Memory jar donations appeal

Last week my colleague Katie and I met with 2 very special people. Meet Holly and Max. Max is 5 years old and loves trains, Holly is 8, she is shy, kind and always holds the door open you to pass through.

On this day we made memory jars. Holy and Max were so proud when they finished and excited to take the jars home.

We need your help to make more moments like these possible for all our clients.

If you have empty jam jars, some table salt or coloured chalk, please send it to our service, and support us bringing more happy smiles into our client’s lives.

 

To make 1 memory jar we need:

Empty jar (with lid)
Table salt
Coloured chalk
Paper
Cotton balls
String

Ana
Bereavement Support Officer

Give a helping hand to those who need it

Here at Harmless & the Tomorrow Project we provide lifesaving support to those who self harm and those who are at risk or bereaved by suicide. But we can only provide these services with your help.

Support from the community is vital, through means such as donations and fundraising. From these acts of generosity and kindness we are able to provide support to those who really need it, helping to create a real sense of hope for vulnerable people.

One off donations

If you would like to make a one off donation, you can do so through our LocalGiving pages at the following links:

Harmless: https://localgiving.org/charity/harmless/

Tomorrow Project: https://localgiving.org/charity/harmless/project/tomorrowproject/

Monthly donations

If you would like to continually support our work, you can set up a regular donation at this link: https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless/monthly

Fundraising

If you would like to become one of our fantastic fundraisers, whether you have an idea for a fundraising activity or would like to talk to us about how you can set one up, please contact us using the details at the end of this blog. Whether it be a sponsored sky dive, a coffee morning, or even a fun day, we would love to hear from you with your thoughts.

Contact us

If you would like to contact us about how you can support us or about the work we do, please contact us using any of the methods below:

Email: info@harmless.org.uk

Phone: 0115 880 0280

Facebook: @HarmlessUK or @harmlessthetomorrowproject

Twitter: @HarmlessUK or @lifevsuicide

In the News – ‘Find the courage to ask people how they are feeling’: Zoe Ball opens up about boyfriend Billy Yates’ suicide

Zoe Ball’s world changed the day her boyfriend Billy Yates was found dead at home after taking his own life aged just 40 after a long battle with depression.

Ten months on, Zoe, 47, admits she’s haunted by thoughts of why she couldn’t save him, having to tell herself each day that nothing more could have been done.

You can read the full article at the following link, including a short video, featuring some of the people that have been supported by the Tomorrow Project over the past few years: https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/find-courage-ask-people-how-12220922 

#HardestRoadHome

You may have seen that we have taken part in some filming with the wonderful Zoe Ball on her sport relief documentary – Hardest Road Home, which is shown on Wednesday 21st March 2018 at 9am.

If you would like to drop in and get some information about the service, we have a Catch up Café on Thursday 22nd March 2018 at 10.30am.

The catch up cafes are for those aged 18 and over who would like to come in, have a tea or coffee and get some support. We can also give you information about our services and the support we offer.

See you at the CUC

Bereavement by suicide – let’s stand together

In the UK in 2016 there we 6,188 reported suicides and that’s 6,188 more deaths than there should have been.  And with many towns in the UK not collecting suicide data unfortunately we expect this number will be much higher.  Suicide is the biggest killer in the UK- the second biggest killer of our young people- the largest cause of death to our men. And these shocking statistics are exactly why this is something we need to face together.

This is an alarming common problem we as society simply cannot ignore. With one in four of us also struggling with our mental health we can’t turn a blind eye. If 1 in 4 doesn’t seem ‘too’ substantial consider the wider impact on friends and family? That 1 in 4 is telling us that most of society will now be affected by this in some way. And with the 6,188 deaths to suicide, many of us will be affected directly or indirectly by a death that could have been completely avoided.

Grief after suicide isn’t like any kind of grief; it might have things in common. Huge loss and longing. Funerals. Crippling grief. But it also brings with it complexities that only traumatic loss ever brings. That’s not to say bereavement of any kind is easier or harder, just different and it is vital to acknowledge those differences.

With suicide, the person chose to die. They didn’t die because their bodies gave out, or because of a tragic accident. They chose to depart. And usually those left in their world struggle to understand how this loved human being, chose death over their life with us.

Whether the next day they would have still made that choice is left to be seen.

Whether if they’d had support in that moment, it would have been different, we will never know.

What they needed in order to stay, we cannot put right.

Suicide leaves unanswered questions and that is one of the hardest parts of bereavement by suicide. The only person that could answer those questions is gone.

The one thing that’s so consistent about suicide is that it as an avoidable tragedy that is hard to ever reconcile. It destroys lives. It is different for every single person that faces it, and people often struggle to share their thoughts about suicide – which is why I believe we should start now. Start today. Start talking.

It’s the simple and open conversations that save lives. Speaking openly about mental health with those around you makes it a topic that’s easier to bring up if someone is struggling. They know you won’t judge them, you will simply listen, heart open, full of understanding and compassion.  Too many people right now who are struggling with their mental health are made to feel isolated, worthless and ashamed. Together as a society we need to break down those stigmas, we need to get talking.

“It was nothing more than a cup of tea and a chat at the right time that saved my life”.

We need to stand together in a time which can feel lonely and disconnected and in doing so we will be making a difference to so many lives. If you’re a friend of someone struggling, the most valuable support you can provide is just being there to listen.

The Tomorrow Project is a primary care pathway and is able to support people that are having thoughts of suicide or those bereaved through suicide.  We provide emotional support – this can be a cup of tea (or coffee!) and a sit down to speak about how you are feeling and we offer practical support, this can be support with things such as housing and debt.

At the heart of our service is a real sense of hope that things can get better. Our job is to help you through difficulties you’re having, even if it’s just to give you somewhere safe to come and have a coffee and a chat with our team.

If you, or any one you know may need support – please us an email at crisis@tomorrowproject.org.uk or call us on 0115 880 0282. Please note, we ask that you leave a message and a support officer will get in touch with you within 1 working day.

Together we can make a difference. Together we can save lives.

Join us to celebrate 11 years of Harmless!

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR TICKETS!

Venue:
Ruddington Grange Golf Club, Wilford Road, Ruddington, NG11 6NB

Tickets:
£35.00 Early Bird offer (Ends on 30th April 2018)
£40 per person (Standard price)

The Event:
An evening of celebration including a three course meal, raffle, auction, games & live music

Dress code:
Smart

The purpose:
To raise enough money to save more lives!

The celebration evening will mark a milestone in our work, as we celebrate our 11th anniversary, and give us the opportunity to raise revenue to keep our vital services afloat. Each year we spend time with friends and colleagues, celebrating the work that we have done and the lives that we have saved and the money we raise on the night goes directly back into our life saving services.

Please come along and join is in what will be a wonderful night, learn more about our work, celebrate our triumphs and help us to raise money to keep us driving services in the field of self harm and suicide prevention forwards.

CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR TICKETS!

For more information or to book tickets please visit our online shop below or contact us:

Tickets: www.harmless.org.uk/store
Email: admin@harmless.org.uk
Phone: 0115 880 0280

Crisis pathways testimony

“Amazing attitude towards helping! Great at providing opportunities and suggestions for the future. Relatable and actually has some experience what you’re discussing. Warm, friendly and open to talk about anything. Easy to relax with and able to open up to. Just a text away”

This is a testimony from someone who has been supported through our Suicide Crisis Support Service.

The Tomorrow Project crisis pathway is a primary care pathway and is able to support people that are having thoughts of suicide.

We provide emotional support – this can be a cup of tea (or coffee!) and a sit down to speak about how you are feeling and we offer practical support, this can be support with things such as housing and debt. But most of all, we offer hope.

Hope for a better future. Hope that things can improve.

If you, or any one you know may need support – please drop us an email at crisis@tomorrowproject.org.uk or call us on 0115 880 0282. Please note, we ask that you leave a message and a support officer will get in touch with you within 1 working day

The Tomorrow Project bus

We are really proud and excited to announce that as of today we will have our TP message on the back of the number one NCT bus!!!

Huge thanks to Nottingham City Transport for collaborating and fully funding the bus which will run along the number 1 route of the Navy line from Nottingham City Centre to Loughborough, via Clifton, Gotham and East Leake.

We have worked so hard for this project to become a reality and it fills us all with such happiness to see this take shape. By having our message on a main line bus means we will be able to reach people in distress, who we have never been able to reach before. Ultimately this means we can save more lives.

Suicide remains a socially taboo subject, with The Tomorrow Project bus we are doing even more to pave the way on challenging the stigma in this field.

An estimated 1 in 20 people contemplate suicide every year, thoughts of suicide are far more common than we might like to believe with attempts 40-100 times more common than deaths by suicide. It may seem small; our message on the back of a bus, but actually this will be reaching someone and could save a life. We couldn’t be more proud.

If you see our bus on route please share a photo on social media! We can’t wait to see them.

 

Our CEO Caroline Harroe awarded The High Sheriff of Nottinghamshire Award

Today Adrienne, our Clinical Operations Manager, received an award on Caroline’s behalf.  The award is from the High Sheriff of Nottinghamshire and is for her commitment to services for others.

Adrienne said “It is an absolute pleasure to represent our CEO Caroline Harroe today, collecting her award from The High Sheriff of Nottinghamshire in recognition of great and valuable services to the community. Well done Caroline Harroe and the team for your compassion, dedication and contribution in enhancing the life of the community.”

Caroline says “I’m really proud to be given such recognition but everything I achieve, I achieve because I am supported by a phenomenal team that do life saving work.”

“The team at Harmless work tirelessly throughout the whole year and what we do is hard but really privileged work. We hear the painful stories of people’s struggle and their losses. We also get to hear the successes, the recoveries and hear of the comfort that we bring to people in pain.”

“We are a non profit organisation and rely on the support of the community to keep our life saving services afloat. We couldn’t do it without you.

Recently we have been supported by Zoe Ball and the Sport Relief Campaign Team.

As I’m sure you’re aware, Zoe lost her partner to suicide last May. As such she has decided to undertake a sport relief challenge to raise money for comic relief but also to raise awareness about the issues she and her partner, faced.

We were privileged enough to spend some time with Zoe over the course of the filming and get to know her story. Billy had long suffered from depression and died in May as a result of his struggle.

Zoe will spend the next five days cycling Blackpool to Brighton on her #HardestRoadHome cycle and will be on BBC breakfast each morning to raise awareness of the cycle and to get people talking about mental health.

There will also be a documentary on the evening of March the 21st that will feature our work with The Tomorrow Project and then again throughout the campaign evening of the 23rd of March.

Please show your support for the challenge, for all that Zoe stands for and is fighting for and facing herself, and please tune in to the documentary.

We’ve worked so hard to bring the suicide prevention and bereavement agenda to light in this piece of work and we hope that this is a good opportunity to galvanise the support and momentum needed to keep our wonderful services in the position they need to be – saving lives.

To support us: https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless

To sponsor Zoe directly: https://www.sportrelief.com/news-and-tv/zoes-hardest-road-home

THE IMPORTANCE OF CHANGE; A message from our Suicide Bereavement Support Officer

I started my role here as a Suicide Bereavement Support Officer almost a year ago. And I have seen change happen. Not the policy change we want and need. But I have seen change in people, in the stories they share with us after losing someone to suicide.

We have been sharing some of those stories with you, because we want everyone to know that it’s ok to ask for help after a bereavement by suicide. We understand the unique nature of a bereavement by suicide, and how things get very difficult very quickly – but you are not alone in this.

Now we need everyone’s help, so we can keep breaking the cycle of hopelessness and despair that can lead to people having thoughts of suicide themselves after going through this traumatic experience. We break this cycle, change does happen when we believe it can, and when we fight for it.

To paraphrase our CEO, our goal is to see the day when our service is no longer needed. But until then, we will be here, ready to listen.

So if you have been affected by suicide, please do not hesitate to get in touch with us. You can email, drop a quick message on social media, or use the good old fashioned way and give us a call. Ask for me, my name is Ana and here is a picture of me chuffed I made it to the finish line last October in a suicide prevention awareness run.

 

Join me, help us, donate and save our service. https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless?ref=aEpQP8AFnT&src=tomorrowproject

Ana