“I have lost someone to suicide, how do I get help?”

At The Tomorrow Project, our Suicide Bereavement Pathway is open to anyone who has experienced traumatic bereavement by suicide. We understand that this type of bereavement is particularly difficult, with a lot of complex feelings and questions.

What we can provide is practical and emotional support, to help guide you through this confusing and difficult time. We can help with issues surrounding finance, debt, employment, housing and many other things, we can also provide information and support throughout the inquest process which is often new to many bereaved people. We’re also here for emotional support too, for when you need to speak to someone about how you’re feeling, and what your needs might be so that we can support you towards finding that help.

Reaching out is not always the easiest thing to do, but we are here, and we want to help. You can refer in to us through a variety of different ways, you can call us on 0115 934 8445, e-mail us at bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk ask your doctor to get in touch with us, ask a friend, message us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or even if there’s someone you know who is struggling and you’d like to find out what support is available then please let us know.

Bereavement by suicide is uniquely devastating and we know how much impact this can have on family, friends, colleagues and the community. This isn’t something that anyone should have to face alone, and that’s why we’re here so please, let us be there for you.

 

Ashley Dunstan

Suicide bereavement Project Worker

 

Harmless bake sale for Comic Relief!

Today we are raising money for Comic Relief 2017.

If you fancy a sweet or savoury snack pop into

Nottingham Voluntary Action Centre, 7 Mansfield Road, NG1 3FB.

We are here till 4pm!!!

Harmless do the Mannequin Challenge

Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! 

 

Sophie Allen speaks to the BBC in light of the recent NPSCC article about the worrying rise in self harm admissions to hospital

You may have seen or heard on the news last Friday, an article from NSPCC about how the rate of hospital admissions for self harm is frighteningly high, with an estimated 19,000 children being admitted to hospital for self harm, which saw an increase of 14% over a 3 year period.

The NSPCC’s figures, collected from all but six NHS Trusts in England and health boards in Wales, reveal that 18,788 under-18s were admitted to hospital or treated at accident and emergency units for self-harm in 2015-16.

This compares with 16,416 admissions for self-harm in 2013-14

As a result of this article coming out, Harmless were contacted by various media sources, wanting to gather more information, or speak to individuals with lived experience or self harm, in order to provide some valuable insight into the causes of self harm, why people adopt this behaviour and also, most importantly, what can be done to support individuals in distress.

My first interview was with BBC Radio 5 live Breakfast Show, very early on Friday morning, speaking to Nicky Campbell and then I appeared on the drive time show later on in the day too, with Verity Cowley. Within this, I talked about my lived experience of self harm, but also my journey of recovery. It is important to provide hope to others. I shared many things, such as what led me to self harm, how it made me feel, but also, more generally the challenges that we, as a service, come across day in day out. I discussed the importance of having these conversations in order to breakdown the taboo around self harm. I also stated the importance of trying to understand self harm and what needs to happen to drive change.

If you want to listen to my piece on the Breakfast show or the drive time show, they can be heard on the links provided, http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b084crrn and http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p04gj501

International Volunteer’s Day

International Volunteer Day on 5 December was designated by the United Nations in 1985 as an international observance day to celebrate the power and potential of volunteering.

Here at Harmless, we are a Community and Voluntary service, so we truly understand the power that volunteering holds, bringing communities together and strengthens the bonds between people, working towards a common goal.

When Harmless launched The Tomorrow Project in 2012, it was brought about due to a need in the community. A small, rural village was in the grips of terrible grief following the loss of a number of people from the community to suicide, with nothing resembling adequate support in place the residents were left reeling from their losses without knowing where to turn.

Seeing and feeling the pain all around her, our CEO Caroline Harroe launched The Tomorrow Project, holding a meeting in a church hall to ask the community what it was that they needed, so the project could ensure that the bereaved were receiving the support they truly needed. This process, along with crowdsourcing the name of the project from the same community, means that The Tomorrow Project is fortunate to benefit from a close relationship with the people for whom it was established.

From this, we’ve have voluntary contributions from different people and groups in many different forms, from a bereaved family holding fundraising events that raised around £4,000, to sponsored runs and bike rides to telling the story of their experiences with Harmless/The Tomorrow Project and how they’ve moved from despair to hope, and all of these are equally important.

So we’d like to take the opportunity on this, the week of International Volunteers Day, to once again thank everyone who has given their time, energy and effort to help us to be able to reach further, build higher and support better those who in need. Those who have turned their own experiences into a source of strength and used that to help support others. 

On behalf of all of us here at Harmless and the Tomorrow Project, thank you all.

Harmless CEO, Caroline Harroe, selected for prestigious award as One of the Ten Outstanding Young People in the UK.

Tonight, our CEO, Caroline Harroe, will head to Manchester to receive her award as one of the JCI UK’s ten outstanding young people (TOYP).

JCI TOYP serves to formally recognise young people who excel in their chosen fields and create positive change. By recognising these young people, JCI raises the status of socially responsible leaders in this world. The honourees motivate their peers to seek excellence and serve others. Their stories of discovery, determination and ingenuity inspire young people to be better leaders and create better societies.

Nominated in the category of ‘Business, economic and entrepreneurial accomplishment’, her nominator says: “Caroline is an innovative social entrepreneur. She leads the service forwards driving change in the field, inspiring others, sharing compassion and ultimately valuing every life she touches in the hope that that life can be saved”.

Caroline says: “It’s a real privilege to be recognised as one of the award winners. I have dedicated my life, firstly to overcoming my own difficulties, but secondly in leading the way for others facing psychological struggle to overcome their difficulties and providing practical and innovative services to overcome their problems. I believe that hope is possible for anyone.

The last time that I had contact with services, I had attempted to take my life. No one felt more hopeless than I did right then. I had no job and saw no future. If that change is possible for me it is possible for anyone if they receive the right help and support and I now do my best to spread that message and design and deliver innovative sustainable services that can help save lives. I don’t think I do anything that we shouldn’t all be doing as a society but I am very honoured to have been recognised because it gives the vital work that we do the platform for people to talk about what we do.”

After Caroline receives her award at the event she will enter the global competition to be acknowledged as a world leader in her chosen field.

We are all very proud of Caroline and congratulate her on this latest award.

To find out more information about the JCI Ten Outstanding Young People, please click here

Celebrities are human too…

It’s very easy to feel that celebrities have it all, that they live a life of glamour and excitement, a life that many desire or aspire to.

Listening to the news this week reminded me that regardless of who we are, we are all human. A huge part of being human is not being perfect, something I know I’ve struggled with personally and is also something that is becoming more and more prominent as an issue within society.

However, we didn’t always worry about perfection.  When we were learning to walk we weren’t made to feel like failures every time we fell down. We were encouraged and supported. Somewhere along the line we develop this horrible standard that tells us failure is weakness and it’s just not true!

So I would like to remind us all that no one is invincible and that sometimes we all need support, encouragement and bravery.

 

Selena Gomez:

At the American music awards Selena Gomez made an inspirational speech revealing her struggle with depression and her recovery…

“But I kept it too much together to where I let myself down. I had to stop, because I had everything and I was absolutely broken inside.” 

“All I can say is I’m so grateful that I have the opportunity to be able to share what I love every day with people that I love.” 

For more visit: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/entertainment-arts-38048973

 

Kayne West:

Following the cancellation of all his remaining tour dates, an emergency services call was made and it appears Kayne West has been taken to hospital. Kardashian West’s mother, Kris Jenner, spoke to US media about the rapper’s reasons for cancelling his shows.

“He’s exhausted, he’s just really tired. He’s had a gruelling tour and it’s been a grind so he just needs some rest,” she told US TV show Extra.

For more visit: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-38060498

 

Ellen DeGeneres:

President Barack Obama bestowed the Medal of Freedom to some of the country’s best-known performers, scientists and athletes. Among them was Ellen DeGeneres who has brought so much joy into the world. But it was President Barack Obama who made us remember the huge amount of courage required by Ellen to come out on the most public of stages 20 years ago. 

“What an incredible burden that was to bear – to risk your career like that – people don’t do that very often. And then, to have the hopes of millions on your shoulders,” he said during the award ceremony at the White House.

For more visit: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/11/23/barack-obama-chokes-awards-ellen-degeneres-medal-freedom/

So next time you start criticising or judging yourself remember that everyone is human. 

#GiveMe5 – Double your £5 donation on Nov 29th and Dec 16th 2016 through Localgiving!

We just wanted to let you know that Harmless and the Tomorrow Project are taking part in Localgiving’s upcoming #GiveMe5 campaigns.

On November 29th and December 16th 2016, Localgiving will be matching 1000 X £5 donations.

  • 29th November is #GivingTuesday, a day when people around the world come together to give back.
  • 16th December is Local Charities Day,  a new government run celebration of small, local charities and community groups

Each campaign is open for 24 hours giving you the option to donate at a time that suits you. All £5 donations have the same chance of being matched. At the end of each campaign 1,000 donations will be randomly selected to benefit from an additional £5 of match funding, with successful donors being notified within 3 working days.

Please consider supporting us, you can visit our Localgiving page by clicking here!

If there’s anyone you know who might be interested in running a fundraising campaign for a local charity in the near future, then please let them know about Grow Your Tenner. There’s never been a better time to start fundraising!

Thank you for your support!

If you’d like to know more about #GiveMe5, please click here for full details.

Would you like to work for Harmless and The Tomorrow Project?

We are currently recruiting for a number of positions within the organisation to join our specialist self harm and suicide prevention team.

To download an application form and job description for each of the roles listed, please click the relevant links below. For more information please email info@harmless.org.uk or call 0115 934 8445 (admin line only). Please include which job you are applying for in your email.

Positions:

  • Therapist
  • Suicide Bereavement Project Worker
  • Suicide Crisis Project Worker

 

Applications close at 5pm on Monday 2nd January 2017.

 

First interviews to be held w/c 9th January 2017.

Second interviews to be held w/c 16th January 2017.

 

More information on all positions can be found at the following links:

 

To download our application form, please click here.

To download the job descriptions for each of the roles listed, please click the relevant link below:

What do we do when things go wrong?

Harmless is an enterprising solution to overcoming mental health distress and suicide, but it’s not always an easy thing to do.

The work that we do is hard. We are often faced with intense human suffering, difficult situations, high workloads and frustrating situations. We see trauma, wrangle with stigma and discrimination and find innovative solutions to drive change.

We also see triumph and joy and recovery.

We try to find a model that works for everyone: our wonderful team and our clients and our funders and commissioners.

Often we are caught between many things; between the wishes of our clients, the limitation of our resources, the priorities of our commissioners (which incidentally, is often not the same as that of our clients) and the aspirations for the future.

We work so tremendously hard to overcome these often irreconcilable issues. We are often revisiting our model, revisiting our clients and their needs and realigning our values and our vision to feasible goals.

And we don’t always get it right.

Saving lives is our goal. I don’t know how we do that perfectly, or how we do it without constantly refining how we do things.

We are not scared to try new things and we are not scared to say when it isn’t working, because our work isn’t about saving face but it is about preventing suicide and being effective and it is about reducing distress. It is about looking after our clients and team alike in order that we achieve our aims.

So keep talking to us and telling us what you need, and what you think we should be and how you think we should do things.

And if we get it wrong, we will change. And if you need more from us, we will try to provide it.

Help us to save lives.

If you would like more information on the services we provide and the support we can offer, please contact us by emailing info@harmless.org.uk.