attendance to provide support.

Please contact Blandine French (llxbf5@exmail.nottingham.ac.uk), the Café Connect Researcher for the project, to book your place if you’d like to take part.

In the groups (which will last up to one hour) we will be discussing how to adapt our Card Sort Task for Self-Harm (CaTS) for eating issues.  You do not have to have received a diagnosis or have received treatment for eating issues to take part – but we are looking for people who have struggled with eating issues to take part.

7 C’s of Resilience

Resilience is… A complex and multifaceted construct, referring to a person’s capacity to handle environmental difficulties, demands and high pressure without experiencing negative effects. (Kinman and Grant 2011)

When we consider childhood we can often see it as a carefree time, however youth alone does not offer a shield against emotional hurts and traumas that many children and young people face.

Children and young people can be asked to deal with problems ranging from adapting to a new classroom to bullying by classmates or even abuse at home. When you add to this the uncertainties that are part of growing up, and children can be anything but carefree.

The ability to thrive despite these challenges arises from the skills of resilience. The good news is that resilience skills can be learned. Building resilience – the ability to adapt well to adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or even significant sources of stress can help our children manage stress and feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. However, being resilient does not mean that children won’t experience difficulty or distress. Emotional pain and sadness are common when we have suffered major trauma or personal loss, or even when we hear that someone else’s loss or trauma.

Recognising that ‘resilience isn’t a simple, one part entity. We can use these skills as adults to help children and young people to  recognise their abilities and inner resources

Competence. – Competence can be the ability to know-how to handle situations effectively. Competence is acquired through actual experiences. Children and young people need to be recognised when they’re doing something right and to be given opportunities to develop specific skills.

Confidence – Confidence comes from building real skills and feeling competent, adults can teach and nurture children and young people’s confidence. When children are supported to build their own competence they can gain the confidence to try new adventures and trust their abilities to make sound choices. Confidence can be easily undermined, but also bolstered by tasks that push children and young people without making the goad feel unachievable.

Connection – Close ties to family, friends, school and community give children and young people a sense of security and values which helps them to know they are not alone if they struggle and that they can develop creative solutions to problems.

Character- A Fundamental sense of right and wrong that helps children make wise choices and contribute to the world. Children with character enjoy a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, this helps be more comfortable sticking to their own values and demonstrating a caring attitude towards others.

Contribution – When children realise that the world is a better place because they are in it, they will take actions and make choices that improve the world. They will also develop a sense of purpose to carry them through future challenges. Once children and young people understand how good it can feel to give to others, it becomes easier to ask for the same support when it’s needed. Being willing to ask for help is a big part of being resilient.

Coping - children who learn to cope effectively with stress are better prepared to overcome life’s challenges.

Control – In order to truly be resilient a child needs to believe that she has control over her the outcomes of their decisions and actions. They are more likely to know that they have the ability to do what it takes to bounce back. Feeling secure helps create control, which is why children tests limits.

Instagram users… We need YOU!

Harmless and The Tomorrow Project are now on Instagram, show your support and give us a follow.  

We will be introducing the team, sharing tips and stories, raising awareness, challenging stigma and discrimination and providing another pathway for users to contact and refer into service. Hope to see you there. We’ll follow you back!

@Harmless_UK & @TheTomorrowProject_UK

A big thank you to all those at The Henry Chowdhury Fund for their fantastic fundraising

All of us here at Harmless would like to say a huge thank you to those at The Henry Chowdhury Fund and those who attended the Barbecue & Blues Band Extravaganza fundraising event in aid of Harmless on 28th May at The Cross Keys in Burton Joyce.

The event was fantastic and helped us raise vital funds to enable us to save lives. The total raised at the event was an amazing £1,160!

This contribution will go directly towards the delivery of our life saving work and help us to create a brighter future for many people.

We would like to thank everyone involved for your compassionate support and highlight the importance of this type of contribution; it really does make a difference.

Here are some pictures from the event…

Therapeutic Support Services


Harmless provide free therapeutic support to both adults and young people. Our age range covers from 11 years up to 70 years. We provide both long term and short term therapy:

  • Short term therapy may last up to 12 sessions with reviews.
  • Long term therapy can last up to 2 years with reviews.

We provide short term community outreach therapeutic clinics in for both adults and children for up to 12 sessions.

We offer monthly drop in support sessions creating a relaxed atmosphere, offering information and advice.

  • Young Person (11-21Yrs) Wednesday 21st June 2017 4 – 5 pm
  • Adult (18+ Yrs) Wednesday 28th June 2017 4 – 5 pm.

Drop in sessions are held at Nottingham Community and Voluntary Centre on Mansfield Road (opposite House of Fraser).

We provide a monthly Crisis Café, where people can come along for some informal support.

  • Our next Crisis Café is Wednesday 14th June 3.30 – 4.30 pm

We offer skype provision, so that people from out of the area wishing to receive remote support can have skype sessions.

If you would like any more information, please email us at info@harmless.org.uk.

In the News: Have men been let down over mental health?

“He was the life and soul of the party, but inside he was battling serious demons. He was a 25-year-old man who looked to have everything going for him, but he couldn’t vocalise his problems.” That is how Rowland Bennett describes his best friend Charlie Berry, who took his own life a year ago.

Suicide is the biggest cause of death for men under 49 in the UK, and men are three times more likely to take their own lives than women. According to campaigners, most men thinking about suicide never talk to anyone about the problems that have brought them to crisis point.

After his friend’s death, Bennett, a booker and promoter in the music industry, became involved with the male suicide awareness charity Campaign Against Living Miserably (Calm), organising its 10th anniversary fundraiser night in London. “Since I’ve been involved, I’ve heard more and more people say ‘I lost a friend’ or ‘My mate, the party guy, killed himself’ – everyone has got those stories,” he says. “Men don’t want to be that guy talking about depression. They want to be the character people think they are.”

Male suicide research by the charity Samaritans suggests men often compare themselves against a “gold standard” of masculinity which is often incredibly difficult to live up to. The charity has highlighted the issue for middle-aged men, who have the highest rate of suicide of any age group. Research manager Elizabeth Scowcroft says that is probably down to a combination of factors, including relationship breakdown and financial pressures. “We need to think about ways we can engage with those who are most at risk, targeting the right people, encouraging them to seek help,” she says. “It’s about talking to people earlier rather than once they are at crisis point and feel they want to take their own lives.”

Calm’s chief executive, Jane Powell, says rather than focusing on particular risk groups, society needs to see suicide as an “every man” issue. “What’s frustrating is there is an overwhelming sexism when it comes to looking at this. At what point are we going to look at why more men – regardless of age – take their own lives than women?”

Click the following link to read the full article: https://www.theguardian.com/healthcare-network/2016/may/18/men-suicide-mental-health?CMP=share_btn_tw

‘This is hard to read’

Anyone who thinks that grief after suicide is anything like a bereavement of other sorts, is wrong!

It might have things in common. Huge loss and longing. Funerals. Crippling grief. But it also brings with it complexities that only traumatic loss ever brings. That’s not to say bereavement of any kind is easier or harder, just different and  it is vital to acknowledge those differences.

With suicide, the person chose to die. They didn’t die because their bodies gave out, or because of a tragic accident. They chose to depart. And usually those left in their world struggle to understand how this loved human being, chose death over their life with us.

Whether the next day they would have still made that choice is left to be seen. 

Whether if they’d had support in that moment, it would have been different, we will never know.

What they needed in order to stay, we cannot put right.

What they were thinking in those moments are just guesses. 

Suicide leaves unanswered questions and that is one of the hardest parts of bereavement by suicide. The only person that could answer those questions is gone. 

We can’t tell them we love them, or would have helped them through. 

We can’t tell them we’d have found a way if they had come to us.

We can’t hold them until it is better.

We can’t give them the hope that we had for them, they’re gone.

Instead we hold onto it for a while, hoping this is going to stop… disappear… not be true… that they’ll come back.

And we don’t know why they did it. Not really. 

If things had been different, what the outcome would have been. We don’t know where the blame for their death lies. We question what we could have done differently or how we contributed to their last decision. We search for answers; resolve.

Life is a complicated mess of experiences, where experiences mesh with experiences to lead us down this path of life. The choices that we make, the choices that others make around us, somehow lead some of us to these all-too-often fatal outcomes. 

Usually, there is not one experience that contributes to the reason someone takes their life; not a moment in time that drives them there but these complicated internal experiences in relation to every moment spent on earth that accumulate towards this fatal decision.

Yet, guilt is held in so many of the families, friends and colleagues that we see. The ‘what ifs’; the blame; the remorse; the guilt; the shame; the why? 

Followed by anger. Agony. Disbelief.

It varies. It changes. 

The one thing that’s so consistent about suicide is that it as an avoidable tragedy that is hard to ever reconcile. It destroys lives. It is different for every single person that faces it, and people often struggle to share their thoughts about suicide. 

So let’s start to do that today- not wait until our family and friends are effected… because they will be. I see people fundraising for cancer research in the realisation that many of us will now experience a cancer diagnosis or bereavement in our lifetime; many of us already have. I commend these endeavours because not only are we raising money to battle cancer, we are talking about it- sharing our worries, our fears, our losses and that’s healthy and united.

Suicide is the one other certainty I can depressingly endorse- suicide is the biggest killer in the UK- the second biggest killer of our young people- the largest cause of death to our men. 

We will know it in our world at some point, even if we’ve escaped it thus far. We will face it in our families, our friends, ourselves… we will contemplate death or support someone who is desperate or console ourselves after a death. Suicide isn’t uncommon. 

Let’s talk now. Please.

It might just save a life. 

If you want to know more about what we’re up to and the work we do or how to get involved, have a look at our website www.harmless.org.uk, or contact us at info@harmless.org.uk.