From Harm to Hope

Harmless’ third national self harm conference will be held on Thursday 1st March 2018, Self Harm Awareness Day. This year’s theme is ‘self harm: suicide prevention starts here’.


Self harm conference

£150 per delegate place


2 places for £200

Themes for the day

– Driving change

– Collaborative partnership

– Service user representation

– Effective practice

– Overcoming stigma & discrimination

Speakers Include:

Professor Louis Appleby

Sarah Kessling (Harmless)

Claire Dixon (Harmless)

Mental Health Today

Pam Burrows

Naomi Watkins & Alex Parkin

Marie Armstrong

Sarah Fairbank

Gloucestershire Public Health


Click HERE for tickets

A LUSH weekend ahead…

We are very excited to be working alongside Lush Nottingham and will be in store this weekend for a charity pot event! We were first supported by the wonderful Lush team last year with an amazing #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek workshop and they have been supporting us since!

Monday 15th of January is known as ‘Blue Monday’, a day considered the most difficult one of the year. So why not pop down to Lush and purchase our charity pot for lots of self-care? Not only will you be looking after you (very important!) but you’ll also be supporting our life-saving work.

Be sure to put some time aside on Monday to really look after yourself. Here are some of our favourite self-care activities:
– Bubble bath
– Lush bath and body cream!
– Hot chocolate with cream
– Start a new series
– Watch your favourite movie
– Meet friends for tea and cake
– Get creative!

We hope to see you in Lush tomorrow and Sunday!

LUSH 13-17 Clumber St, Nottingham NG1 3ED

Community champions

Every year we run a number of events and to make those event happen in a way that reaches everyone that it needs to, we engage with as many corporate sponsors as we are able.

Our community champions help us to widen our offer of help to more people that need it.

Could you be a community champion? 

Are you a company looking for further CSR opportunities? 

Could you donate £1-300 (or more, obviously!!) to help people in distress and their families come along to our help promoting events?

Your money would help us host events that reach people; in return you would receive sponsorship acknowledgment in local press and convene and an update about the social impact you’ve contributed to.

Please share, and thank you and if you want to get involved, please contact

From Harm to Hope

We are pleased to announce that Harmless’ third national self harm conference will be held on Thursday 1st March 2018, Self Harm Awareness Day. This year’s theme is ‘self harm: suicide prevention starts here’.


Self harm conference

£150 per delegate place


2 places for £200

Themes for the day

– Driving change

– Collaborative partnership

– Service user representation

– Effective practice

– Overcoming stigma & discrimination


Speakers Include:

Professor Louis Appleby

Sarah Kessling (Harmless)

Claire Dixon (Harmless)

Mental Health Today

Pam Burrows

Naomi Watkins & Alex Parkin

Marie Armstrong

Sarah Fairbank

Gloucestershire Public Health


Click HERE for tickets

Understanding self-harm – the Card Sort Task

The University of Nottingham self harm research group are hosting a study to learn more about self-harm and what helps individuals to stop self-harming or self-harm less.

Please click HERE to take part.

What is this study about?
We want to learn more about self-harm. Why do some people start to self-harm? Why do they keep self-harming? What helps them to stop self-harming or self-harm less?

We are interested in including people aged 18 years old and over.


If you decide to take part you will be asked to sign a consent form. If you do choose to take part in the study you can stop at any time. You don’t need to tell us why.

What will I be asked to do?
You will be asked to indicate on a scale (that looks like a thermometer) how you feel at the start and the end of the study.
You will then be asked some questions about your age, gender, when you first self-harmed, when you last self-harmed, how often you have self-harmed and your method of self harm.
You will then be asked to sort some cards which describe thoughts, feelings, behaviours and events which were important leading up to self-harm. You will be asked to do this card sort task for the first time you ever self-harmed and for the most recent time you have self-harmed.

How long will the study take?

The study will take around 20 minutes to complete but it varies between people.

What are the possible disadvantages and risks of taking part?

The CaTS covers personal issues and feelings. You may find some cards upsetting. If this happens, you can take a break and restart when you are ready. You may stop the study at any point without having to give a reason why.

If you become distressed there are contact details on each page of the study for you to use if you need including the Samaritans and Harmless, a charity that helps those who struggle with self-harm. There will also be a researcher’s email if you have any questions about the study.

What are the possible benefits of taking part?

We cannot promise the study will help you but the information we get from this study may help others in the future. Many people enjoy taking part in research.

What if there is a problem?

If you have concerns about this research at any time you can:

  • Speak to the researchers via
  • If you have any complaints about the study, you can contact the Chair of the School of Psychology Ethics Committee, telephone (0115) 8466020 Professor Stephen Jackson via email or post School of Psychology, University Park, Nottingham, NG7 2RD.
  • If you are still unhappy, you can contact the Head of School, Professor Paul McGraw via email, telephone 0115 9515295 or post School of Psychology, University Park, Nottingham, NG7 2RD.
Will taking part in the study be kept confidential?

Yes. All information which is collected about you during the research will be kept strictly confidential (private).

All information which is collected about you will be stored in a secure and locked office, and on a password protected computer database. The data will be stored at the University of Nottingham for 7 years after the end of the study, and it will then be destroyed securely.

If you complete this electronic version of the card sort which is maintained online, as an online participant in this research, we are obliged to make you aware that there is always a potential risk of intrusion by outside agents, for example through hacking, and therefore the possibility of being identified.

You should be aware that participation in the study will not affect any clinical treatments that you are currently having or are due to undergo and we are not clinicians.

What will happen if I don’t want to carry on with the study?

You can decide to stop taking part at any time before or during the study. You don’t need to give a reason and your legal or medical rights will not be affected. If you withdraw then the information collected so far cannot be erased. This information may still be used in the project analysis.

What will happen to the results of the research study?

We may publish the results in a scientific journal and present them at scientific meetings. This may not happen until sometime after the research has finished. Anonymized data will be made available for secondary data analysis. Your details will remain strictly confidential.

Who is organising and funding the research?

This research is being organised by the University of Nottingham.

Who has reviewed the study?

All research is looked at by independent group of people, called a Research Ethics Committee, to protect your interests. This study has been reviewed and given favourable opinion by the Research Ethics Committee.

Further information and contact details

For further information please contact the chief investigator, Professor Ellen Townsend, can also be contacted by telephone (0115 846 7305) or email (

Please click HERE to take part.

Introducing Pam Burrows

Pam Burrows has been speaking professionally for over 25 years in the public sector, third sector and in the commercial world. Previously delivering business skills workshops globally to blue chip companies, for the last 17 years she has focused closer to home on the value of boosting the confidence, energy and positivity of people.

In 2015 Pam won a European OSHA award with Nottingham City Homes for reducing stress in the workplace and also became a Fellow of the Professional Speaking Association.

Pam is a qualified Nursery Nurse, Social Worker and Master Practitioner in Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP). She appears regularly on TV and BBC Radio and has produced 2 short films on social issues.

Pam says that she is taking far too long to write a book and to fill the gap has recently produced an Android and iOS app with free confidence boosting resources. Pam wears a tutu when the mood takes her, gives up sugar and takes it up again on a regular basis and quite likes hugging trees when no-one’s looking.

We are incredibly excited for Pam to be joining us on the 1st March 2018 for her workshop: An introduction to the C.A.R.E. model for a developing a sustainable wellbeing culture in your organisation.

If you would like to book tickets to the conference, please contact or call us on 0115 934 8445.


Or…  tickets via this link


Start off 2018 with time for you

How wonderful it is to have half an hour alone, enjoying nature and all it’s beauty, and contemplating things in your own little world. It is so, so important to have these moments. The moments where you can stop for a second, stop worrying, stop planning, stop moving all together and just sit, relax and enjoy the moment. You can get so caught up in what’s going on in the world these days that your own thoughts that really make you You are lost.

When you get that time to sit down and be around nature, when you get the time to just stop, it is truly wonderful. You can enjoy the minutes slowly and look more deeply at the beautiful things that surround you. You can pick out all the positive thoughts that are circling your brain and focus on just being happy, being you and not worrying about anything else. 

So, if you’re having a rough week and have a million and one thoughts flying round your brain- just stop. Find a nice quiet spot; in the garden, in the bath, curled up on the sofa, in the corner of the coffee shop or wherever you can. Make it 5 minutes, 10 minutes or however long is necessary for you to be able to free yourself from those million thoughts, and relax. Be at ease, be happy and gather only good thoughts, positive thoughts. Look around and appreciate all that is beautiful and brilliant about life and where you are at. It is needed and it is necessary to have this time to relax and be comfortable without the stresses of the world!

Today I found my time to get away from it all and enjoy the beauty around me and it was wonderful. I also discovered this song by Tom Grennan – ‘This is the age’. At the end of the song there is an Irish man just talking, mumbling and amongst my thoughts I heard him say the phrase ‘life in general is brillant’. And it is, it truly is. Even though there can be a ton of bad days, there’s always good ones too.

(The only thing that could’ve made my half hour reflection any better was having a cuppa tea at the same time -but we can’t have everything haha!)

Be positive. Be free. Be you. ✌🏼✨


A wonderful blog written by Orlaghslittlecorner.

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From Harm to Hope

Self Harm & Suicide Prevention starts here!

Thursday 1st March 2018, our 3rd annual conference.


Self harm is everyone’s business:

1 in 10 people are affected by self harm. Self harm does not discriminate on the basis of gender, race, age, religion, disability or sexual orientation. Anyone is at risk from self harming at some point in their life depending on the experiences they have and the worry they feel about these experiences. Popular culture would have you believe that it is predominantly young girls who self harm; findings suggest that in fact for the age range of mid 30’s in men represent the majority of people attending Accident and Emergency for the treatment of self harm. Given this, we will only save more lives if all parts of society work together.

Conference details:

The theme of our conference is self harm and suicide prevention starts here.

Harmless recognises that self harm and suicide ffects a broad range of individuals, facing many diverse experiences; reducing the number of individuals that self harm requires contributions from across society and includes education, prevention, intervention and postvention work.

This exciting new event will bring together private, public, voluntary and community sector organisations, individuals with lived experience of self harm and practitioners & academics in the field of self harm in an ethos of joint working and shared experience.

Our conference is themed around five strategic areas:

·         Collaborative partnership,

·         Service user representation,

·         Effective practice,

·         Driving change &

·         Overcoming stigma and discrimination.

Delegates can expect to take away from the conference a range of knowledge, inspiration and practical applications for the implementation in real life personal and professional situations. Learning from some of the leaders in the field, delegates will have access to interactive sessions that can drive change in the field of self harm.



Professor Louis Appleby, who leads the National Suicide Prevention Strategy for England.



Sarah Kessling (Harmless) – Effective risk assessment and safety planning.

Claire Dixon (Harmless) – Self harm and suicide: The missing link.

Mental Health Today – Supporting people living with suicidal thoughts.

Pam Burrows – Does your organisation have a C.A.R.E. culture or a SCARE culture? An introduction to the C.A.R.E. model for a developing a sustainable wellbeing culture in your organisation.

Naomi Watkins & Alex Parkin – Domestic abuse, self-harm & suicide – what is the correlation, how can we help?

Marie Armstrong – The social context of young people and self harm.

Sarah Fairbank – Working with complex trauma, self harm and suicide.

Gloucestershire Public Health – Developing a comprehensive all age pathway for people who self harm in Gloucestershire.

World Café – A chance to speak to people with lived experience.


The conference will be held at the specialist conference venue in the heart of Nottingham, The Nottingham Conference Centre. For directions please click here

£150 per delegate, CPD certified, Workshops, Food, Speakers,

Where can I find more information?

If you would like more information about the forthcoming conference, then please email

Or speak directly to a member of our team on: 0115 880 0280


Making New Year’s Resolutions about mental health

2017 was not the best year. One of the few good things that’s happened this year is that — after years of convincing myself not to — I finally made a commitment to see a therapist.

After some discussions with my therapist, I decided to avoid making concrete New Years resolutions I can’t keep. No, I’m not going to cut cheese from my diet. I’m most likely not going to make full use of that gym membership I’ve been eyeing.

And that’s OK. Struggling for perfection is stifling and utterly exhausting.

Instead I decided to focus on mental health resolutions I can actually keep. I’m hoping they will make 2018 a happier and less stressful year.

Resolution #1: Being OK With Crying

In 2017 I came to terms with the fact that I’m a lot more empathetic than the average person. I cry— a lot. I cried during the Hunger Games trailer. I usually lie and exclaim, “I just have something in my contacts.”

But really I’m crying a little bit. Sometimes I get overwhelmed by the all the beauty and sadness in this world, and that’s all right.

Resolution #2: Building Boundaries

2018 will be about building boundaries. I want to be able to say no without dwelling upon it for hours after, wondering if that response was acceptable. When the emotional energy of a person or situation is impacting me negatively, I want to be able to change the subject or walk away without thinking I’ve abandoned someone.

These habits of mine have painted me as a loyal and understanding person. At the same time they have contributed to debilitating emotional fatigue.

Resolution #3: Savoring My ‘Me Time’

It’s OK to have me time…and cheese time!

In 2018 I will savor the moments I keep for myself. I will take more baths; spend my solitary nights guilt-free. I will try to live more shamelessly.

I should really cut cheese out of my diet, but I’ll do that when I’m ready. I accept my sensitivity, and will try to make it serve me as much as it has served others.

Here’s to a fruitful 2018!

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A few words from a young service user about their experience of accessing our self harm services

As we say goodbye to 2017 and welcome 2018, we thought we’d take this opportunity to share a story we posted previousley. An inspirational story written by a young person  who accessed support from Harmless.

‘Where do you start when your asked to write a blog on such a serious and sensitive topic? Especially when it’s to inform the many people effected how you were affected by a serious issue that can effect anyone! I suppose a good way to start would be the effects that self harm had on me.

I thought I was alone. I thought I was different. I thought everything was my fault. I thought self harm was the only option and nobody at all could help me change that. I thought wrong.

Of course it wasn’t easy but the things worth doing never are, but this was my first step to recovery and the beginning of a new chapter of my life.

I thought I’d give Harmless a go. After all if I didn’t like it I didn’t have to go again. The first week was scary, the tension was building up as the day got closer but that’s completely normal, just like trying anything you haven’t done before.

I met Adrienne, she seemed nice so I went again. I found the first few weeks a bit scary but as time went on I got more comfortable. One week had turned in to two weeks, two into three and eventually three into a year and a half.

I was terrified teenager, struggling to cope with everyday occurrences and self harming to get through each day. Thanks to Harmless I am me again. The past is a learning curve for me and the people I love and although I can’t predict the future I’m pretty sure it will be a bright, but that’s thanks to Harmless for helping me secure one. Without them I would still be surrounded by all the negative thoughts that are now behind me. All you have to remember is everybody deserves happiness, including you. Now when the going gets tough I know where to go.’

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