Today is International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day

International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day is November 18, 2017

Survivor Day is a day when people affected by suicide loss can come together to find comfort and gain understanding as they share stories of healing and hope.

The word “suicide” is also not only an emotive word, but a stigmatized one. We are frequently reluctant to say this word and there’s also a fear of using it, of acknowledging it. I feel this can often be the case for anyone involved; the person themselves, friends and family talking to them about it, as well as professionals involved in their care.

The effects of a death by suicide can be much like a grenade. Like stone skipping, they can manifest themselves through a ripple effect, with the circle expanding further and further, new circles appearing, and many lives being affected.

Usually, there is not one experience that contributes to the reason someone takes their life; not a moment in time that drives them there but these complicated internal experiences in relation to every moment spent on earth that accumulate towards this fatal decision.

Yet, guilt is held in so many of the families, friends and colleagues that we see. The ‘what ifs’; the blame; the remorse; the guilt; the shame; the why?

Followed by anger. Agony. Disbelief.

It varies. It changes.

The one thing that’s so consistent about suicide is that it is an avoidable tragedy that is hard to ever reconcile. It destroys lives. It is different for every single person that faces it, and people often struggle to share their thoughts about suicide.

Suicide is the biggest killer in the UK– the second biggest killer of our young people- the largest cause of death to our men. In 2016 there were 6,188 suicides and that’s 6,188 more deaths than there should have been.

Let’s come today, on International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day, and bring hope. Let’s use this day to start conversations and let everyone know it’s OK to talk. We are here and we are listening.

Reaching out is not always the easiest thing to do, but we are here, and we want to help. If you need support you can refer in to us through a variety of different ways, you can call us on 0115 880 0280, e-mail us at bereavement@tomorrowproject.org.uk ask your doctor to get in touch with us, ask a friend, message us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or even if there’s someone you know who is struggling and you’d like to find out what support is available then please let us know.

Bereavement by suicide is uniquely devastating and we know how much impact this can have on family, friends, colleagues and the community. This isn’t something that anyone should have to face alone, and that’s why we’re here so please, let us be there for you.

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