Suicide Crisis – What does it mean to you?

The word “crisis” in itself is quite an emotive word. For me anyway, when I think of “crisis”, my first image used to be things like panic, immediacy, and fear. It’s defined as “a time of intense difficulty or danger” – this sums it up fairly well, but in this definition there’s no mention of panic or fear – it’s an assumption. While these emotions are commonly present in a person experiencing a crisis, this is not always how that person can present to someone who’s talking to them.

Then, the word “suicide” is also not only an emotive word, but a stigmatised one. We are frequently reluctant to say this word and there’s also a fear of using it, of acknowledging it. I feel this can often be the case for anyone involved; the person themselves, friends and family talking to them about it, as well as professionals involved in their care.

When we then take the phrase “suicide crisis”, this can be a phrase which strikes fear into those involved. But if we’re afraid of the phrase, how can we discuss it openly with someone who is feeling this way? I think it’s really important to be mindful of how a person is experiencing a suicide crisis and how they construe their crisis. While there may be some overlap between people and how they present, there’s fairly often some variance, distinctions, and even contradictions in protective, predisposing etc. factors (e.g., one person’s protective factor could be another person’s precipitating factor).

For me, this interpretation of a suicide crisis makes it all the more important that I ask every person I see not only how they feel, but how they interpret their suicide crisis, what is contributing to it or preventing them from acting on their thoughts, and what made them now want to opt into our crisis pathway.

Within this, I think it’s important to address the person’s experience suicide crisis directly – I’ve discovered that something that may seem as simple as asking a question is such a powerful tool, and even though those questions can at times be difficult to ask and respond to, in the end they usually allow both me and the person I’m working with to work from the same page. Clarity is so important because if we work based on assumptions and implications then there is a lot more room for us to misjudge what the person seeking support is experiencing.

This is but one of the reasons why we shouldn’t shy away from phrases like “suicide crisis”. It’s ok to ask about suicide, and it’s ok to talk about it. At Harmless and The Tomorrow Project, we may be the professionals working with the people, but the people are the experts when it comes to their own thoughts, feelings and crisis. Our job is to listen and to help facilitate change if that person feels ready, not to force people into recovery.

If you feel like you need support around issues relating to self-harm or suicide including being bereaved by suicide, please feel free to contact either Harmless (0115 934 8445) or The Tomorrow Project (0115 934 8447, crisis@tomorrowproject.org.uk, bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk) and we will try our best to start supporting you.

Join our regular donors and become a #lifesaver

Last year we made an appeal for ten new regular donors for Harmless. 
It’s time for me to call on our supporters again and see if we can recruit ten new #lifesavers 
If you or anyone you know have been effected by our work, or believe in what we’re doing then please consider getting behind us and making a one off or monthly donation. 
We fund our work 77% ourselves by fundraising and sales and we don’t want to turn anyone away. People need us. 
Please share. Please support.

https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless/monthly

Training Offer – discounts for bookings made and paid before July.

Have you thought about having training for your team on self harm, suicide or mental health?
To promote access to our courses we are offering a 10% discount on bookings booked and paid for before July (can be delivered at any other point).

Our specialist training team can deliver:

A 2 day ASIST course

Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training (ASIST) is for everyone 16 or older-regardless of prior experience-who wants to be able to provide suicide first aid. Shown by major studies to significantly reduce suicidality, the ASIST model teaches effective intervention skills while helping to build suicide prevention networks in the community.
A 2 day MHFA course

MHFA is an educational course which teaches people how to identify, understand and help a person who may be developing a mental health issue. In the same way as we learn physical first aid, Mental Health First Aid teaches

you how to recognise those crucial warning signs of mental ill health. By completing this course it will develop your skills, abilities and confidence in being able to support individuals with a range of mental health conditions.

Bespoke Specialist Level 4 IAPT Self Harm and Suicide Prevention Training

This course provides an advanced overview of self harm and suicide training specifically aimed for those working within IAPT services

It covers the following;

* Awareness raising

* Policy, Strategy & Contextual issues

* Advanced skills

* Risk assessment & Safety plans

* Brief interventions

* Recovery 

A 1 day intermediate/advanced self harm course

Our general training days provide an opportunity for individuals from abroad range of professional arenas to attend and get a detailed overview of self harm and working with self harm. 

Our training days cover:

* What self harm is, and who it effects

* What causes someone to self harm and some of the myths around self harm

* What can be done to support and help people who self harm

* Managing the impact of self harm as an individual and a workplace

* Useful interventions for working with people who self harm and promoting empowerment

* Managing and assessing risk

A range of bespoke options for the above courses themes.

All of our courses are CPD accredited or externally validated, have service user representation at the heart of the work that we deliver and are clinically applicable.

All finance raised through the delivery of training is used to provide support services nationally for those facing crisis and unable to access help through traditional means. We are a non-profit making organisation and in you buying training through us can be assured of quality, performance and that you are saving lives with your actions. 

If you would like to have a chat with one of the team then give Sophie or

Sarah a ring on 0115 9348445 or email training@harmless.org.uk

We won’t give you the hard sell – what we want to do is enable as many people as possible to have appropriate training to suit their needs, so that ultimately we are all working together to save and improve lives.

NEW: Catch Up Cafe Dates

The dates for the *NEW* catch up café are here!

We have been holding monthly Catch Up Cafes here at Harmless and they have been a real success! Following feedback and a focus group, a need for a catch up café was identified. We created a warm, welcoming and encouraging environment for our clients to come and chat amongst each other, along with our friendly staff.

Dates:

April 12th – 3.30-4.30pm

May 10th – 4-5pm

June 14th – 3.30-4.30pm

The cafes are aimed at those 18+. Our staff will be on hand to provide information on how our service can support you and those you know. They will take place once a month at our Nottingham city office.

Address:

Harmless
NCVS
7 Mansfield Road
Nottingham
NG1 3FB

See you at the Catch Up Café

This is courage…

When you face your own fears to raise money to help others face theirs, that’s courage. 

On Sunday Leanne jumped out of a plane for a fundraising skydive that will raise money for people who are feeling suicidal. 

She set her target at £400 but has a small amount to go to smash this. £400 will ensure that 16 people in crisis will get the support that they need. 

16 people who are thinking of taking their own life will have access to the help they need to stay alive.  

Please help her get over the finish line. After all, she just jumped out of a plane for us all!  

(Photographic evidence of the terror she faced to do this for us)

https://www.gofundme.com/skydiveforharmless
       

Safeguarding young people from sexting

There has been a rise in the number of sexting cases among young people. Many more young people now have access to phones and social media accounts and are engaging in or are affected by sexting. It is much easier for them to send and receive explicit messages and images.

Young people need to understand what sexting is, sending sexually explicit messages and or suggestive images, such as nudes.

Sexting is illegal among children. If a child is under the age of 18, it is illegal for them to take a nude photo of themselves or a friend, as well as distributing them even though the age of consent is 16 years, the Protection of Children Act means it is against the law for a child to share a sexual image.

Images covered under the law include naked pictures, topless photos of girls, any acts and sexual images in underwear. If a young person is found in possession of any of these, has been sending them or taking these types of photos, the Police can record it as a crime.

One of the most effective ways young people can be safeguarded against sexting is to talk to them about it.

Ensure they know what it is, how dangerous it can be and what the results of engaging in sexting are. This could help them make the right choice. If you do find that your child has been sexting, it is possible to get the images removed by contacting the Internet Watch Foundation, which will search for any explicit photos or videos of your child in order to protect them from possible ramifications.

To see how the Internet Watch Foundation can help, visit their website here: www.iwf.org.uk

Today is self harm awareness day

Today is self harm awareness day.

For harmless this is a significant date in our annual calendar. 

Self harm awareness day is an opportunity for us to come together to promote dialogue about self harm, about stress and suffering, about psychological needs and about overcoming suicide.

Today we are holding our national conference from harm to hope for the second year running. the conference will bring people together from across the UK to talk about the issue of self harm, of suicide prevention and how we can work together to overcome what can often be very painful difficulties that people face.

I am really excited about the conference program I am really excited that we are today hosting an event attended by local dignitaries and some of the leading voices in the field of self harm who will be sharing with us their perspective, insight and their experiences.

Today is a day to celebrate. It is a day where we can start new conversations. It is a day where we can talk to our peers, to the people that we help and to our colleagues and to start a different conversation – one that hopefully and collectively will save lives

Silent Auction: 2x X Factor Live Tour Tickets for 23rd Feb 2017

We have been fortunate enough to receive TWO additional X-Factor Live show tickets!!!!

The live show is on Thursday 23rd Feb 2017 and we are hosting a SILENT AUCTION.

To be involved all you need to do is email info@harmless.org.uk with your bid.

*Auction ends 22/02/17 at 5pm*

All the money raised goes directly towards helping us provide a range of services including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self harm and/or have suicidal thoughts, their friends and families and professionals.

Event details:

The X Factor Live Tour 2017

Thursday 23rd Feb 2017, 18:30

Motorpoint Arena Nottingham,

The National Ice Centre,

Bolero Square,

The Lace Market,

Nottingham,

NG1 1LA

 

Can you join our fundraisers?

The Tomorrow Project, our local suicide prevention service needs your help. 
We have a target of raising 30k in 90 days. 
Could you undertake a fund raiser? A sponsor? A bake sale? A run? 
All monies will go directly into providing help services for people in distress. We want to ensure that any one, of any age, facing any problem can get the help that they need. Suicide and mental health struggles are far too common and it is so important that we keep providing a high level of help when people need it the most.
Please help us to continue to help the community.
If you think you can help us, and want to get involved, please email me on caroline@harmless.org.uk and you could be helping us to save lives. 

Do you know someone who has died by suicide? 

Did you know that we now have a specialist bereavement service? 

It doesn’t matter whether you lost a partner, a parent, a family member or a friend, if you want to talk it through, have coffee, need support or are facing practical (e.g. financial issues) with regards to your loss- we are here to help. It might also be that you’re a professional that’s witnessed or lost a patient or individual you’ve worked with, and we offer a very safe place to get support.

Our team have personal experience of suicide and are in a position to help. We understand from a very unique perspective, the complexities that people face when they’ve lost someone to suicide. 

So please give us a shout, drop us a line. Message us on Facebook or twitter, or arrange an appointment. 

Bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk

01159348445

And ask to speak to Ashley.