The Tomorrow Project has been shortlisted for a People’s Projects award – we need your votes!

We are thrilled to announce that The Tomorrow Project has been shortlisted for a People’s Projects award in the Central East region. The People’s Projects is a partnership between the Big Lottery Fund, ITV, STV and The National Lottery that gives the public a say in awarding National Lottery funding to local projects across the UK. We have the chance to win a share of £150,000.

CLICK HERE TO VOTE FOR THE TOMORROW PROJECT!

The Tomorrow Project, run by Harmless, was set up in Nottinghamshire after a high number of suicides. The project offers support to individuals in crisis and at risk of suicide, as well as supporting those bereaved through suicide. Since 2012, we have had hundreds of referrals. Many of our clients have openly told us we’ve saved their lives.

We know that suicide is the second leading cause of death among 15-29 year olds globally, it is the leading cause of death in 5-49 year old males, and the most at-risk group are 40-44 year olds. But, did you know that there is a peak in suicides for those aged 75 and over? The risk of suicide in older adults is phenomenally high, and we want to do more to support them. Many existing therapeutic services exclude those who are suicidal, and most deaths to suicide occur in those who have no know mental health need.

Now more than ever, we need your support to help us win a share of the funding to sustain and expand our life-saving project. We need to offer individuals who are facing issues of isolation, relationship and employment challenges and health needs a safe place. With your vote, we can do just that.

Voting opens on Monday 16th April, and closes on Monday 30th April. Visit https://www.thepeoplesprojects.org.uk/projects/view/the-tomorrow-project to find our project, and look out for more information from us on our social media platforms, including stories from individuals supported through the project.

Could you write a blog for us?

Harmless would like to invite you to contribute to our blog. Our blog is important to us because it helps us convey a range of issues around self harm and suicide to the public. It helps us reach people in distress and promote better understanding about these issues among our readers.

It helps us tell you about our work, upcoming events, dispel myths and offer advice. But we also want it to challenge stigma and to offer real stories about self harm and recovery so that people reading this can feel connected to what we do and who we help.

If you would like to write a blog for us about your experiences, then you can submit this to info@harmless.org.uk with the title ‘blog post’. In your email, please tell us what name you would like us to use for you. You can say as little about your identity as you want.

The blog should be about 200 -300 words in length and shouldn’t be graphic in any way, but should offer the reader an insight into your experiences that mighty help them relate to self harm, distress, or suicide. The blog could be about what you’ve felt or experienced, what’s helped, or not helped… What needs to change, or what he stigma around these issues has been for you.

It is vital to harmless that we represent your voice and your experiences, so if you feel you can contribute to this blog, please do.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Self harm rates in UK detention centres and prisons

We know that self harm doesn’t discriminate. It can affect anyone, of any age, anywhere. There are frequently reports in the UK news about high rates of self harm in prisons, and we know that people are uniquely vulnerable when they are in contact with the criminal justice system.

In April 2018, The Independent reported that at least one person a day is self-harming in UK detention centres, and that 2017 saw the highest number of deaths in detainees on record, including six suicides. In addition, self harm incidents in prisons increased by 73% between 2012-16 and there were 120 suicides in prison in 2016 – this is the highest figure on record for any given year.

Cuts to funding and staff have left prisoners and detainees in a more vulnerable position than ever. We want to ensure that all professionals working with people who are at high risk of self harm and suicide are better equipped with the skills, knowledge and confidence to help provide support and promote recovery. Harmless’ Let’s Talk Training team provides courses on self harm awareness, suicide prevention, and mental health awareness. If you would like to find out more, please email us: training@harmless.org.uk

Pledge your commitment to suicide prevention and get training discounts in April

As an organisation we work tirelessly to work towards suicide prevention. You may not know, but all the training that we provide across the UK supports our work in suicide crisis and bereavement. We currently receive no funding towards The Tomorrow Project and every training session that we sell means that more people have access to our life saving support.

So, if you watched last week’s BBC1 Documentary #HardestRoadHome with Zoe Ball, you will have seen the importance of our work. If not, here’s a whistle stop tour.

Each week we see over 50 people who are in crisis; we help them with everything from housing to mental health. These are mostly people who cannot access help from anywhere else within current services and 75% are actively suicidal.

We have also seen hundreds of people bereaved by suicide. We usually provide help to these individuals within a few days of the tragic death that they are facing. The youngest person that we have worked with this year was only 4 years old when they came to us – they had lost their dad to suicide.

We work with people facing tremendous human pain, and we help them to face and overcome this – finding hope. Our pledge is to increase the standard and access to support and help to everyone affected by suicide in one way or another. This is a broad claim but WE WILL SAVE MORE LIVES.

Send us your pledge to suicide prevention and receive 10% off bookings on the list of courses below made in April – and with your permission we will share these pledges as we push forwards towards a collaborative approach to overcoming suicide.

All revenue from courses sold will continue our life saving work, so thank you!

Now… who’s going to be first?

The courses we offer:

** discount available on a first come first served basis and subject to availability.

To make a pledge or find out more about this fantastic offer, contact us via:

Phone: 0115 880 0281
Email: training@harmless.org.uk

Facebook:
@HarmlessUK
@HarmlessTheTomorrowProject
@Let’sTalkTraining

Twitter: 
@HarmlessUK
@Lifevsuicide
@Letstalknlearn

Robin Hood Lottery – support us!

We are really excited to announce we are officially part of the Robin Hood Lottery.

Robin Hood Lottery was created in 2018 by Mansfield District Council.

Set up to support community projects in the local area, the Robin Hood Lottery operates on the principle of raising money within the community for the community. They empower local good causes to raise money in a fun and effective way.

‘In a time of shrinking budgets and increased community need, Robin Hood Lottery enables people to support the causes they care most about, helping good causes to connect with their supporters.’

A ticket for the Robin Hood Lottery costs £1 per week and 60p will go directly to good causes.

First Robin Hood Lottery draw on Sat 28 April at 9PM

The draw is in 32 days 8 hours 25 minutes

Buy tickets here: https://www.robinhoodlottery.co.uk/support/harmless/buytickets

Memory jar donations appeal

Last week my colleague Katie and I met with 2 very special people. Meet Holly and Max. Max is 5 years old and loves trains, Holly is 8, she is shy, kind and always holds the door open you to pass through.

On this day we made memory jars. Holy and Max were so proud when they finished and excited to take the jars home.

We need your help to make more moments like these possible for all our clients.

If you have empty jam jars, some table salt or coloured chalk, please send it to our service, and support us bringing more happy smiles into our client’s lives.

 

To make 1 memory jar we need:

Empty jar (with lid)
Table salt
Coloured chalk
Paper
Cotton balls
String

Ana
Bereavement Support Officer

Give a helping hand to those who need it

Here at Harmless & the Tomorrow Project we provide lifesaving support to those who self harm and those who are at risk or bereaved by suicide. But we can only provide these services with your help.

Support from the community is vital, through means such as donations and fundraising. From these acts of generosity and kindness we are able to provide support to those who really need it, helping to create a real sense of hope for vulnerable people.

One off donations

If you would like to make a one off donation, you can do so through our LocalGiving pages at the following links:

Harmless: https://localgiving.org/charity/harmless/

Tomorrow Project: https://localgiving.org/charity/harmless/project/tomorrowproject/

Monthly donations

If you would like to continually support our work, you can set up a regular donation at this link: https://localgiving.org/donation/harmless/monthly

Fundraising

If you would like to become one of our fantastic fundraisers, whether you have an idea for a fundraising activity or would like to talk to us about how you can set one up, please contact us using the details at the end of this blog. Whether it be a sponsored sky dive, a coffee morning, or even a fun day, we would love to hear from you with your thoughts.

Contact us

If you would like to contact us about how you can support us or about the work we do, please contact us using any of the methods below:

Email: info@harmless.org.uk

Phone: 0115 880 0280

Facebook: @HarmlessUK or @harmlessthetomorrowproject

Twitter: @HarmlessUK or @lifevsuicide

In the News – ‘Find the courage to ask people how they are feeling’: Zoe Ball opens up about boyfriend Billy Yates’ suicide

Zoe Ball’s world changed the day her boyfriend Billy Yates was found dead at home after taking his own life aged just 40 after a long battle with depression.

Ten months on, Zoe, 47, admits she’s haunted by thoughts of why she couldn’t save him, having to tell herself each day that nothing more could have been done.

You can read the full article at the following link, including a short video, featuring some of the people that have been supported by the Tomorrow Project over the past few years: https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/find-courage-ask-people-how-12220922 

#HardestRoadHome

You may have seen that we have taken part in some filming with the wonderful Zoe Ball on her sport relief documentary – Hardest Road Home, which is shown on Wednesday 21st March 2018 at 9am.

If you would like to drop in and get some information about the service, we have a Catch up Café on Thursday 22nd March 2018 at 10.30am.

The catch up cafes are for those aged 18 and over who would like to come in, have a tea or coffee and get some support. We can also give you information about our services and the support we offer.

See you at the CUC

Bereavement by suicide – let’s stand together

In the UK in 2016 there we 6,188 reported suicides and that’s 6,188 more deaths than there should have been.  And with many towns in the UK not collecting suicide data unfortunately we expect this number will be much higher.  Suicide is the biggest killer in the UK- the second biggest killer of our young people- the largest cause of death to our men. And these shocking statistics are exactly why this is something we need to face together.

This is an alarming common problem we as society simply cannot ignore. With one in four of us also struggling with our mental health we can’t turn a blind eye. If 1 in 4 doesn’t seem ‘too’ substantial consider the wider impact on friends and family? That 1 in 4 is telling us that most of society will now be affected by this in some way. And with the 6,188 deaths to suicide, many of us will be affected directly or indirectly by a death that could have been completely avoided.

Grief after suicide isn’t like any kind of grief; it might have things in common. Huge loss and longing. Funerals. Crippling grief. But it also brings with it complexities that only traumatic loss ever brings. That’s not to say bereavement of any kind is easier or harder, just different and it is vital to acknowledge those differences.

With suicide, the person chose to die. They didn’t die because their bodies gave out, or because of a tragic accident. They chose to depart. And usually those left in their world struggle to understand how this loved human being, chose death over their life with us.

Whether the next day they would have still made that choice is left to be seen.

Whether if they’d had support in that moment, it would have been different, we will never know.

What they needed in order to stay, we cannot put right.

Suicide leaves unanswered questions and that is one of the hardest parts of bereavement by suicide. The only person that could answer those questions is gone.

The one thing that’s so consistent about suicide is that it as an avoidable tragedy that is hard to ever reconcile. It destroys lives. It is different for every single person that faces it, and people often struggle to share their thoughts about suicide – which is why I believe we should start now. Start today. Start talking.

It’s the simple and open conversations that save lives. Speaking openly about mental health with those around you makes it a topic that’s easier to bring up if someone is struggling. They know you won’t judge them, you will simply listen, heart open, full of understanding and compassion.  Too many people right now who are struggling with their mental health are made to feel isolated, worthless and ashamed. Together as a society we need to break down those stigmas, we need to get talking.

“It was nothing more than a cup of tea and a chat at the right time that saved my life”.

We need to stand together in a time which can feel lonely and disconnected and in doing so we will be making a difference to so many lives. If you’re a friend of someone struggling, the most valuable support you can provide is just being there to listen.

The Tomorrow Project is a primary care pathway and is able to support people that are having thoughts of suicide or those bereaved through suicide.  We provide emotional support – this can be a cup of tea (or coffee!) and a sit down to speak about how you are feeling and we offer practical support, this can be support with things such as housing and debt.

At the heart of our service is a real sense of hope that things can get better. Our job is to help you through difficulties you’re having, even if it’s just to give you somewhere safe to come and have a coffee and a chat with our team.

If you, or any one you know may need support – please us an email at crisis@tomorrowproject.org.uk or call us on 0115 880 0282. Please note, we ask that you leave a message and a support officer will get in touch with you within 1 working day.

Together we can make a difference. Together we can save lives.