Harmless is the Nevile Arms Charity of the Year 2020!

This morning our colleague Pippa visited the Nevile Arms in Kinoulton to meet with staff about the exciting news that they have made us their Charity of the Year. It’s a lovely local pub in a small village to the south-east of Nottingham which offers a friendly atmosphere, good food, and has a thriving community. Last year they held a vote on Facebook, and their followers overwhelmingly voted for us.

They say:

“In a society where more and more people are suffering from mental health problems, Raw Pubs Ltd are thrilled to announce that they are supporting Nottinghamshire social enterprise Harmless. Over the next 12 months we will aim to raise as much money as possible to help make a difference and raise funds for such a worthwhile cause.

As a business which serves a community, for some people, we may be the only people they see for days at a time! This is why, with the help of Harmless, we are planning to educate staff on the signs of mental health issues, suicide prevention and helping those at risk of self harm.

The next 12 months are going to be a really exciting time for Harmless and Raw Pubs to see what we can do in a partnership and try to help our community, as well as those who need the service Harmless provides.”

We are looking forward to returning there to talk about what we do, take part in their fundraising Music Quiz, and meet more of the staff and locals.

For more information about the Nevile Arms, see their facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/pg/NevileArmsKinoultonRP/

Thank you Happy Daze!

All of us here at Harmless & The Tomorrow Project would like to extend a big thank you to Alex and Craig Earley who run the Happy Daze shop in Beeston.

They have been doing some amazing fundraising in the form of a raffle over the past couple of months  to raise money for The Tomorrow Project.

They had a target of £500 but have totally smashed it to raise a fantastic £618 for our suicide prevention services!

Thank you to both Alex and Craig and to all those who purchased tickets for the raffle. Your amazing support really does help us to support more people in need and help us in our mission to save lives.

Want to know why you should get training with Harmless?

Harmless is a social enterprise. That means that we generate income to spend on social cause. Our social cause is saving the lives of people in distress.

Every day we see people who are at risk of suicide or who are contemplating ending their own life. We rarely get funding for this work.

Many years ago we had to decide whether or not we continue to try to save the lives of these people. The answer is obviously yes! However, in order to do so we have to make the money ourselves. This is why you should buy your training with our organisation. Not only does the training come with a high level of quality assurance and the content is responsive and useful; it actually saves lives. The money that we make through the sale of our training courses means that each day lives are saved.

So drop us a line and see how we can help you with your training needs whilst you see how you can help us to save the lives of those people who need us the most.

We look forward to working with you!

 

Email: training@harmless.org.uk

Phone: 0115 880 0281

A massive THANK YOU to Joey Collins and everyone involved

From everyone here at Harmless & The Tomorrow Project, we would like to extend our thanks to Joey Collins and all those involved in the mental health fundraiser which took place at Rough Trade in Nottingham last week.

The event brought together 5 music acts who put on a gig to support mental health and raise money for our services.

It is with support like this that we are able to continue supporting those in the community who need us most, helping us to create a brighter future for many.

The acts that performed on the night included:

The event helped to raise awareness of mental health while also raising money meaning we can help to support more people who self harm, are in suicide crisis or who have been bereaved by suicide. Your support really does save lives!

Introducing one of our new Therapists – Justina

Hi everyone!

My name is Justina and I joined Harmless team in October 2019 as a full-time therapist. I work in a Person-Centred way to provide psychotherapy to clients who are affected by self-harm and suicidal thoughts.

I thought I knew about the service before I joined Harmless, but it was just a tip of the iceberg. Although Harmless have limited resources, I have first-hand witnessed how our staff go far and beyond to support a wide range of clients. Providing therapy and project work for people who self-harm is just a small part of our job. I feel privileged to be a part of the small Harmless team and also belong to a much bigger team of suicide prevention officers, suicide bereavement support workers, mental health trainers, researchers, fundraisers, admins, and managers.

I particularly value the fact that Harmless is a user-led organisation that also provides bespoke training. This way, our clients are not only listened to and heard in therapy sessions, but they are also approached in person-centred way on a wider, organisational level. This is why I also believe in practice that is informed by research, and vice versa – practice that informs science by generating data from genuine lived experiences of our clients.

Here at Harmless, I am looking forward to supporting clients in therapy sessions and hoping to improve their experiences within the organisation by engaging in research, getting to know and cooperating with other services available in the area, collaborating with local and national organisations to drive change in the mental health sector.

I have learned a lot in just a few months of being here, and I am eagerly waiting to expand and deepen my knowledge much more in my future with Harmless!

Justina

‘You’re stronger than you think you are’ – One of our clients shares their journey towards recovery

I will never forget the date and exact time that my life imploded, 23 June 2018 at 2:55pm. My partner of 16 years came upstairs and looked perturbed, I followed him downstairs and asked if he was OK. “I can’t do this anymore” were the words that came out of his mouth “It’s over.”

Those words haunted me for a very long time, and still do to some extent. I would cry myself to sleep and wake up in tears with the words ringing in my ears. Whilst I didn’t initially move out of the home we had recently bought together, we lived separate lives and seeing him every day inevitably brought about much grief and anxiety.

I started to up my drinking and without warning, I spiralled very quickly and the inevitable happened, I took an overdose.

I woke up in an emergency room, hooked up to machines and cried when I realised what I had done, but more so that I had survived. Full of remorse and regret I went home and was visited by my local mental health team, who advised me that I needed help, but a psychiatrist appointment was two years away, and that I should consider going private. I wondered at the time how many people survive that two years.

The months that followed were tough, and as anniversaries came and went, my anxiety levels became worse and I made three more attempts. Thankfully I survived and am here to tell my story.

I was introduced to Harmless through a friend of a friend, who was seriously concerned about me. I went to my first meeting and met Katie. I don’t remember much about it, as I cried throughout and poured my heart out into the room. She sat patiently, never once interrupting and listened intently. I left Harmless that day, got in the car to drive to London for work, and cried again, but it was an outpouring of relief more than sorrow. I remember calling a friend and telling them that I’d made the first step to recovery.

Whilst the journey hasn’t been easy, the glimmer of a flickering light at the end of a very long and dark tunnel kept me going. I would visit Katie weekly, sometimes I would laugh and others I would cry, but she was there, listening and helping.

Since the New Year, I believe I have turned a corner. I have a new job; my confidence is higher, and I am enjoying life once again. Don’t get me wrong, there are bad days too, but I know what I must do now to escape that temporary dark place. I refer to the safety plan that Katie and I put together, I use distraction techniques she taught me, and I make plans to stay safe.

If it wasn’t for Harmless and the wonderful Katie, I wouldn’t be typing this today, and in simple terms I wouldn’t be here. I owe my life to this amazing organisation, and I will never ever forget that they saved my life.

Stay safe out there, and remember, it’s always OK, to say I’m not OK.

You’re stronger than you think you are.

Introducing Professor Tammi Walker – Speaker at our From Harm to Hope conference on 28th February 2020

Tammi is a Professor of Psychology at Teesside University. She is a Chartered Psychologist and Fellow of the British Psychological Society, Registered Senior Fellow with Advance HE and a mental health nurse by clinical background.

Tammi is the world’s leading authority on self-harm and suicide by women in prison and has published extensively on the topic. Her 2016 book Preventing Self-Injury and Suicide in Women’s Prisons (with Professor Graham Towl) is widely regarded as the most influential in forensic psychology.

At our conference on 28th February 2020, she will be presenting a session looking at ‘Women in Prison: Suicide, self-harm and the struggle for survival’.

If you are interesting in booking tickets to the conference, or would like further information, please visit www.harmless.org.uk/store/From-Harm-to-hope-conference-2020.

Or you can contact us by emailing admin@harmless.org.uk, or by calling 0115 880 0280.

Upcoming Catch up Cafe dates to be held in East Leake

Harmless & The Tomorrow Project will be running multiple Catch up cafe’s in East Leake over the upcoming months.
 
The catch up cafes are for those who would like to access some informal, drop in support from our service and for those who would like information about our service.
 
So whether you’d like some information on how we can support you or someone you know – if you’d like to come in and chat with a member of the team or to catch up with others – we will see you at the Catch up Cafe!
 
Upcoming dates:
 
For those aged 21 and under:
 
  • Thursday 23rd January 2020 – 11:30am to 12:30pm
  • Thursday 6th February 2020 – 3pm to 4pm
  • Thursday 26th March 2020 – 11am to 12pm
For those aged 18 and over:
 
  • Wednesday 29th January 2020 – 1pm to 2pm
  • Friday 21st February 2020 – 10:30am to 11:30am
  • Wednesday 11th March 2020 – 2:30pm to 3:30pm
These catch up cafes will be held in our East Leake office at: The Tomorrow Project, Unit 1, Lighting House, 3-5 Station Road, East Leake, Nottinghamshire, LE12 6LQ.

Upcoming Catch up Cafe dates to be held in Nottingham

Harmless & The Tomorrow Project will be running multiple Catch up cafe’s in Nottingham over the upcoming months.

The catch up cafes are for those who would like to access some informal, drop in support from our service and for those who would like information about our service.

So whether you’d like some information on how we can support you or someone you know – if you’d like to come in and chat with a member of the team or to catch up with others – we will see you at the Catch up Cafe!

Upcoming dates:

For those aged 21 and under:

  • Monday 27th January 2020 – 3pm to 4pm
  • Wednesday 19th February 2020 – 12:30pm to 1:30pm
  • Tuesday 10th March 2020 – 12:30pm to 1:30pm

For those aged 18 and over:

  • Thursday 23rd January 2020 – 11:30am to 12:30pm
  • Friday 14th February 2020 – 1pm to 2pm
  • Friday 13th March 2020 – 12:30pm to 1:30pm

These catch up cafes will be held in our Nottingham City office at: Harmless, 1 Beech Avenue, Sherwood Rise, Nottingham, NG7 7LJ.

Meet Helen, our new Suicide Bereavement Support Officer

Hello,

My name is Helen, I have recently joined the great team at Harmless as a suicide bereavement support officer for the Tomorrow Project. I am currently training to be a counsellor and I hope this will help me in my supporting role. Most of my previous experience has been people facing and connecting with people is something that I find is rich and rewarding. My background is varied from sales to health and fitness, so well-being is something that is of particular interest to me. This experience has given me an understanding of the importance of self- care, both physical and mental.

I am looking forward to supporting people through the tomorrow project.